Why is my friend soooo boring?

[CupcakeLuv101]

I have this friend I've known her for 7 years and I'm sorry to say but she is the most boring person on earth. She never really smiles if I see her in the hallway she will just give you that typical "hi" straight face while fun people will say "hey" with a huge smile on their faces. It is also never fun to have a conversation with her since she never talks all she says is "oh" for everything again with a straight face. She says "oh" like every second of her life. She gives you that short "oh" straight face no expression just a simple "oh".

We also have zero inside jokes she never jokes around and whenever I say something funny she will think I'm weird and other people think its funny. And when I joke about her she will tell me to stop like if I do the exact same joke to other people they will joke back at me and we would be laughing our heads off. But if I joke with her she will tell me to stop and get mad at me and pretty much when we get home she will keep texting me saying "why did you do that it wasn't nice" and she will keep asking me if I can stop she takes things way too seriously and way too boring it really bothers me?

Also I don't want to leave her because I am her only friend actually since she turns everyone off no one really wants to be her friend because of how boring she is. In class all she does is sit there and not talk to anyone. I say something hilarious to her for example "I spilled water all over my shirt" and she will be like "oh" and she's not laughing while everyone else will be like "OMG WHAT" she is a big turn-off and it bothers me every single second of my life and bores the heck out of me. How so I deal with a boring friend like her?

[amgb]

Personally I do not find people like that boring because I'm like that sometimes and I don't consider myself a boring person. I understand that you must feel she is quite boring though, most likely because she doesn't match up to your personality and you're probably much more fun-loving and enthusiastic. In general we tend to be attracted to those similar to us and we find it hard to connect with people who are different. Considering you've known her for seven years and that you're her only friend, I think what's best to do is to try and figure things out between you and her because I know you don't want to leave her. I have had friends who are socially awkward people and they don't talk much at all, so I'm thinking maybe that's sort of like your friend here. That's my first thought. My second thought is: are you aware of any major issues, problems, or traumas in her life that could be the possible reason behind the way she is? If there are then maybe that's why she's so quiet and serious? If there aren't any then I reckon it's just the person she is and she may find it hard to change. You should try and open up to her and tell her you want a much more satisfying and open friendship with her, but don't offend or insult her (which I'm absolutely sure you won't). It's not going to be easy talking to her about it but I think that's the best you can do. Sorry I couldn't give better advice..

[SethfromMI]

maybe your friend does not think they are boring? who are you to decide? maybe they find you boring

[Calliope]

There's no point in being friends with somebody you don't like. You may feel bad that if you leave her she won't have anyone else but who would want their only friend to be a fake one? That's just my opinion, though.

[phuckphace]

I had a "friend" a lot like that for a while. he had zero personality or approachability and always kept a blank, expressionless stone-face on at all times. not only did he have zero sense of humor, he would actually get irritated by jokes. like, we would all be standing around laughing and having a good time, someone would crack a joke and then we'd all laugh except him - he'd just fold his arms and say "I hope you guys realize that that wasn't the least bit funny." surprisingly enough, he had a girlfriend, although I suspect he picked an Asian girl who spoke only basic English so he wouldn't have to talk to her unless absolutely necessary. it baffled me for a long time how someone could be so...robotic and inhuman, although knowing what I know now I can tell that the guy likely had Asperger syndrome or something else on the autism spectrum. I just stopped acknowledging his existence (actually forgot about him until I read this thread). that's probably the only thing you can do, really. some people just aren't compatible personality-wise.

[Ouija]

I personally wouldn't completely drop a friend, even if they're being a real drag all the time. It's happened to me before where someone stopped talking to me out of nowhere and I never knew what the reason was, even if it was probably obvious. Does she talk to you about her home life or anything, or is she just quiet in every conversation? Idk if you spend time with her outside of school because it could just be her response to being in a school environment. Maybe if you slowly stopped talking to her or doing something else for lunch or whatever else than you normally would, she would put more effort into the friendship. And if she doesn't, then oh well. I know confrontation sucks but you could also just tell her that you "feel she acts like she's "obligated" to talk to you" idk, just something along the lines of that so she can directly reply.

[CornDaddy]

Maybe she has some social anxiety issues or could just be antisocial