Opinions on Virginity?

[Meh Guy]

I'd like to get everyone's thoughts on this. It is a pretty big aspect of the teenager's life. From the onset of puberty it is one of, if not the most, pressuring things in some of our lives. My question: why? what is so great about having sex at age 13 versus age 20+? Sure you can brag but that will go away once you're on your own and no one cares. I would rather lose it when I'm ready and with someone special(not to say that I didn't).

Your opinions are very welcomed.

[the darkness]

I feel as if my friend takes the piss occasionally because I'm still a virgin, he asked me the other day despite the answer being pretty much common sense. Guys like to boast I think as it makes them 'cool', whereas it makes a girl a slut.

[blimpy]

Personally i think that it doesnt really matter i am a virgin and i never get made fun of for it.

[Straya]

i lost mine young but i didnt brag about it and i dont belive in waiting for the special someone thing because its not exactly a special act iv done plenty of tings that feel better lol its just abit of fun

[HououinKiyoma]

@Mehguy it was a great question!
I haven't lost it yet and I really want to but based on my last post's respone i guess I should wait till I find the right prerson.. Not do it because it sounds cool

[Hideous]

Virgin or not, it does not make you less or more of a better person. If you had sex, good for you, if you didn't, good for you too. I just know that everyone has a different take on this as well as their partner. If I did have sex with a guy, it will not stop me from looking for a true, healthy, relationship, nonetheless. My sex life, usually, is no one else's business but mine. I wouldn't date a guy who doesn't like me simply because I'm not a virgin.

I'd say it's because they want to feel something they haven't already felt, knowing that they're not ready, they still do it anyways. A sense of accomplishment. As many regret, you can't re-write the past and again, it does not change who you are.

[suzzysmith2012]

I lost mine at 12, (yes I was young) but I knew full well what I was doing and what I wanted, and have no regrets loosing it when I did or to the person to who I did. So I'm happy loosing it when I did, but at the same time it wouldn't bother me at all being a virgin still today, and I'd still be happy.
Teens should not feel pressured at all into to loosing their viginity just because, wait till you ready, and with the person you feel is right and best, and you'll probably be much happier down the road. You'd be better off waiting then regretting it.

[Beth]

I'm still a virgin and happy.

[Katie96xox]

Having sex feels really great obviously and to share it with the person you really love makes it all the better. For me I think the more times I have sex with my girlfriend the better. I first had sex aged 16 and as soon as we were finished I thought to myself I wish I'd done this earlier rather than waited as long as I did. Everyone will have different thoughts on when to lose it but I reckon that as soon as you find someone you want to sleep with to go for it without hesitation, with their consent that is ;)

[chiisaiaoiryu]

I'd like to get everyone's thoughts on this. It is a pretty big aspect of the teenager's life. From the onset of puberty it is one of, if not the most, pressuring things in some of our lives. My question: why? what is so great about having sex at age 13 versus age 20+? Sure you can brag but that will go away once you're on your own and no one cares. I would rather lose it when I'm ready and with someone special(not to say that I didn't).

Your opinions are very welcomed.

I would say that having sex at 13 would be more, for lack of a better word, mindblowing. I don't think many 13 year olds would know a lot about their body and the certain feelings regarding masturbation; I would think even less would know anything about how anal sex feels. In that respect, losing virginity at that young an age is great because of the plethora of otherwise unknown sexual feelings.

(Note that I'm not taking into consideration peer pressure. Having sex just so you can brag is just plain stupid no matter how amateurish/experienced one is with sex.)

In contrast with having sex for the first time at a "legal age" (law considers that to be 18), a person would probably have had more time to explore the sensations of various styles of sex. Masturbation would be something they are most likely quick to understand in terms of sensations, and some might have tried to practice anal on themselves. Long story short, "legal age" people having sex for the first time would have better preparation for potential feelings and might not be so wonderfully overwhelmed by the great feelings of sex.

I would say that's what the difference is between 13 year old and "legal age" sex. The only great thing I would say is best to have sex at so young an age is the increased sensitivity to most if not all things sexual. I won't say anything about sense of responsibility since 13 year olds rarely have that advanced of a mindset. That and some "legal age" people fail to gain that level of responsible insight.

[cami]

I lost it at 12, I don't regret it and I'm happy ^^

[sheep_shagger_55]

it is what it is...im still a virgin and could not care less

[The captain]

still virgin and happy..really wanna make love not just have sex,so I want wait

[sheep_shagger_55]

still virgin and happy..really wanna make love not just have sex,so I want wait

what dis guy said

[Omniscient]

I've lost mine and I honestly wish that I'd waited. The guy I did it with was fine, but it ruined my friendship with him. It also wasn't all that special, which devalues it so much.
I just wish that I wasn't a horny idiot and just waited...

[Melodic]

I haven't lost mine. I probably could if I wanted to. But honestly, having sex at the moment freaks me out. So I guess I'd say I'm happy I haven't lost it yet.

[CanadianJake]

I'm still a virgin. A part of me wants to lose mine but another part doesn't, I'd rather hang onto it for awhile and just wait. But as for other people wanting/doing it early, it doesn't matter. If it makes you happy and like doing it then there's no problem. We're all human beings and sex is a natural habit along humans, so I don't understand why so many people judge someone when they have sex like name calling them etc. But either way sex is a natural part of life.

[Meh Guy]

It pretty much seems like a 50/50 split between losing it and not losing it. I guess I should've expected this :P

[Ivorystick]

Not a virgin, wasn't very good when started but gave me condfidence for the next girl. Just do it when you feel you're ready, don't be pressured

[Unknwn]

I'm 18 and still a virgin. I've always been kind of a quiet and shy kid so I haven't been in any serious relationships yet. I'm pretty sure most of my friends have already lost their's, and I guess sometimes I do get kinda bummed out that I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend, but overall it's just something that's not too big of a deal for me. I am not really eagerly seeking out to loose it, and I'm kinda okay knowing that I'm still a virgin. Maybe someday I'll loose it, maybe not, but for right now it's not that important to me.

[Zachary G]

I lost mine when I was 12 and sometimes I wish I would have waited until I was a bit older, but at the same time I knew what it was I wanted and was fully informed on what was happening.

"Teens should not feel pressured at all into to loosing their viginity just because, wait till you ready, and with the person you feel is right and best, and you'll probably be much happier down the road. You'd be better off waiting then regretting it. "

[Failed Algebra]

me=virgin. and i don't feel pressured about it. none of my close friends have lost theirs either. i think if you do it at an early age it can mess you up; i'm not trying to pass judgment, just saying it might lead to problems or be evidence of problems.

[Meh Guy]

I lost mine when I was 12 and sometimes I wish I would have waited until I was a bit older, but at the same time I knew what it was I wanted and was fully informed on what was happening.

"Teens should not feel pressured at all into to loosing their viginity just because, wait till you ready, and with the person you feel is right and best, and you'll probably be much happier down the road. You'd be better off waiting then regretting it. "

When I read 12 and fully informed, it reminded me of my brother's school, which has mandatory sex Ed classes starting at grade 4. On one side, it may be informing them, on the other, we're teaching 10 year olds sex. I'm pretty split in my opinion about that.

[nicole97]

I was 13 my first time, but it was in a fairly serious (or at least as serious as one can be at that age) relationship and I have no regrets.

[kanine]

Its a cultural thing, media shows guys who have a lot of sex as being cool whereas girls who do it are sluts and b****s. Honestly i have a friend who acts like its a huge deal and i honestly wish i could tell him im not a virgin so i can wipe the smug off his face.

[rks1]

I'm never going to judge someone who lost their virginity at a young age but I am waiting because I don't want to run the risk of STDs. Obviously they are avoidable but I just don't think the possible cost outweighs the benefit.

EDIT: I want to avoid getting someone pregnant as well, although that is honestly not as bad as SOME stds.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Very happy to be a Virgin :)

[Zachary G]

When I read 12 and fully informed, it reminded me of my brother's school, which has mandatory sex Ed classes starting at grade 4. On one side, it may be informing them, on the other, we're teaching 10 year olds sex. I'm pretty split in my opinion about that.

yeah, i can see where youre coming from on that note. I agree.

[Ben101]

Havent lost it yet, would like 2

[Karkat]

I was 16 1/2, and I didn't regret it, but I feel like even if I was still a virgin, it'd be ok. I feel like there'd be a shit ton of sexual frustration still, but I'd be ok

I'm not one who necessarily believes in 'finding your soulmate' or 'the one' or 'waiting until marriage'. Just waiting until you feel comfortable. But even then, I acknowledge that it's impossible to know when it's "right" until after the fact.

Retrospect makes a lot of things much clearer.