Friend Liked my current boyfriend?

[SmokyChica]

So my boyfriend was making sexual comments with my friend today, and my friend used to like him. She said it was ok that I date him when I asked if it would hurt her. Now she's saying to my boyfriend that I sleep around... And my boyfriend is starting to doubt things with me. What do I do about this??

[fairmaiden]

That's a nasty thing for your friend to say. You need to address the situation by asking your friend why on earth she'd say such a mean thing, and you should also tell your boyfriend that what she's saying is completely false. Tell him the full situation so he's more aware and doesn't believe the stupid things your friend is saying.

It's unfortunate that your friend also likes him, but that doesn't give her the right to lie about you.

[SethfromMI]

I would address it with both, even at the same time. that is a dirty thing she did and it is not the type of thing true friends do

[jssixna]

If she's spreading rumors she's obviously jealous and purposely sabotaging your relationship. Confront her about it and talk to your boyfriend about it too saying it's of course not true.

[Melodic]

She's peanut butter and jealous. However, your boyfriend isn't exactly being great either if he's making those comments. I'd suggest confronting both of them, probably at the same time.

[Ouija]

Pretty much the same thing happened to me, but the girl hated me for no reason, spread rumors, and kept twisting my words. It got worse because I let it go on and my boyfriend was actually the one who did something about it.. thank God, because I hate this drama stuff and I would've likely ignored it for too long. Ah I'm trying to hold back on a long list of what I think you should tell her but basically be extremely forward and let her know you won't tolerate it. I should've done that, but sometimes you just feel like you shouldn't add more fuel to an already massive fire, you know? Seriously though, what kind of friend does that? Beyond me. Well, I hope that your boyfriend trusts you and it all works out in the end because no one deserves to be alone in this kind of thing.

[Emerald Dream]

Sounds like neither one of them are concerned about your feelings, to be honest. Her telling your bf lies about you having sex with others is blatantly trying to break the two of you up, and it's pretty obvious your friend wants to get with him herself. On the other hand, I'd be pissed that my bf was being inappropriate with one of my friends. I would talk to my friend and explain that it's hurting me, and ask my bf why he feels the need to go outside of the relationship you two have. I'm guessing he would try to play it off as being funny or a "normal" thing to do, but honestly - it's hurtful and not very loving. If it continues then I seriously would consider not having anything to do with either one of them.

[Meh Guy]

I would address it with both, even at the same time. that is a dirty thing she did and it is not the type of thing true friends do

She's peanut butter and jealous. However, your boyfriend isn't exactly being great either if he's making those comments. I'd suggest confronting both of them, probably at the same time.

Either do this, or kick them both to the curb. Just remember, Loyalty is Royalty. You're not there to prove yourself, you haven't done anything wrong. So your boyfriend shouldn't be doubting you based on what someone else says.

[suzzysmith2012]

Talk to them both and kindly but firmly set them and things straight. But if they are both being immature and jerks to you, perhaps it would be best to forgot them both and move on,,


Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far.

Theodore Roosevelt

[DoodleSnap]

Try to speak with your friend in a calm manner why she would say that? It seems rather malicious, and could be the product of jealousy and/or envy. Also, make sure that you communicate with your boyfriend what is going on, and how it makes you feel. It is important that you both keep in contact (obviously not being clingy, however), so as to make sure misunderstandings don't create tensions and issues.

[Failed Algebra]

Agree. talk to each of them and say hey you're my friend and i don't understand what's going on. why are you hurting me? then they'll either acknowledge they've been wrong or they'll pretend nothing's wrong, in which case dump them. you'll be better off in the long run.

[ATOMICskittles]

So my boyfriend was making sexual comments with my friend today, and my friend used to like him. She said it was ok that I date him when I asked if it would hurt her. Now she's saying to my boyfriend that I sleep around... And my boyfriend is starting to doubt things with me. What do I do about this??

Okay you need to call her out on this, and sorry, but you have to be like, "girl what is up with you" you can add what ever spicy language you want. ;) Sorry but she is trying to take your man.