I have this friend...

[Alex_53]

I have a friend who's been self-harming for a while now. Every time I talk to her she's just miserable. She admits everything and is very open but doesn't know how to stop. She's cutting on her hips and above her pubic region so that her parents don't see them. What can I do? Should I tell someone?

[amgb]

Hi Alex~ Its a really good sign that she's being open about it because she's reaching out and thats always the first step to getting better. I'm really glad you're there for her, I think she definitely does need someone and as her friend I hope that you can support her through what she's going through. I know it's hard for both of you, especially her because she's self harming. The tricky bit is telling someone else about this. I've never been in your position before because a couple of my friends who self harm already have a lot of people around them who know about it. I'd suggest for you to ask her first, gently. Ask if she's ready to open up to more people. Tell her you care and you just want her to have as much support as possible. If she feels ready then that's really good, but if she doesn't then don't force or push her. But if you are with her and there is any emergency you need to tell someone. By the way do you know if anyone else knows about her self harming?

[Alex_53]

Hi Alex~ Its a really good sign that she's being open about it because she's reaching out and thats always the first step to getting better. I'm really glad you're there for her, I think she definitely does need someone and as her friend I hope that you can support her through what she's going through. I know it's hard for both of you, especially her because she's self harming. The tricky bit is telling someone else about this. I've never been in your position before because a couple of my friends who self harm already have a lot of people around them who know about it. I'd suggest for you to ask her first, gently. Ask if she's ready to open up to more people. Tell her you care and you just want her to have as much support as possible. If she feels ready then that's really good, but if she doesn't then don't force or push her. But if you are with her and there is any emergency you need to tell someone. By the way do you know if anyone else knows about her self harming?

Wow this is great advice! Thank you. I know that a couple of her closer friends and her cousins do but I don't think anyone outside of that circle is aware...

[amgb]

Wow this is great advice! Thank you. I know that a couple of her closer friends and her cousins do but I don't think anyone outside of that circle is aware...

That's okay : ) Thats really good she has more support. I hope that she does feel supported and not so lonely. Feeling alone is the worst feeling, isn't it. I really hope things work out Alex~

[amybah]

Im sorry for your friend

She needs you more than ever
Dont judge her (im sure that you didnt) and be allways on her side if she wants to talk.
You should be patience because its really hard to get over it and i understand it because im a self harmer too.

You can search some informations on Internet about how to help your friend.

Or you can sugest her this site! This site is really good for teenagers in troubles. And it's a really good support.


I have to congratulate you for your actitude. You are a good friend and she is really lucky for having you. :)

Good luck, and i hope that your friend gets better! :)

[suzzysmith2012]

She needs help and somebody to love her and help her move on and get to brighter days. She needs to know she can move on and get better.