Sexually Confused - Please help.

[Teen Confused]

Okay, so my names Eric, and I am 15. I am rather confused about my sexuality as it has been an on going battle in my mind. I don't mind homosexuality, or anything, I'm a very open minded person and support it fully. When i was like 10 in 5th grade people always thought I was gay (kinda feminine, lived only with mom and sister.) I always denied it. Now, I don't believe I am gay, I see my self with a girl in the future, married with kids. I get turned on by girls, most of my friends are girls although. I can masturbate to girls, but usually I masturbate to guys, which is where I get confused. I only get turned on by white guys, (I'm white). I think its more of a "Wow he is really hot, I want to be like him, I wish i had his abs ect." Since I'm a very insecure person. So in conclusion, I don't see my self in a relationship with a guy, dating one. But i like to watch gay / male solo porn. BUT I want to be in a relationship girl and have kids with them, and i occasionally watch lesbian / straight porn. So please help me...whats my sexuality?

[football matt]

I'm the same way. Think maybe I'm bisexual so that might be what you are. I wouldn't worry too much if i was you.

[NickC]

Well dude, honestly, no one can tell you what your sexuality is. It is up to you to decide your own sexuality. All we can do is just give out personal opinions. That said, I dont think you have much to worry about dude. Many str8 guys that i know, they talk about how like sexy some guys are sometimes. No one is completely sexually straight dude. Everyone has a certain amount of gayness in them. I mean, that is why straight guys sometimes act gay, and fool around sexually, and just do gay stuff in general sometimes. Every guy does gay stuff (straight guys rlly do a lot of gay stuff lol). Thats why there will never be such a thing as a totally sexually straight guy. There is such a thing as a straight/curious guy tho. But if i was to guess, you are not gay. I would say that you are either bi or bi/curious. But dude, being gay is awesome tho. If you want like every girl in your school to become friends with you, then just become gay lol. I should know, i am gay and i came out of the closet about a month ago, and now pretty much every last girl in all of my classes (and areas that i hang out at) wants to be my friend and be around me and take me shopping lol

[Hermes]

Gay and straight are meant to be descriptive labels, not there to define what you can and cannot do.

I think it is also fair to say that the dichotomy of gay/straight only really applies to relationships in the sense that a relationship has to be either with a girl or with a guy. When it comes to sexual activity or sexual fantasy the situation is much more complex and many guys have some degree of attraction to both sexes and fantasise about either sex though the degress of attraction may be unequal.

On the subject of the porn I don't know about you but I enjoy watching myself cum and I have also discovered I enjoy watching another guy cum and in that respect I also find male solo porn enjoyable. I don't know if you have noticed but most of the porn actors also watch themselves cum. I think it is just something that is a more universal turn on than may guys would openly admit and also accounts for why most straight porn features external ejaculation. On the other hand shots of a guy's anus or footage of guys fucking does not really do anything for me.

Don't place too much weight on porn either - although guys are alegedly more visual when it comes to sexual excitement than girls real sex also includes touch and smell.

[ImCoolBeans]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality and Gender
I think you'll get more relevant answers in this section.

Gay and straight are meant to be descriptive labels, not there to define what you can and cannot do.

That is excellent advice.

It is also very common for boys to become curious about their sexuality during puberty. This does not necessarily mean that you become gay, or will become gay. A lot of straight guys go through a curious stage, however, if it lasts for a long period of time or you find yourself thinking about men in a sexual or romantic way often, or more often than girls, it's possible that you are gay or bisexual. Either way, that is something that you can really only decide or tell on your own. Sexuality labels don't need to define you, and you don't need to conform to one and stay within that label. Do whatever makes YOU happy.

[sdude]

Yea, you don't need to label yourself dude, just enjoy exploring and comparing, and of course whatever gets you hot when you j/o, go for it. I have to say though, I was much like you say a couple of years ago, thinking I could only have an emotional relationship with a woman....till I met a guy I REALLY liked. Then the situation really changed. As far as kids go, there are plenty of ways now to go about having kids in a gay relationship. And from what I've known from kids raised in that family...no different...

[alphus]

Hey OP! Thinking about and even masturbating to guys is normal at your age, even if you don't consider yourself gay. That being said you have plenty of time to discover your sexuality and at the moment it could simply just be your hormones going crazy as you go through puberty.
If you still feel like this when you're 18 say, then would be a good time to step back and really think about it. Until then go crazy dude :)

[Friend2121]

You pretty much described me. I totally feel you right now. Truth is, no one can tell you what sexuality you are. I consider myself straight though, and you seem like you are too, but its all about what you're about. Don't be afraid either way, it's all good, you can and will figure it out

[Thunderstorm]

Sounds like you admire attractive males and desire their features. However, you get turned on by girls, physically and emotionally, so you definitely like girls. If you can see yourself with only a girl, married and with kids, then you're straight. It's one thing to have a sexual relationship but it's another thing to want companionship, and your emotions for a companion ultimately decide it all.

[Zachary G]

Well dude, honestly, no one can tell you what your sexuality is. It is up to you to decide your own sexuality. All we can do is just give out personal opinions. That said, I dont think you have much to worry about dude. Many str8 guys that i know, they talk about how like sexy some guys are sometimes. No one is completely sexually straight dude. Everyone has a certain amount of gayness in them. I mean, that is why straight guys sometimes act gay, and fool around sexually, and just do gay stuff in general sometimes. Every guy does gay stuff (straight guys rlly do a lot of gay stuff lol). Thats why there will never be such a thing as a totally sexually straight guy. There is such a thing as a straight/curious guy tho. But if i was to guess, you are not gay. I would say that you are either bi or bi/curious. But dude, being gay is awesome tho. If you want like every girl in your school to become friends with you, then just become gay lol. I should know, i am gay and i came out of the closet about a month ago, and now pretty much every last girl in all of my classes (and areas that i hang out at) wants to be my friend and be around me and take me shopping lol

I couldnt have said it better myself, this is very well stated and makes total sense.

[SethfromMI]

Well dude, honestly, no one can tell you what your sexuality is. It is up to you to decide your own sexuality. All we can do is just give out personal opinions. That said, I dont think you have much to worry about dude. Many str8 guys that i know, they talk about how like sexy some guys are sometimes. No one is completely sexually straight dude. Everyone has a certain amount of gayness in them. I mean, that is why straight guys sometimes act gay, and fool around sexually, and just do gay stuff in general sometimes. Every guy does gay stuff (straight guys rlly do a lot of gay stuff lol). Thats why there will never be such a thing as a totally sexually straight guy. There is such a thing as a straight/curious guy tho. But if i was to guess, you are not gay. I would say that you are either bi or bi/curious. But dude, being gay is awesome tho. If you want like every girl in your school to become friends with you, then just become gay lol. I should know, i am gay and i came out of the closet about a month ago, and now pretty much every last girl in all of my classes (and areas that i hang out at) wants to be my friend and be around me and take me shopping lol

some very good advice

[randyboy]

All good advice in here I'd add go with the fow and it doesn't matter what or who you get off on so long as you enjoy it and it feels right.

So I'd have to wear a wig and skirt to meet you at ur skewl lol

[DoodleSnap]

I used to feel the same way, until coming to further understand myself, I realised I had always conflated my looking up to people with sexual attraction. Sexuality is very confusing, and can certainly be a lot to think about, but don't let the worrying define you. Sticking to a certain label should not be your biggest priority - being comfortable with yourself should be. For what it is worth, most people would probably describe you as bisexual (given the information provided), however it is up to you whether to adopt that label or not. Ultimately, let yourself choose what you do, rather than any label.

[Landbuscus97]

While I would say Bisexual, it's not what I think that matters. Either way, I definitely wouldn't worry about it. It seems like just a minor part, and should only influence your life as much as you want it to.