how do i come out to my parents?

[lonely_gay_boy]

How do i tell my parents that i am gay and not interested in girls? My mom is religious, but my father really isnt. Im scared and really dont know what to tell them. v.v

[Croconaw]

Is there a reason you feel the need to tell them now? I'd keep it to yourself for now.

[lonely_gay_boy]

I mean i just want to tell someone and get it off my mind v.v

[amgb]

Its definitely pretty scary coming out to parents with this. Maybe you could write it down on a piece of paper and leave it where they can see it? Or maybe you could message or email them instead of face to face telling them if you're not feeling comfortable with face to face? I can imagine that telling them directly can be scary. Maybe you should tell them that you want to tell them something important before you leave the piece of paper/message/email so they are at least a little more prepared. Best of luck, you can do it! I really hope you work something out and I hope they can accept what you tell them, they are your parents after all and should always accept you for who you are ~

[ImCoolBeans]

I was extremely nervous to tell both of my parents. I planned to do it, and kept dragging it out, so one day I just said it to my mom. She asked a few questions and told me that she accepts me and loves me. My Dad did the same thing a few days later.

I think it's better to do it face to face if you're going to do it. I would suggest feeling them out a little bit and figuring out exactly where they stand before doing it. If you know they aren't accepting maybe you should plan it out or wait for an appropriate time. But naturally, they're you're parents and love you. I wish you well. It takes a lot of courage to do, but feels like the weight of the world being taken off of your shoulders after it's out in the air.

[LiamC]

I'd start with your friends. They're of the same generation, they have similar experiences... I'm sure they'll understand.

[Perfectly Flawed]

I honestly think the best way is to just tell them face to face when they aren't busy and be as honest as possible.

[lonely_gay_boy]

How do i come out to my friends?

[Drummer Ben]

Keeping it inside you feel bad because you feel it's a huge deal, a guilty pleasure deep down inside. I would honestly keep it to myself but if people ask don't be afraid to say it proud. I don't go around telling people my business including my parents. Who your attracted to is a very private thing and you shouldn't feel bad for keeping it inside. Theirs nothing to worry about! Don't think of it as holding it inside. Think of it as a right to your own privacy.

[randyboy]

Hey I have messaged you, Going through this too, its not easy but who's business isit anyway just be you mate. when you get asked "Are you Gay" just say "Yes......and ?" or if it's asked again "and your problem is?" Sounds rude and short but makes the point clear that the problem IF there is one is thair end and not yours if that makes sense.

I have taken advice from older gay guys and they all say the same, it's the others that try to make an issue not us! No one says are you st8 do they?

We can't help or change how we are and what and who we like, I really do feel either accept and support or get lost! I've given up worrying what other people think or say, I'm still just me,I'm not a monster! Basically best advice I was given and that was last year Yeah I'm gay...deal with it!

You're not alone ok there are plenty of us out there!
Ian x You can always share ur stuff with me!

[amybah]

I understand your fear. Talk with a close friend first, if thats better, and then see what he/she says. It's allways a support


Good luck :)

[Thaliacea]

If you have partner talk with him too . I talked with mine , and we both agreed that we will wait , there is no need to hurry . Enjoy your time with loved one , there will be plenty time later for things like "going out of closet" . :)