Why Is Getting Over Someone So Hard?

[kay_jay]

I was in a complicated relationship with this one person and after we ended things I thought I had actually gotten over this person and rarely thought about them and now its so hard not to think about them and the fact that we can never be together hurts even more. Has anyone else ever gone through something similar and how did you handle it?

[thetransylvanianguy]

You've asked why is getting over someone so hard. Well, it's because of the very strong emotional bond between you two which hasn't been returned to you by the person you love? I, personally, haven't gone through a situation similar to this (since I have never had a partner) but have heard of people who have. I would advise you.... going to a counsellor, it might help you, perhaps.

[Thaliacea]

I am going right now trough it. I know that pain , when you think : " That person is right person" , and then you hear the words "Sorry but i didn't feel the same" or " We can't never be together" . That just tears the soul apart. But , as time moves one you will learn how to deal with it. Believe me , there is nothing worse than hope. Hope that one day you will be together again. That is what is actually killing...
Stay strong and remember: There are many man chances out there. Just give it a time :)

[Metonite]

I met a nice girl few months back, everything was going so well, nothing was wrong and I guess I fkd it up, she started to lie and soon stopped talking, well I did because I didn't see the friendship to go any further. It was painful because I hardly hang out with girls at all, in fact been like year or so when I last had a female friend. The first week was so painful, I hated that I had to become old me again, just sit at home doing nothing, After a week I was feeling alot better but after couple months, I still keep thinking about her everyday and wondering what went wrong, guess the reason was being shy... but I still don't see a logic at dumping for that. Wonder if all girls around here are the same.

[maniamsmart]

Yes I've gone through this. The best medicine is to keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends, talk to new people, and find the good in others that you could not find in that person that you are having a hard time getting over.

[kay_jay]

Thank you all for your responses, they are greatly appreciated :)

[maniamsmart]

Thank you all for your responses, they are greatly appreciated :)

Your welcome, hope they helped :) Good luck!