I'm in love with another boy but I'm not sure if he is gay/bisexual or not

[Confused1233]

So basically I started to get to know a boy really well over the past few months who I've know for about a year. I've started to fall deeply in love with him (well I'm pretty sure) but I'm not sure if he likes boys too. When I say we have gotten really close I mean we have gotten seriously close to one another! We have messaged eachother every single day sometimes for over 12hrs for about 2 months. In these messages we tell eachother everything! We sometimes give eachother x's, love hearts and everyday we tell eachother we love eachother! Although we do say we love eachother I don't know if he means it in a friendly way or that he is actually in love with me too. When we are together he seems to be quiet and not like how he is when we message! We have got cosy together (him placing his head on my shoulder) a couple of times before we got very close but since we have become close he isn't so cosy with me. I don't know if he is just scared to make a move or if he doesn't want to get too close with me ( because he might be straight). He openly says I'm hot and we tell eachother how hot we both are. He is also very open about talking about other attractive men and will say things like "he's so hot" or "he is just so attractive". He has had girlfriends and talks about girls when we are around eachother. I know a lot of signs point to him liking me too but I'm so afraid that if I do anything irrational I might ruin or relationship! we are both teenagers. What are your thoughts? Feel free to ask me questions if you want to know more!

[Thaliacea]

Man... this is the same story as mine. And mine didn't end up well. Mine advice is to go for it. Find the moment when you are alone , if you are close and he is shy then it is up to you. Do it. When he places your head on your shoulder it is the perfect time!

This is mine story:


Hello everyone!
I am new here , so sorry for not introducing my self and sorry for bad English as it is not my first language , but i have really big problem.

Ok i define myself as a straight guy. I had girlfriends , had sex with them , everything was good. But... I started watching porn when i was 11. I watched only straight porn but i realized that i like penis. So i started watching gay porn. And i like it. I watch it for 7 years(i am 19 now) ... Nobody knows. I am living healthy life with friends i am great student , normal guy.

But i met this guy. And then something happened. We started going out as friends. Everything was great. I realized he was great guy. He said he never had guy friend and so on. One day we got out and started talking about sexual things. And he said something like "We are different , you are dragon (dunno why) and i am unicorn" . And that is when i got it... He admitted that he is gay. But i wasn't repulsed , on the contrary...

I started to like spending time with him even more. And i felt like falling in love. I never felt something like that with any girl. He started sending me messages like "i have wet dream with you" and something like that and i got really confused with myself. Like , i met many gay people , i talked with them , and they were all like girly-gays but he is . Like straight guy friend , but gay.

So nobody has a clue that i get attracted to same sex. I have great guy friends. Best guy friends. We had sleepovers , slept in same small bed. Nothing ever happened. But this is different.

Today he called me to go to his apartment. I went , he was alone. We talked , it was ok . Then he put his head on my shoulder. Everything was still ok . Then he started measuring our palms and mine was bigger. Then he put his hand closer to mine. I was cool , like ok. Then he asked if he can touch my hair. I approved and then i felt something in stomach. I was confused , like slapped. Then from stomach it got to my jeans , but he didn't notice , i hope so. Then he took my hand and started playing. I got so horny and confused at the same time. I had to go cause i was late for lecture. Really late. So he didn't want let me go and grabbed my palm. But then he left it.

We hugged as i was leaving and i think that he wanted to kiss me , so he just put his head on my chest. I was still confused , can't explain the feeling. Then i left , i wanted to go back and kiss the shit out of him , but couldn't... i was sitting in a bus and thinking , having mixed feeling. I wanted to go to him after my lecture , but he said he cant , must go somewhere , and i think that was a lie cause he expected something.

We chatted via facebook and sms and i told him i have to tell him something that is bothering me. So , i need your advice. Should i just tell him , or should i do something . Is this only something that will pass or? I am really , really confused and i just can't talk to anybody about this. I am not so brave. Thank you

[DoodleSnap]

Considering the openness and honesty involved in the relationship, I would just casually ask what he believes his romantic interests/sexuality to be. By the sounds of it, there could be a relationship growing, but putting a toe in the water first, so to speak, is always a good way to find out where the relationship is at. I hope all goes well C:

[Steve Jobs]

When the time is right, you'll know it.

Don't speak too fast and become quiet too soon, but definitely don't let this opportunity pass if you feel like it's one not to!

Before you go about discussing with him, I would recommend taking some time to yourself. Go to your favorite place, a quiet spot perhaps, and really think about what you want from a relationship, and where you see your futures align.
Doing so helped me so much and things aligned from there

From what you've mentioned it seems like he's fairly open about his sexuality and I would highly doubt he's completely straight edge :p