John Scoop
February 11th, 2015, 03:01 PM
Hey guys, long time guest and first time poster, finally decided to give it a try.
K, so here's my deal. I met my best friend when we were 15, we were both starting out high school and she was new in my school, so me and a friend introduced her to our social group, no big deal there. As time went on, we started becoming closer and closer. We would talk or text for hours on the phone or skype. That went on for a long time until, around a year or so back, I developed strong feelings for her. They are REAL feelings. I love her so much, or, well i thought so. I waited for a month or 2 thinking it was just a crush, but when the feelings didnt go away, I knew it was real. So around last September, my school went on its annual trip, which included a 9 hour bus ride back and forth. It was great. We sat together, even cuddled for a while. We talked and talked all the way,and well, the rest of the trip went just as good. I was really convinced that she saw me that way too. Then, she started crying, after asking what was wrong, she told me that the guy whom she liked lived in that town, and didn't show up to the mall for a date. You could imagine how I felt. I was completely devastated for the rest of the trip. On the way back home, she noticed something was wrong and asked me what happened (at this point, she was still into the other guy, let just call him Z), I invented some story and just decided that these feelings would just go away. I talked to another very close friend how I felt about my best friend, let call her A. So, a while passed and December came. A was very much still into Z, since apparently he had recently started to talk to her again. I was still hurt by that, but never really cared that much about a relationship with her, I knew it wouldn't happen and I valued our friendship much more. I didn't need to take some of the final exams for that period, so I skipped the last week of classes or so. We texted during that time and I could tell that something was up, even though she denied it. December passed by and it was Christmas eve, when she finally told me that she knew about my feelings since the exam week cause she read it off my friend's cellphone. We talked about for an hour, she said she was sorry but that she really liked Z. I understood it. We didnīt talk for abut 15 days after that. When I approached again, things were different. It felt different. The hours of daily conversation turned to daily updates and awkward hellos. I was doing my best to get over my feelings, to get things back on track. Eventually I thought that things were ok, that my feelings were gone and it could all go back to normal.
Then we went back to school. She's in my class btw. First time I see her, I forget all about promising myself to get over her and get things back to normal. I tried to approach again, but there was like a barrier between us now. She had started to get more and more involved with Z. After a couple of weeks where I pretended everything was normal, she said something was wrong with me, and I lied again. This time she got angry. We didn't talk for about a week. After talking about it to some of my close friends, I decided I needed to tell her what was going on. So I did. I told her how I felt about her, how much I cared for her and how much I liked her. I told her I was sorry that my attitude had changed our friendship and things were so awkward. I told her I understood the fact that she didn't see me that way, that I wished that things would go well between her and Z, and that I needed to say that. I was completely honest with her. She responded, "ok, thx, srry" and disconnected. Yeah, I cried a lot that day.
Couple of days later, she starts trying to act friendly to me again. After that event, my feelings for her started goin away. At that point, I was just glad that we could still be friends again. For a week, things were back on track, we talked for hours on the phone, the barrier was gone, everything was great. I was doing my best to make my feelings go away and just appreciate our friendship, and I truly was succeding. Then, a couple of days ago, she gets angry at me for no reason, saying I don't trust her and that I'm pretending to be ok. I tried talking to her in the afternoon but she pushed me away, insulting me and all. Whatever, I gave her the whole day to calm down and talked to her in the night. She said she was sorry and thanked me for tolerating stuff like that (which she occasionally pulls on me). She said that anyone else would have been very angry with her and would send her away. I told her I thought about it, but decided not to. I took the chance to say some things to her. That I thought our friendship wasn't fair, that I always gave way too much and she gave almost nothing in return. That I wasn't a guy she had met yesterday to justify only saying, k, thx when I told her how I felt. That, if we left the fact out that I saw her that way, what we had wasn't fair. Well, she lost it. She said that she decides if she talks to me or not, if she is nice to me or not and that she isn't doing anything for charity. That our relationship will never be fair because I see her that way, and that she was sorry for not being the friend I wanted, but that she wasn't gonna change.
We haven't talked since. Some of my close friends know about what happened and they have all pointed out to one thing, something that deep down I know I have to do: cut her off.
We were best friends, I'm gonna recognize that. But after what she's done, how she has treated me, I don't think she deserves being my friend. I have literally spent hundreds of hours with this girl everytime when she's feeling down, expecting nothing in return, only to get a, k thx?!
I didn't want things to come to this extreme, but sometimes things happen. Any advice guys?
K, so here's my deal. I met my best friend when we were 15, we were both starting out high school and she was new in my school, so me and a friend introduced her to our social group, no big deal there. As time went on, we started becoming closer and closer. We would talk or text for hours on the phone or skype. That went on for a long time until, around a year or so back, I developed strong feelings for her. They are REAL feelings. I love her so much, or, well i thought so. I waited for a month or 2 thinking it was just a crush, but when the feelings didnt go away, I knew it was real. So around last September, my school went on its annual trip, which included a 9 hour bus ride back and forth. It was great. We sat together, even cuddled for a while. We talked and talked all the way,and well, the rest of the trip went just as good. I was really convinced that she saw me that way too. Then, she started crying, after asking what was wrong, she told me that the guy whom she liked lived in that town, and didn't show up to the mall for a date. You could imagine how I felt. I was completely devastated for the rest of the trip. On the way back home, she noticed something was wrong and asked me what happened (at this point, she was still into the other guy, let just call him Z), I invented some story and just decided that these feelings would just go away. I talked to another very close friend how I felt about my best friend, let call her A. So, a while passed and December came. A was very much still into Z, since apparently he had recently started to talk to her again. I was still hurt by that, but never really cared that much about a relationship with her, I knew it wouldn't happen and I valued our friendship much more. I didn't need to take some of the final exams for that period, so I skipped the last week of classes or so. We texted during that time and I could tell that something was up, even though she denied it. December passed by and it was Christmas eve, when she finally told me that she knew about my feelings since the exam week cause she read it off my friend's cellphone. We talked about for an hour, she said she was sorry but that she really liked Z. I understood it. We didnīt talk for abut 15 days after that. When I approached again, things were different. It felt different. The hours of daily conversation turned to daily updates and awkward hellos. I was doing my best to get over my feelings, to get things back on track. Eventually I thought that things were ok, that my feelings were gone and it could all go back to normal.
Then we went back to school. She's in my class btw. First time I see her, I forget all about promising myself to get over her and get things back to normal. I tried to approach again, but there was like a barrier between us now. She had started to get more and more involved with Z. After a couple of weeks where I pretended everything was normal, she said something was wrong with me, and I lied again. This time she got angry. We didn't talk for about a week. After talking about it to some of my close friends, I decided I needed to tell her what was going on. So I did. I told her how I felt about her, how much I cared for her and how much I liked her. I told her I was sorry that my attitude had changed our friendship and things were so awkward. I told her I understood the fact that she didn't see me that way, that I wished that things would go well between her and Z, and that I needed to say that. I was completely honest with her. She responded, "ok, thx, srry" and disconnected. Yeah, I cried a lot that day.
Couple of days later, she starts trying to act friendly to me again. After that event, my feelings for her started goin away. At that point, I was just glad that we could still be friends again. For a week, things were back on track, we talked for hours on the phone, the barrier was gone, everything was great. I was doing my best to make my feelings go away and just appreciate our friendship, and I truly was succeding. Then, a couple of days ago, she gets angry at me for no reason, saying I don't trust her and that I'm pretending to be ok. I tried talking to her in the afternoon but she pushed me away, insulting me and all. Whatever, I gave her the whole day to calm down and talked to her in the night. She said she was sorry and thanked me for tolerating stuff like that (which she occasionally pulls on me). She said that anyone else would have been very angry with her and would send her away. I told her I thought about it, but decided not to. I took the chance to say some things to her. That I thought our friendship wasn't fair, that I always gave way too much and she gave almost nothing in return. That I wasn't a guy she had met yesterday to justify only saying, k, thx when I told her how I felt. That, if we left the fact out that I saw her that way, what we had wasn't fair. Well, she lost it. She said that she decides if she talks to me or not, if she is nice to me or not and that she isn't doing anything for charity. That our relationship will never be fair because I see her that way, and that she was sorry for not being the friend I wanted, but that she wasn't gonna change.
We haven't talked since. Some of my close friends know about what happened and they have all pointed out to one thing, something that deep down I know I have to do: cut her off.
We were best friends, I'm gonna recognize that. But after what she's done, how she has treated me, I don't think she deserves being my friend. I have literally spent hundreds of hours with this girl everytime when she's feeling down, expecting nothing in return, only to get a, k thx?!
I didn't want things to come to this extreme, but sometimes things happen. Any advice guys?