Should sexual favors be an asumed Valentines Day gift?

[rachel_ballet]

First off, I'm not even sure if a topic like this is even allowed in this forum!
Secondly, I'm not even sure if this is the right category of the forum for a topic like this, if it is allowed, but it's some thing that I'd really really like some feedback on! Please!
So, as we all know, Valentine's Day is just a little over a week away. And I've more than got the point that it's all about love, and the typical gifts are chocolate, jewelry, teddy bears and all that, but it's also about love and the romantic thing.
My BF and I have been dating since early May of 2014. He's a lot older than me. How old, I won't say, as he knows I'm on a lot a of social media sites, such as this one and many more, and he's asked me not to put his age, and I understand that and will totally comply!
(I'm sorry about being long winded about this)
We've both discussed having sex several times and my answer is always that I want to wait. I'm still a virgin and he's not. Besides some touching and stuff, we've never really done anything sexual.
I'm not sure what to get him for Valentines Day, and getting to the point, I'm wondering if I should finally give in and at least give him something sexual. I don't mean like go all the way but at least a BJ or a HJ?
The way he's been talking about it makes me think that he's gonna be expecting something!
He's a great guy and treats me like a princess all of the time, and please don't think that he is a bad guy, cause he isn't!
I'm just looking for some type of feedback on what I should do and how I should handle this!

oops! I misspelled assumed as the title!!

[Ouija]

Well, you shouldn't feel any sort of obligation whatsoever to gift any sexual favors. Only if the decision is something you 100% want. You've expressed that he's a good guy and knows you want to wait, so if he's disappointed then that's really just his problem. I hope you don't "finally give in" 'cause like you're not in a marriage, so it's obviously entirely up to you.

[Emerald Dream]

Sex should never be a mandatory thing - no matter if you are friends, dating, in a serious relationship, or even married. You should be doing that when it feels right for both of you, and not out of obligation or guilt. I realize it's probably a common thing, but make sure you are positive you want to do something like that before you actually do it. There's nothing wrong with sex, but I really disagree with doing it just for someone else's benefit....which is what giving sex as a gift actually is.

[Uranus]

I agree with Emerald Dream. She hit the nail on the head with her post. Also, the world today seems only be focused on sex. It's not all about sex. Whatever you feel is a great gift for Valentines, is what you should get. Chocolates, a thoughtful card, dinner at a nice restaurant, ECT. It shouldn't always be about sex. Although, that doesn't mean you can't give that as a gift

[mariozplaze]

I wish I could give some sex for Valentines...

But that's me, you shouldn't EVER feel obligated to do anything sexual if you don't want to, that is a decision that you and only you can make!

[SethfromMI]

no it should not be a mandatory, obligated thing to have to give. don't get me wrong, it is an amazing gift, but no it should not be mandatory

[Meh Guy]

While that may be a decent "gift" and he may be expecting something, you're doing it because he's pressured you before. Not that he does it in a bad way, but ultimately, the decision to do it would be for the wrong reasons. Wait until you're ready, completely ready. And to answer it he question in the title, no sex is never an assumed gift.

[fairmaiden]

If you don't want to do something; don't do it! Especially as you're 13 years old.

[Babs]

Nobody ever owes anyone sex. It should never be expected or obligatory. Sex is a two-way street and shouldn't happen unless everyone involved wants to.

[DoodleSnap]

What separates sex from masturbation is that sex takes two; and is for two. If you feel ready for something like that, then go ahead, but do not feel obligated to do something you're not ready for just to please someone else. I personally believe that sex should be because both people want to do it, rather than it being a commodity to "give to someone". All in all, it is your decision, just make sure that you are ready for whatever happens, and that everything is considered. Hope all goes well.

[Person123the]

A relationship should be about the people and the relationship and not the sex. If he likes you and wants you for sex, then it isn't a good sign for the relationship. Your age only supports that, since you should definitely not be worrying about that at that age. Your virginity is something you can only lose once, and if you have ANY doubts, then abort, it is not the right time. You should only do it when you are 100% comfortable about it, and not before, so no, I do not think it is an obligation, and based on your situation, I would just get him anything nice and sweet, and if he really loves you, he won't care about what/if you get him anything.