What to do

[All_Star_875]

Not entirely sure this is in the right section, but I am just wondering if I can get advice from someone who has been in the same situation as me before. I will try not to ramble...

So I met this guy a couple years ago, and were pretty good friends, only ever since I met him, I guess you could say I've had a crush on him. I am an assumed straight guy, but I really have no idea what I am, if I had to choose right now I would say I was bi, here is my reasoning:

I can tell I feel different whenever I talk to him, compared to when I talk to other guys. I fantasize about him a lot, although I don't want to go into to much detail ;)

Pretty sure he is straight, although he is one of those guys who you can't be certain. He is not afraid to talk about sex, in fact it is probably his favourite thing to talk about.
Plus, sometimes he does some pretty gay things, and if I had just met him I would assume he was gay, and he says things like "If you want it, just ask" but he is laughing when he says it so I have no idea how to read that. It's killing me.

Anyway, I dont really know any girls, been going to an all boy school my whole life, so I assume my brain could just be substituting this guy for a girl. So I guess I have two questions...

Do you think it is possible for a straight guy to be attracted to another guy? Or does that make him bi. Again, I'm assuming I am bi because I desire a relationship with a girl in the future, but at the same time I feel it would be awesome If he felt the same way about me. I guess I could be gay because I've never felt this way about anyone before but then again I know pretty much zero girls :(

Second question, what should I do? Should I tell him? I have been waiting for the feelings to go away but its been about a year now...

Sorry for the long post. Any help is appreciated.

[James Dean]

I see there is a special friendship with this guy. However, if this is really bugging you, then you have to talk to him about that. There is nothing wrong with asking. Nowadays, there are more straight guys who are comfortable with themselves to act out stereotypes that might be gay. Sexual identity is hard to understand, there really aren't any clear cut answers really. If you want for him to respect your sexuality, then you have to resolve this and talk it over. Bisexuality is what you make it of. Many people will just consider it gay as well but there is Pansexual in which a person is attracted to all genders and transexual or people assigned a different birth gender who wish to go as that.

People are attracted to who they are attracted to. Sexuality might or might not have a big role into it. I'm not saying that people can be converted or it's possible for a straight guy to like gay men, because if a guy is straight in my opinion, he isn't going to be around guys in that way. He is most likely bisexual/gay or any other type of sexuality. The only way to know for sure is asking and take it from there. Take care of yourself. :)

[Zachary G]

what you are describing is a close non-romantic relationship between two men, a form of affectional or homosocial intimacy. sounds like a bromance to me.

[All_Star_875]

I guess I'll tell him then...any ideas on how I would go about doing that? I know there is probably no easy way to do it, but anything is helpful...I really don't want to screw up our friendship...

[lonely_gay_boy]

Just talk to him and tell him how you feel, and if he is your friend then he will accept you for who you are, just dont be to eager when you tell him how you feel about him. Dont make him uncomfortable

[Andrew.1]

Well just because you have feelings about him it doesn't mean that youre gay. Also tell him how you feel odds are he feels the same about you.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Not entirely sure this is in the right section, but I am just wondering if I can get advice from someone who has been in the same situation as me before. I will try not to ramble...

So I met this guy a couple years ago, and were pretty good friends, only ever since I met him, I guess you could say I've had a crush on him. I am an assumed straight guy, but I really have no idea what I am, if I had to choose right now I would say I was bi, here is my reasoning:

I can tell I feel different whenever I talk to him, compared to when I talk to other guys. I fantasize about him a lot, although I don't want to go into to much detail ;)

Pretty sure he is straight, although he is one of those guys who you can't be certain. He is not afraid to talk about sex, in fact it is probably his favourite thing to talk about.
Plus, sometimes he does some pretty gay things, and if I had just met him I would assume he was gay, and he says things like "If you want it, just ask" but he is laughing when he says it so I have no idea how to read that. It's killing me.

Anyway, I dont really know any girls, been going to an all boy school my whole life, so I assume my brain could just be substituting this guy for a girl. So I guess I have two questions...

Do you think it is possible for a straight guy to be attracted to another guy? Or does that make him bi. Again, I'm assuming I am bi because I desire a relationship with a girl in the future, but at the same time I feel it would be awesome If he felt the same way about me. I guess I could be gay because I've never felt this way about anyone before but then again I know pretty much zero girls :(

Second question, what should I do? Should I tell him? I have been waiting for the feelings to go away but its been about a year now...

Sorry for the long post. Any help is appreciated.

Okay I think for one you should not assume what is sexuality may be - nor your own.

You have know each other for 2 years a great friendship maybe you spoil it by telling him how you feel - I am not saying its wrong loads of people have a crush on at times -

[SethfromMI]

It is hard to say, you are at least curious. if you do not think he will respond too negatively, at least talk to him about it