Question for girls

[TomTougher]

This is a question for straight girls. So girls, lets say there's this boy you like, what do you do about it? For him to know you like him you would have to tell him, and that would require you talk to him first about it.

[maniamsmart]

Most girls don't tell, haha, boys usually have to. Maybe that's changed now, but I am curious too :)

[TomTougher]

Most girls don't tell, haha, boys usually have to. Maybe that's changed now, but I am curious too :)

If a girl likes this particular boy, if she doesn't tell than he wont know and she can forget any hopes she has of having him as a boyfriend or having any kind of future with him. The only way for him to know she likes him is for her to tell him. Otherwise he would most likely end up with somebody else and that would suck for her.

Anyway, this question was for girls, so girls, any feedback please?

[Melodic]

You know. Sometimes I'm lucky and I don't have to approach a situation of admitting my feelings. However, I can say in more cases I will tell them myself or I have a close friend tell them if I'm not confident that they'll say yes.

[TomTougher]

You know. Sometimes I'm lucky and I don't have to approach a situation of admitting my feelings. However, I can say in more cases I will tell them myself or I have a close friend tell them if I'm not confident that they'll say yes.

If there's this boy you like and he doesn't know you like him, there's a good chance he will end up going with somebody else and that would really suck, seeing him with somebody else when you've got feelings for him that you're keeping secret. As it is, if you like a boy and if you hope for a future with him you should tell him you like him and take the risk of him turning you down. That way you know at least you tried. Rejection isn't easy but its a part of life. Telling him through a friend would probably not be a good idea for these reasons. He may not take your friend seriously. He might think your friend is just joking about you liking him as is sometimes the case. Also, some guys might see that as a sign of weakness if you tell them through a friend and instead would want you to approach them yourself if you have feelings for them. Finally, the boy might even end up going with your friend instead of you. As I said it is much better to approach a boy you like head on and take the risk of him turning you down than to keep your feelings repressed as you can be in a world of hurt if you do that.

[maniamsmart]

If a girl likes this particular boy, if she doesn't tell than he wont know and she can forget any hopes she has of having him as a boyfriend or having any kind of future with him. The only way for him to know she likes him is for her to tell him. Otherwise he would most likely end up with somebody else and that would suck for her.

Anyway, this question was for girls, so girls, any feedback please?

Oh I completely understand your point and agree with it, but I've dealt with far too many girls to know. But as Comet stated, there are some as herself that will tell you. Just speaking out of experience :)

[fairmaiden]

I wouldn't say anything. I'd continue being normal with them, but usually one of my blabbermouth friends would say that I like them lol, so that's it I guess.

[TomTougher]

I wouldn't say anything. I'd continue being normal with them, but usually one of my blabbermouth friends would say that I like them lol, so that's it I guess.

And what if he doesn't take your friend seriously? Lots of people will joke around about somebody liking someone else and so your friend might not be taken seriously.

And why wouldn't you say anything? That is, if you want him as a boyfriend.

[fairmaiden]

And what if he doesn't take your friend seriously? Lots of people will joke around about somebody liking someone else and so your friend might not be taken seriously.

And why wouldn't you say anything? That is, if you want him as a boyfriend.
well, I don't really know. it's usually taken seriously because the look of embarrassment is on my face, so they know it's most likely true haha.

I don't really want a boyfriend (as stupid as that may sound). I may have little crushes on people sometimes but I personally don't really like the feeling of ''relationships''. I love watching other people be in relationships, but me, er, not so much.

All of my friends at school love being in relationships but if I was ever in a relationship with somebody, I'd be very awkward and weird aha.

I also don't understand ''love'' when it comes to relationships. I love my family and friends, but I struggle to understand the concept of love when it comes to relationships.

[maniamsmart]

I wouldn't say anything. I'd continue being normal with them, but usually one of my blabbermouth friends would say that I like them lol, so that's it I guess.

Yep, that's how it tends to happen :P

[Ouija]

I blush really easily and sometimes, I admit, I get annoyingly flirty so if it's not obvious to the guy for some reason then someone will notice and he'll find out that way. That's how it usually goes for me. And on a few occasions I've said that I liked the guy first, but the only way that ever happens is if we already have some sort of friendship formed and I'm comfortable enough around them. So there you have it, I have probably missed out on good relationships because of my annoying habits and completely risked the friend zone.

[TomTougher]

Well one of the problems why girls sometimes do miss out on great relationships is because of that old myth that the boy is always supposed to make the first move. This is how it should be, whoever likes the other person first should make the first move. Whoever has initial interest should make the first move, whether they're a girl or a boy. So girls if theres this boy you like go and tell him and make the first move, or miss out on what might be a really great relationship and watch as he goes with somebody else and be in a world of hurt.