Any first boyfriend advice?

[cookiemonstermatt]

So I'm gay and I now have a brand new boyfriend. We're both our first boyfriend to each other. Any advice? I don't want to mess this up. We were friends at school but we hung out sometimes at other places. Yesterday we basicaly came out to each other and decided to be boyfriends. So, what advice do you have for two n00bs? Thanks! :D

[ImCoolBeans]

Congratulations on coming out to your friend, and that's great that he came out to you too :) I was never lucky enough to come out to a friend and have them say "no way me too!" :P
I wish you well in your relationship. If you want it to last, establish good communication and be open to consideration, not everybody thinks the same way and you have to be patient and acknowledge that sometimes in a relationship.

If you're going to be a public couple, be prepared that not everybody is going to be accepting of it, and when that happens handle it in the right way. You can fly off the chain and start a fight, but that doesn't actually accomplish anything and doesn't reflect back on your own character very well.

Best of luck.

[Bull]

Yeah, what Mike said. Congratulations and best wishes for a happy relationship.

[cookiemonstermatt]

Congratulations on coming out to your friend, and that's great that he came out to you too :) I was never lucky enough to come out to a friend and have them say "no way me too!" :P
I wish you well in your relationship. If you want it to last, establish good communication and be open to consideration, not everybody thinks the same way and you have to be patient and acknowledge that sometimes in a relationship.

If you're going to be a public couple, be prepared that not everybody is going to be accepting of it, and when that happens handle it in the right way. You can fly off the chain and start a fight, but that doesn't actually accomplish anything and doesn't reflect back on your own character very well.

Best of luck.

Thanks Mike I will definitely use your advice. I don't know how open we want to be in school. but i guess it will come out some day. one thing on my might right now is how we'll get together at home. Like I want to get all smoochie with him but not like in front of family. You know?

[Magenta]

Hey, congrats. The best relationship advice I can give is be yourself, experiment, and communicate. Figure out what you're both into, comfortable with, and want to try (both sexually or otherwise, like some people don't like a lot of cuddling or PDAs). Just go with it and have fun. It's your first relationship so don't expect anything serious off the bat and just enjoy yourselves. If it works out and you do decide on something more, then there's gonna be more work involved but don't worry about that right now.

I hope this works out for you two. :)

[cookiemonstermatt]

Hey, congrats. The best relationship advice I can give is be yourself, experiment, and communicate. Figure out what you're both into, comfortable with, and want to try (both sexually or otherwise, like some people don't like a lot of cuddling or PDAs). Just go with it and have fun. It's your first relationship so don't expect anything serious off the bat and just enjoy yourselves. If it works out and you do decide on something more, then there's gonna be more work involved but don't worry about that right now.

I hope this works out for you two. :)

So right now we just need to talk to each other a lot. I hope I don't smother him haha

[Plane And Simple]

Congrats! I'm going to just say, you're very very lucky that you both came out at the same time to each other. That being said, Just take it easy, and as said above, communicate. As Mike says you have to learn to accept opinions, from "Let's go to this place" to "I hate X or Y". You might want to take it easy around others at first and then start opening up slowly, because it might be a big shock for some to see you two together

[cookiemonstermatt]

Congrats! I'm going to just say, you're very very lucky that you both came out at the same time to each other. That being said, Just take it easy, and as said above, communicate. As Mike says you have to learn to accept opinions, from "Let's go to this place" to "I hate X or Y". You might want to take it easy around others at first and then start opening up slowly, because it might be a big shock for some to see you two together

Thanks i mean really thanks. I don't want to blow this so i'm going to be careful. but if he wants to do something then I'll be open to it. I'm pretty lucky because he was my crush.

[Plane And Simple]

Thanks i mean really thanks. I don't want to blow this so i'm going to be careful. but if he wants to do something then I'll be open to it. I'm pretty lucky because he was my crush.

No problem. Let us know how it goes and feel free to message anybody with questions. We're here to help.

One thing though which is mainly for non-started relationships but works as well. There's a very fine line between talking and stalking, so be careful not to overdo the chatting and asking what's up. As Robbie Williams says:

"Don't try to make them love you.
Don't answer every call.
Baby be a giant.
Let the world be small."

I wouldn't normally bother with this after the first advice but I've been there and fucked up so be careful! :D

[Abyssal Echo]

I know coming out can be really stressful so, Congratz on coming out. I have to say coming out was the best thing I ever did.
Best advice I can give you is to take it slow get to know each other. As the others said communication. Open communication = Trust which is a solid foundation for any relationship.

[DoodleSnap]

Congratulations! You certainly hit a lucky score with everything working out so well with him being your crush, and coming out to each other, etc, etc... Anyway, my advice is somewhat of the same ilk as above, but nonetheless, here it is:
Communication. Communication is hugely important in any succesful relationship, and partners who are able to communicate well with each other are likely to form a stronger bond. Trusting each other, speaking to each other, and bringing up any issues in a clear way are great attributes to have. There is no need to be over prying, because anything that needs to be discussed should be naturally brought up. As long as you guys can communicate-with, trust, and understand each other, then you'll do great. Anyway, aside from all of the usual; have fun! Experiment with what each other like, do things together, and simply enjoy the time you spend together.

[cookiemonstermatt]

So today was our first day at school as a couple. but we're not exactly out about it. It was kind of awkward because now we see each other in a different way. We were both shy toward each other. I guess we have to get comfortable being around each other like this now.

[sprint]

So I'm gay and I now have a brand new boyfriend. We're both our first boyfriend to each other. Any advice? I don't want to mess this up. We were friends at school but we hung out sometimes at other places. Yesterday we basicaly came out to each other and decided to be boyfriends. So, what advice do you have for two n00bs? Thanks! :D

Congrauts! As you are a gay couple I would keep the relationship covert as some people may not understand that loves exists in all types of forms.

[riverboy]

Congrauts! As you are a gay couple I would keep the relationship covert as some people may not understand that loves exists in all types of forms.

In my school this would be true. But good luck to you and be cool. lol