My cousin.

[Leprous]

So before getting to the main problem some backstory will be needed otherwise nobody will understand.

He's adopted, severe ADD, and his 'parents' never blame him, and it's very complicated. Basicly getting mad at him may mean the entire family getting messed up because of his 'parents'.

Anyways. This guy always picks on me and one of my female cousins. We both hate his guts but can't do anything about it.
Today was worse than any other day I had to see him.

He insulted me multiple times, threatened to put a pic of me on facebook where in caps, in a large red font he wrote "homo". Doesn't seem too bad eh? Could be worse eh? He's breaking my grandmother's stuff, always claims I'm wrong, pretends he's better than me and always says how pathetic I am and how I'll never have a happy relationship.

That last bit hurts way too much because I've had 2 horrible relationships with abusive exes.

I can't do anything about it, he's 14 and able to fuck up the entire family only by pissing me off, and yeah, just needed to put this out here. My parents know everything I just said, and this has been going on for years now.

Sooo, any advice that may help me the slightest to deal with this fuck?

[SethfromMI]

wow that is tough. because he is family it sounds like you can't just ignore him. if he does have ADD then it is not all his fault but I dunno. have you tried talking to your aunt and uncle (his parents?)

[Leprous]

wow that is tough. because he is family it sounds like you can't just ignore him. if he does have ADD then it is not all his fault but I dunno. have you tried talking to your aunt and uncle (his parents?)

There's the complicated part.

His father is my godfather and his mother's a bitch. If you dare to say anything bad about their son they will never believe it and blame you instead. There's my family for you.

[SethfromMI]

There's the complicated part.

His father is my godfather and his mother's a bitch. If you dare to say anything bad about their son they will never believe it and blame you instead. There's my family for you.

oh you're just not in a very good situation and sadly, it does not sound like there is a whole lot you can do. It is a toughie for you, I wish there was more to say

[Leprous]

oh you're just not in a very good situation and sadly, it does not sound like there is a whole lot you can do. It is a toughie for you, I wish there was more to say

Well, thanks for replying. I'll just deal with it for aslong as I have to see him.

[SethfromMI]

Well, thanks for replying. I'll just deal with it for aslong as I have to see him.

sadly that is one of your only few options right now. when you get old enough you will be able to move and not have to deal with it anymore

[Leprous]

sadly that is one of your only few options right now. when you get old enough you will be able to move and not have to deal with it anymore

Hopefully that's what'll happen.

[kanine]

Of I were you id do my best to block him out of any social situation with me. And beg my parents to talk to his because that's kind of screwed up.

[Leprous]

Of I were you id do my best to block him out of any social situation with me. And beg my parents to talk to his because that's kind of screwed up.

As I said before, his parents will never accept the fact he is wrong and I am right.

[Straya]

As I said before, his parents will never accept the fact he is wrong and I am right.

you can always just say you dont wanna see him anymore. iv cut ties with alot of my family just cause i didnt wanna deal with there bullshit and they didnt wanna change the way they treated me but it hasnt stoped my parents from still seeing that family. i just dont go with them to visit those family memebers and if those family members are coming over my house i just go over a friends till there gone. you gotta do whats best for you

[Leprous]

you can always just say you dont wanna see him anymore. iv cut ties with alot of my family just cause i didnt wanna deal with there bullshit and they didnt wanna change the way they treated me but it hasnt stoped my parents from still seeing that family. i just dont go with them to visit those family memebers and if those family members are coming over my house i just go over a friends till there gone. you gotta do whats best for you
Yeah, well....my parents won't allow that. And the rest of my family is great actually, just that one asshole.

[JLi99]

Have you told your parents about him? What's their reaction? Try to do something along with your female cousin, who also hates him. Together you can achieve more

[Straya]

Yeah, well....my parents won't allow that. And the rest of my family is great actually, just that one asshole.

my mum wasnt too happy about it either but i just said would you make me hang around a bully at school because this situation is no different just because hes family dosent mean you have to put up with his bullying

[Leprous]

Have you told your parents about him? What's their reaction? Try to do something along with your female cousin, who also hates him. Together you can achieve more

As I mentioned in my first post on this thread, they do. We can't do anything against him because that'll make it worse.

Straya I'm not kidding when I say I can't stop seeiing them.

[Abhorrence]

Why don't you record him being an asshole? Then the parents can't exactly deny it's happening.

[Isabella_]

Sneak a beer and splash it on him then yell out "hey don't drink beer in my room!!" Or something so the parents here and smell it on them

[Isabella_]

Run away from him passed your parents with your pants down and shout "<his name> don't touch me there you asshole! I said I wasn't gay too!" or something like that

[Failed Algebra]

tough situation. so you can't really do anything with his adopted parents (not surprising they are defensive about him, but you know that they fully see the problem, it's just impossible for them to deal with it...it's hard for them too). But you can just limit your dealings with him and do the best you can to get your parents on your side. in other words, you can't solve the problem but you can make it 30% better.