I want to dress more boyish but my dad wont let me?

[TheGentleHerbivore]

I'm agender meaning I don't identify as either gender.

I feel like too much of a girl. Like I have a female anatomy, wear make up and girl's clothes and I'm just not comfortable looking this much like a girl.

I don't want a sex change (but I have thought about wearing a chest binder) and I like wearing make up but I feel very uncomfortable in girl's clothes.

I would like to buy guy's clothes but my dad refuses to let me even if I offer to buy it myself.

Gahhh I just don't know what to do.

[Karkat]

Why not try shopping where clothes are relatively unisex (I don't know how you feel about graphic tees, but other than actual sizing, stores like Hot Topic and Spencer's have very little difference between the guys and girls sections.), and wear women's clothing that tends to be more androgynous for the next bit until you don't have to deal with your dad's... Way of thinking anymore?

I'm gifted with parents who, while they're homophobic and transphobic, try to let me express myself. They've seen me in drag, and surprisingly don't care much. Unfortunately, not all parents are even as willing to compromise as mine are. And seeing that you're still a minor for a while, you're probably going to have to be the one to make the compromise. It's unfortunate, but it is what it is.

The alternative would be I guess just telling your dad that you don't like girly clothes, and you'd like to wear something less frilly, and see how he takes it.

Good luck. I wish you the best. :) I know how it feels to be frustrated with your appearance in regards to gender, and it sucks.

[TheGentleHerbivore]

Why not try shopping where clothes are relatively unisex (I don't know how you feel about graphic tees, but other than actual sizing, stores like Hot Topic and Spencer's have very little difference between the guys and girls sections.), and wear women's clothing that tends to be more androgynous for the next bit until you don't have to deal with your dad's... Way of thinking anymore?

I'm gifted with parents who, while they're homophobic and transphobic, try to let me express myself. They've seen me in drag, and surprisingly don't care much. Unfortunately, not all parents are even as willing to compromise as mine are. And seeing that you're still a minor for a while, you're probably going to have to be the one to make the compromise. It's unfortunate, but it is what it is.

The alternative would be I guess just telling your dad that you don't like girly clothes, and you'd like to wear something less frilly, and see how he takes it.

Good luck. I wish you the best. :) I know how it feels to be frustrated with your appearance in regards to gender, and it sucks.


Thanks, but I live in a small city so there isn't any places like hot topic around here. We only have a couple stores that sell clothes and there isn't really a whole lot of unisex/androgynous type clothes to choose from.

I just finished talking to him about getting less frilly/girly clothes, after a while he agreed, he compromised saying I can choose whatever I want to buy from now on as long as it's not guy's clothes.

At least that's one small step in the right direction. :)

[Karkat]

Thanks, but I live in a small city so there isn't any places like hot topic around here. We only have a couple stores that sell clothes and there isn't really a whole lot of unisex/androgynous type clothes to choose from.

I just finished talking to him about getting less frilly/girly clothes, after a while he agreed, he compromised saying I can choose whatever I want to buy from now on as long as it's not guy's clothes.

At least that's one small step in the right direction. :)

That's good. I'm glad you at least came to an agreement :)

[Body odah Man]

Why not try shopping where clothes are relatively unisex (I don't know how you feel about graphic tees, but other than actual sizing, stores like Hot Topic and Spencer's have very little difference between the guys and girls sections.), and wear women's clothing that tends to be more androgynous for the next bit until you don't have to deal with your dad's... Way of thinking anymore?

I'm gifted with parents who, while they're homophobic and transphobic, try to let me express myself. They've seen me in drag, and surprisingly don't care much. Unfortunately, not all parents are even as willing to compromise as mine are. And seeing that you're still a minor for a while, you're probably going to have to be the one to make the compromise. It's unfortunate, but it is what it is.

The alternative would be I guess just telling your dad that you don't like girly clothes, and you'd like to wear something less frilly, and see how he takes it.

Good luck. I wish you the best. :) I know how it feels to be frustrated with your appearance in regards to gender, and it sucks.

Good plan. Gl chick