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[Char1999]

So me and my boyfriend have been getting a little more towards the final goal of having full sex recently but every time we nearly get there I am overcome with fear about the point at which he will break my hymen. I am terrified that its going to hurt beyond anything and I am terrified that I am not going to be able to deal with the pain and all the other sensations, the fullness etc:- He is about average in girth but smallish in length.

What does it feel like right at the moment a boy enters you for the first time? What did you do in those first few seconds as your first boy entered you? Do you have any tips for staying calm and dealing with that moment and the moments after?

Help!

[twirlgurl]

Like a horror movie. Extreme Agony and torment!! Blood and guts spraying all over everything!! :)

I honestly have Zero clue...but ^^ that's what i keep telling myself so I dont spoil my virginity just because im curious.

[kryptonite]

If you're worried, it's too early. Take that worry as a sign that you're not 100% ready.

[suzzysmith2012]

Have you thought of possibly popping your cherry yourself? Like with a hairbrush or dildo or something? I know it might not be as special or seem the same on your first time with your hymen already broken, but then at least you don't have to be worried about that part, and be more relaxed. That's what I did.

[emily-candace]

Im with twirlgirl on this one.

[Claire Asteroid]

I don't know but I want to wait too. I can't really imagine having a dick go in me yet its a bit scary.

[hannahxo13]

It honestly hurt, but it wasn't the end of the world. It only hurts the first time, after that it's fun and it feels amazing. If you are really worried, maybe you aren't 100% ready yet. Don't rush into anything, it's supposed to be a good experience! Good luck!

[biancachica]

You actually dont break your hymen you stretch it from what I understood from sex ed. If you want to avoid too much pain, you can try masturbating, but Ive been told that if you are active physically, chances are its already stretched.
However, to be honest, my first time was very painful. he was average but it still hurt probably because Im quite small. Just be sure to go very very slowly and try to relax. Also I would try to use lube. If you want to control the penetration I would suggest you be on top because only you know if it hurts. however you can also let him be on top and lay on the bed and just relax your whole body. But really if you are too scared I would rush into having sex
The first time my bf entered me I was in pain and pushed him right out. The first time he actually just entered me a couple of inches cause it hurt to much to go deeper. And the first time feels kinda weird cause its bigger than you are used to. But with time you get used to the size and hurts much less.

[Akatosh]

Bit of a different experience: my first time didn't hurt at ALL. It was pleasurable. The hymen breaking is a bit of a myth; the hymen stretches, and there should be no blood unless you aren't properly lubricated.

[Elysium]

Have you thought of possibly popping your cherry yourself? Like with a hairbrush or dildo or something? I know it might not be as special or seem the same on your first time with your hymen already broken, but then at least you don't have to be worried about that part, and be more relaxed. That's what I did.
That's not how the hymen works. At all.

[Daniella98]

So me and my boyfriend have been getting a little more towards the final goal of having full sex recently but every time we nearly get there I am overcome with fear about the point at which he will break my hymen. I am terrified that its going to hurt beyond anything and I am terrified that I am not going to be able to deal with the pain and all the other sensations, the fullness etc:- He is about average in girth but smallish in length.

What does it feel like right at the moment a boy enters you for the first time? What did you do in those first few seconds as your first boy entered you? Do you have any tips for staying calm and dealing with that moment and the moments after?

Help!

It only hurts one time to be stabbed by his sword :-p
Its not so bad. Not to me at least

[Char1999]

Have you thought of possibly popping your cherry yourself? Like with a hairbrush or dildo or something? I know it might not be as special or seem the same on your first time with your hymen already broken, but then at least you don't have to be worried about that part, and be more relaxed. That's what I did.

I have but I am too young to get a sex toy and tbh the thought of using a hair brush gives me the sweats from all the stories I have heard about getting an infection down there.

[Isabella_]

Get s banana or something - a little one lol and roll a condom on it - then no infection risk and you are in control and it's not hard plastic

[lilg]

I have but I am too young to get a sex toy and tbh the thought of using a hair brush gives me the sweats from all the stories I have heard about getting an infection down there.

Just make sure you clean it first and it'll be fine. lots of girls i know use their hairbrush and they've never gotten one from it

[Jennboh]

Just make sure you clean it first and it'll be fine. lots of girls i know use their hairbrush and they've never gotten one from it

yeah. i fuck myself with a hairbrush a lot and ive never gotten an infection. Just keep it clean.

[Char1999]

Ok, thanks for the advice girls, I am going to give it a try tonight and will see how it goes. Should I think about using some kind of lubricant or does that sort of defeat the point? And on a slightly side note can any of you guys actually orgasm just from penetration or do you need clitoris stimulation as well? Thanks.

[Lottie]

It hurt a little for me, but not unbearable and it didn't last long before it just felt good

[Jennboh]

Ok, thanks for the advice girls, I am going to give it a try tonight and will see how it goes. Should I think about using some kind of lubricant or does that sort of defeat the point? And on a slightly side note can any of you guys actually orgasm just from penetration or do you need clitoris stimulation as well? Thanks.

depends on how wet your pussy gets. i get really wet when im horny, so i dont need lube, but you might. and i can orgasm from both. i cum hardest from penetration though.

[churris]

So me and my boyfriend have been getting a little more towards the final goal of having full sex recently but every time we nearly get there I am overcome with fear about the point at which he will break my hymen. I am terrified that its going to hurt beyond anything and I am terrified that I am not going to be able to deal with the pain and all the other sensations, the fullness etc:- He is about average in girth but smallish in length.

What does it feel like right at the moment a boy enters you for the first time? What did you do in those first few seconds as your first boy entered you? Do you have any tips for staying calm and dealing with that moment and the moments after?

Help!

Hi :) a bit of a different opinion here. For me, it only hurt the first seconds. Literally, I was on top, went slow, stayed still for a bit and he let me control the situation. Then it was fine. It doesn't hurt for everybody, so that thing they say that it HAS to hurt and you HAVE to bleed is a completely myth.

About your hymen- it doesn't pop, it doesn't break, nobody can know if you have had sex or masturbated with a toy, so don't worry about it. Just try to have a lot of foreplay before the act itself, it will relax your body, and it'll take your mind somewhere else. If you don't feel ready, then don't do it yet. I normally feel calmer when I research things, so maybe that can help you.

And one more thing, you didn't ask but I have to say- remember to use protection, girl, and have fun :)

[rachel_ballet]

Hi :) a bit of a different opinion here. For me, it only hurt the first seconds. Literally, I was on top, went slow, stayed still for a bit and he let me control the situation. Then it was fine. It doesn't hurt for everybody, so that thing they say that it HAS to hurt and you HAVE to bleed is a completely myth.

About your hymen- it doesn't pop, it doesn't break, nobody can know if you have had sex or masturbated with a toy, so don't worry about it. Just try to have a lot of foreplay before the act itself, it will relax your body, and it'll take your mind somewhere else. If you don't feel ready, then don't do it yet. I normally feel calmer when I research things, so maybe that can help you.

And one more thing, you didn't ask but I have to say- remember to use protection, girl, and have fun :)

I think that that is great advice, especially using protection!
I'm still a virgin and I have the same fear that it's really gonna hurt a lot when a guy first puts it in!
I've seen my BFs (we've done some things, just not sex) and it's not really long, but it has a big head at the end!
I had always thought the same thing that it ripped!
I'm not sure if this was mentioned, but would it help if you have him finger you first?
I also agree with others that said if you're not 100% ready then you should wait!

[churris]

I think that that is great advice, especially using protection!
I'm still a virgin and I have the same fear that it's really gonna hurt a lot when a guy first puts it in!
I've seen my BFs (we've done some things, just not sex) and it's not really long, but it has a big head at the end!
I had always thought the same thing that it ripped!
I'm not sure if this was mentioned, but would it help if you have him finger you first?
I also agree with others that said if you're not 100% ready then you should wait!

Yes, it helps. Anything that relax you, does ;)