What now?

[Rutherford The Brave]

As you can see I just joined and well I have a big question to ask you guys. I am currently dating this Beautiful girl and have been for 9 months. We, recently started having sex at first we argued about it, then the following night we started talking about having a Life together. To be honest Im 15 its not that I dont want to have a future with her its just that I don't think that its going to last. I guess my main question is am I making a huge mistake by putting money into her piggy bank for a apartment when we turn 18. Or is it even remotly possible that we as a couple could last that long. Also I fear that because I had sex with her I may have made a mistake because I don't feel like I was ready. Well, thanks for listening.

-KGTM

[Gumleaf]

its possible that you can last, but what interests me more is why you don't think it will last? doubts like this will cause you problems down the track. before you do any more with her, such as more sex and pooling money or whatever, you need to take a step back and think about why you think you might not last and whether its worth the risk both financially and emotionally for you to continue with her. good luck mate!

[Patchy]

right...firstly your 15 your still a minor and shouldnt really be worrying about moving in with your girlfriend when your 18, thats spoiling your childhood (I hate to use the word childhood however teenhood doesnt sound right) I know you love her a lot but at 15 theres only so much you can get attached to someone, you've probably got exams coming up etc. you shouldn't really plan this far ahead. Enjoy your time with her as a teenage relationship, it sounds right now she's wanting a adult style relationship, if your concerned talk to her about it say things are going too fast.

Remember a relationship is 2-way if you go along with what she is saying for so long, your relationship wouldnt ever be the same.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

As Stephen said, let's focus less on whether lasting is possible, and more on why you're not so sure? Your relationship could go either way, really, who knows for sure whether you'll last long enough to get an apartment with this girl or not. It sounds to me like you're not even sure you want to be with her that long. Maybe it's the typical, girl-talks-about-commitment-too-soon, guy-freaks-out scenario? If thats it, then don't worry. No one's getting an apartment with anyone for a long while. Just enjoy the relationship as it is for now and, if your girlfriend is asking you to invest too much money into this apartment business, suggest each keeping your own seperate banks (that way, if things don't work out, you get to keep your money xP).

[Close102]

if you dont think you will last then u probably wont and look at this. there are 3 or 4 years of stuff that could go wrong before then so i recomend dont have any more sex with her if you think it is going to make you comit to some one you dont think is going to last.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Thanks for responding guys. Well to be honest I want it to last, I love this girl and I think that there is something in it that I havent had before. It's not that Im freaking out as much as Im in a romeo and julliete type situation. My mom hates my girlfriend and her dad hates me. Its just that I hate thinking about the future in such cause Im afraid of what could go wrong. Once again thanks alot.

-KGTM

[dudesweet101]

Girls usually get attached to the first person they have sex with. Its just what happens. I seriously doubt that its gonna last that long. That a lifetime. You should just wait and see what happens and not keep ur hopes up for being together forever.

People break up all the time. 9 months is quite sometime but ur still young. Lots of fish in tha sea :)