I feel like everything is falling apart!!!!

[MrIncredible]

I know this is nothing compared to anything on th depression side of VT but I feel like my whole world is just falling to crap first my dad is teaching my how to Drive "I don't wanna!" is all I kept saying in my head I really didn't want to thats the last thing that kept going through my head but the only thing that kept me from falling apart at the wheel I'm just like super frustrated it was easy at first but then my dad started yelling I'm just sitting there like "what are you screaming for its not like there was a car there" and then we passed by the house and I just start pulling into the driveway cuz im like I just wanna go home but noooooo he wants me to drive around 5 more blocks UGHHHHHHHHH Like seriously SECOND my dad had the "wonderful" idea that my sister and I should paint our room I'm have no problem with painting the room as long as its The same color as it is now (blue) but no what does he do he surprises us with a color. And what's the color you might ask WHITEE it's WHITE thats the most boring color you can paint a room like literally and also my room is the only one in the house that has color every other room it's either White, has beige wallpaper, or beige wallpaper with white trimmed so you see the problem I just feel super upset it's like SERIOUSLY ARE YOU SERIOUSLY SERIOUS and it's like I can't tell him I don't want the room white because you can't tell your parents no its like "How do you do that without sounding disrespectful please any suggestions thnx:)

[randyboy]

Calm down Dear it's only paint!!! God man I'd die for my oldman to teach me to drive!

You are ungrateful if you were mine I'd paddle ur butt!!!

Just go talk with him alone in the kitchen and say Dad, I love your help and stuff but I'd really really like to make my own mark and my room to my taste. You get the paint in the colours I like and you can give me lessons anytime. It's worth a try x

[amgb]

Saying no isn't disrespectful. It's how you say it that counts. I've always worked with 'be firm, not harsh', which has worked really well for me in multiple occasions and I'm sure it'll work for you too. I know it's pretty frustrating, so many parents are like that; critisizing, yelling and being controlling. I think you just need to be firm with your dad and tell him you don't like what he's doing. I'm sure he will listen to that and if he doesn't then perhaps you can try approaching him in different ways (that aren't aggressive or demeaning). Tell him your feelings. Maybe you could talk things out with your Mum too.

[MrIncredible]

Calm down Dear it's only paint!!! God man I'd die for my oldman to teach me to drive!

You are ungrateful if you were mine I'd paddle ur butt!!!

Just go talk with him alone in the kitchen and say Dad, I love your help and stuff but I'd really really like to make my own mark and my room to my taste. You get the paint in the colours I like and you can give me lessons anytime. It's worth a try x
Lol but I would feel awkward sayin that kind of I guess lol

Saying no isn't disrespectful. It's how you say it that counts. I've always worked with 'be firm, not harsh', which has worked really well for me in multiple occasions and I'm sure it'll work for you too. I know it's pretty frustrating, so many parents are like that; critisizing, yelling and being controlling. I think you just need to be firm with your dad and tell him you don't like what he's doing. I'm sure he will listen to that and if he doesn't then perhaps you can try approaching him in different ways (that aren't aggressive or demeaning). Tell him your feelings. Maybe you could talk things out with your Mum too.
I've tried that he got mad and I didn't like the look in his eyes when I did soooo but thnx for the advice both of you really :)