Ummm.... What Even Am I?

[GregM0499]

Okay, so I've always thought of myself as a nonbinary gender. I mean, I'm more male than female, and I thought that I was gender fluid but now I'm not so sure. Now, it's like whenever I am called "he" it's not appropriate, but I don't find she to be appropriate either. I can't quite explain it, but does anyone else feel this way? Like what am I?

[hannahxo13]

It is totally understandable to feel this way, I've had friends who've had this experience. You could consider other pronouns like "they". It's whatever you're comfortable with, and I know it's a process. I'm 18 and just figured out that pansexual best describes me, and I've only told one person haha so I know how it feels to find this all confusing. I hope you can find something that makes you comfortable and that you feel fits who you are! Good luck and I'm here if you need anything!

[Calliope]

Don't worry, plenty of people feel the way you do. You may feel more comfortable using gender neutral pronouns. The most popular gender neutral pronouns are they/them/themself, but here's (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender-specific_and_gender-neutral_pronouns#Summary) a list of some alternatives. You can also just Google "gender neutral pronouns."

If you really can't find any pronouns that suit you, you can always use no pronouns at all. Just use your name instead, for example, instead of "he went to the store," it would be "[your name] went to the store."

EDIT: I also forgot to add - your pronouns have nothing to do with your gender. So if you feel that you're genderfluid, then you are.

[DoodleSnap]

As everyone else has said: it is perfectly okay to feel this way. What is most important is that you feel comfortable with yourself, so don't feel embarassed to ask your friends/family to try to use gender neutral pronouns when speaking about you. Many others feel the way you do, and whatever label you use, just remember that what you make of it is more important than anyone else's misunderstandings.

[SethfromMI]

no one here will be able to tell you for sure who you are. we can try to give you some things to think about, but at the end of the day you have to come to your own conclusions

[Arkansasguy]

Okay, so I've always thought of myself as a nonbinary gender. I mean, I'm more male than female, and I thought that I was gender fluid but now I'm not so sure. Now, it's like whenever I am called "he" it's not appropriate, but I don't find she to be appropriate either. I can't quite explain it, but does anyone else feel this way? Like what am I?

When you were born, were you regarded as a boy or a girl?

[GregM0499]

When you were born, were you regarded as a boy or a girl?
A guy, but I'm not cisgender so...

And thanks for the responses guys!

[Arkansasguy]

A guy

Well there you go.

[Lovelife090994]

Well there you go.

That's his sex not his gender. Personally I am male but gengerqueer.

[Arkansasguy]

That's his sex not his gender. Personally I am male but gengerqueer.

That's rather like distinguishing between synonyms and words that mean the same thing.

[Lovelife090994]

That's rather like distinguishing between synonyms and words that mean the same thing.

Gender and sex can be synonymous for your sex, biologically speaking. However, sex is not a good use for gender in terms of your psychology. So yes, gender can be synonymous for sex, like I am male, I am biologically male, yet I am not a guy, I am bi-gender and queer. See? The words aren't really synonymous.

[Arkansasguy]

Gender and sex can be synonymous for your sex, biologically speaking. However, sex is not a good use for gender in terms of your psychology. So yes, gender can be synonymous for sex, like I am male, I am biologically male, yet I am not a guy, I am bi-gender and queer. See? The words aren't really synonymous.

Except they are. A person's gender is their biological sex, facts like this aren't dependent on how someone feels.

[Lovelife090994]

Except they are. A person's gender is their biological sex, facts like this aren't dependent on how someone feels.

No.. We're not on the same page. You can be male and genderfluid. I myself prefer feminine pronouns but I am bigender and have a feminine alter ego, so either works.

[Luminous]

Please stay on topic next time. I had to delete many posts. If it is continued there will be warnings handed out.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Okay, so I've always thought of myself as a nonbinary gender. I mean, I'm more male than female, and I thought that I was gender fluid but now I'm not so sure. Now, it's like whenever I am called "he" it's not appropriate, but I don't find she to be appropriate either. I can't quite explain it, but does anyone else feel this way? Like what am I?

I think maybes you need some time to define yourself for yourself. If you feel uncomfortable with the HE then you can maybe just try and introduce yourself.

whatever other people label you it is how you define yourself that counts.

Not easy and I hope you find what you need.

[Skaterdude1998]

Me im all dude and i love being that way. You are who you feel most comfortable being. You want to be a female named Linda then do it if your comfortable being a guy do it.You will find out who you are as time goes on man. Whoever you decide to be is ok/