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Croconaw
February 2nd, 2015, 05:42 AM
I have a few friends, but I don't have any close friends. I see many people in school talking with their friends and I would just stare, wondering what it would be like to have close friends like that. I have a small group of friends that I have met through being a peer helper at my school. They are just students with intellectual disabilities that I help out sometimes. I see them everyday at school in the cafeteria during breakfast, and during my third period. I love having them as friends, and I feel like they genuinely care about me because they wished me happy birthday. They also ask me how my day was or just talk to me. I connect with these people like I've never connected with anyone else.

My interests are kind of different than other peoples' at my school. That's why I stick to an online atmosphere to connect with people who share my interests. It's not that I don't have friends in real life, but I do want to talk with people about my interests. I feel like in school, people consider me an outcast because I don't talk much in class. I don't have any close friends in my classes, but I do have my group of friends. I go up to the library during lunch pretty much everyday. The only time I don't is when I have a lunch group with the school therapist, which is two days a week. It's called a lunch group because there is another student in there who is actually in most of my classes. He seems nice, but I don't really talk to him outside of the group. I am planning on having lunch with my peer buddies, mentioned above, next year. I just have to hope we have the same lunch.

I have this other friend, and you probably know who I'm talking about. She is in seventh grade, and she self harms. I feel like I can relate to her in terms of experiences because she sits alone at lunch sometimes. I talk to her quite a lot, despite us not having any classes together. I have weird inside jokes with her where we call each other nicknames and say random phrases to each other. We can joke with each other and not piss each other off. I love her as a friend, but there is quite a large age gap between us. I'm in eleventh grade. That means we might not see each other after high school. In case any of you are confused, my high school is seventh grade through twelfth grade.

I know not many friendships last past high school, and I know that close friends are hard to come by. In my karate class, I have some friends that I only talk to in class. We respect each other, which doesn't surprise me at all, because that's basically what karate is all about. I feel comfortable in karate because I know I won't get judged. School is a whole different territory, because you know there are bullies. Bullies are everywhere, and you can't get rid of them. There are not very many bullies at my school. The bullies probably take up about one percent of the school, and those are just the immature seventh graders. The nice people overtake the bullies by a large percentage. I just feel like I could make myself more known by talking to people actually in my classes. I could be less of an outcast. I'm very social when I get to know the person, but nobody seems to be walking up to me, with an exception of some people. I'm acquaintances with this one girl, and I feel like we could build a possible friendship if I was less shy. I think I'm less shy now that I have this small group of friends.

I don't even know what the point of this thread was, to be completely honest with you. I guess I just wanted tips on becoming more social with people in my class to make myself seem like less of an outcast. Thank you to whoever read this all the way through. I appreciate your time and any tips you may have.

JamesSuperBoy
February 2nd, 2015, 06:56 AM
What about sharing your peer helper work - ask if others would be interested might be good to share a bit of what you do and why with others.

Croconaw
February 3rd, 2015, 12:35 AM
What about sharing your peer helper work - ask if others would be interested might be good to share a bit of what you do and why with others.
I might start doing that after I get up the nerve to talk to people. However, being a peer helper is an invite only thing. Other students are allowed to show interest, though.

JamesSuperBoy
February 3rd, 2015, 10:29 AM
Yes that is a good plan - and maybe you can ask some of the peer helper organisers to help out -

Freckles
February 5th, 2015, 06:26 PM
It just sounds like you're shy. Once you get up the nerve to talk to people that may change. I know what you mean by not sharing the same interests as most other kids. Where a lot of the boys like sports and video games, I'd rather fish or walk in the woods, or fix computers. I like my alone time but it is fun to be with other kids too sometimes.

Croconaw
February 10th, 2015, 04:17 PM
Thanks! It's completely normal not to connect with people at my school. Everyone seems too self absorbed, meaning they only care about themselves. I'll try to be more social. My fear is rejection (regarding friendship) and betrayal.