I never seen to get along with my dad

[Drummer Ben]

My dad will never talk to me. Whenever I try having a serious conversation with him he turns everything I say into a joke. Then he just goes back to watching sports on T.V. He comes home from work sits and front of the T.V. When I go to talk to him I'm always bothering him because he has to get back to our T.V.

He constantly remind me how worthless I am, how I'm the only one around this house who doesn't lift a finger.

His life revolves around the T.V. and sports. He wakes up and goes to work listening to sports radio. Drives home to sports radio. Gets home and sits in front of the T.V. till 2am watching Sports and movies. Don't know anything about his past. My grandfather died in the 80's and my grandmother died right before I was born. Whenever I bring them up he quickly changes the subject and tells me to leave the room. I asked once how come we never visited their grave. My mom told me he doesn't know where their buried. I don't know weather to believe him.

I feel his stuck in the past still sad that his father died when he was 16. His side of the family doesn't talk to each other.

What can I do to get him to take me seriously. I feel I shouldn't blame myself for any of his behavior.

[Thunderstorm]

Well, do you actually not lift a finger around the house? If this is true, look at your age- 18. You should be doing a lot around the house. You aren't a child anymore, if anything you're closer to an adult.

I think after work all your dad wants to do is chill. It sounds like he doesn't have much left besides you guys and sports, so he clings to the sports and relies on support from you guys. Maybe his job is treating him rough. Has he always been like this? These are important things to know.

[Body odah Man]

Sounds like your dad is either a. living in a dreamworld
b. Depressed and all he can live for is sports
c. Something else is affecting him

Don';t rlly know how to help you, sorry

[Drummer Ben]

Well It's not my fault he's like this what so ever. It is true he doesn't really have much left in his life or he wants me to think that. I want him to go out to the bar with his buddies, my parents never go out not even on their anniversary. You know, I want to know what my dads Internet are and whenever I ask him to do something he doesn't want to.

I love astronomy. I have a telescope and a camera. I take photos of the sky. I try getting him interested in that but he refuses to stay more than 20 minutes. Brought him to the club I belong to once and he absolutely hates it. Anything that has to do with science, art he hates. It just appears he does he same thing every day. you know he listens to the same radio station ever day, watches the same channel every day, and movies all the time. I'm not alone in this. A lot of people get stuck in their ways and don't want to change. I use wish I could actually have an engaging conversation with any of my parents. If it's not bossing me around they don't want to talk to me.

[Serzh98]

I don't think I can give you an advice... I feel similar, my dad and I either don't talk about personal stuff.
Damn, I think if there were no sports and politics, we wouldn't even talk. :)

[SethfromMI]

some dads are like that because their dads were like that and they don't know any better

[Drummer Ben]

Figured that Seth. It started when I turned 18. My dad was kicked out of his house when he was 18. So, he wants to make me feel as unwelcome as possible. All the appliances, food if I use without permission he flips out. He doesn't want to ever talk to me either. I hope he knows I won't have time for him when I move out.

[Thomas B]

Seems like your dad might have a few issues of his own, and kind of blaming it on you which is harsh, the best way I can think of is try and relate to him, maybe one night watch some sports with him then he might be more interested.

[Freckles]

I'm afraid someday he'll wish he could spend time with you but it'll be too late cause you'll have your own life to live. I feel sorry for you and wish I could help.

[Drummer Ben]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrZL2SfpV6k

[Drummer Ben]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrZL2SfpV6k