Different Culture Dating

[SmokyChica]

I'm dating a Puerto Rican guy and it's not that I have a problem with it, but I feel like certain things he does that I don't like he says is a cultural thing to get me to say it's ok. For example, the other day when we were in the hallway and I was about to leave, he smacked me on the butt before I left- not in a cute way, and I've had a lot of people come up to me and say it looked wrong and I've heard guys congratulated him on "tapping that", meaning sleep with me I'm assuming. I tried telling him it wasn't ok and it made me uncomfortable, but he said that it's a way Puerto Ricans show affection to girlfriends... I feel like it was just a way to get me to say it was ok but I'm not sure. Can anyone help?

[ImCoolBeans]

That is definitely not the way Puerto Ricans show affection to their girlfriends. He is just trying to justify and rationalize mistreating you. If you're not ok with something, then tell him that, and he should be able to understand as your boyfriend. Also, if his friends and guys at school are saying congratulations on "tapping that" and he's fine with it, he may be treating you more disrespectfully than you realize.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Well however he thinks his own culture is - he aint there now. It is right for you to challenge this and right you tell him.

[phuckphace]

:lol3:

what Mike said.

[SethfromMI]

Mike hit the nail on the head. when dating different cultures, there is sometimes room for doubt, but he was just trying to justify what he did and used the culture card to try to get away with it

[DoodleSnap]

As stated above, using culture as an excuse for getting off Scott-free after doing something that makes you uncomfortable is not acceptable. Speak to him about it, and tell him what makes you feel uncomfortable.

[fairmaiden]

Cultural or not; if you're not comfortable with it, he shouldn't do it.

I agree with ImCoolBeans because it looks like your boyfriend is trying to get away with it by pulling the culture card.

[Stephanie 15]

If you don't like it and you tell him you don't like and he continues to do it, I would leave him. Because if he feels that he can do what he wants regardless of your feelings then he doesn't respect you as a person or as a women. IMHO that if he gets away with it now what will he try to get away with later regardless of what you want. I agree it's not a cultural issue, it's a disrespect and abuse issue.