Is this normal for a boyfriend to do?

[Drummer Ben]

Okay I'm gonna say it out loud. I sometimes can't stand my sisters boyfriend. Is this normal for couples to do. My sister is 3 years younger than me at 15 and her boyfriend 16 comes over our house almost every night. They just go to their room to make out so no one goes upstairs. then he expects us to feed him. Well I'm assuming he expects it because he always sticks around for food. My mom falls for it too.

I don't know. If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't go over the parents house, rarely. I would take her out on the town for the night and drop her back off at her parents. Of coarse I'd meet the parents but isn't it weird how her boyfriend is this close to the parent.

Maybe I'm not sure how things work. They've only been "official" now for about a couple weeks.

It's just extremely annoying when I come home from school and want to take my pants off (figure of speech) and I got strangers over my house all the time. God forbid my sister ever hangs with the family anymore.

[tasminsmith]

my bestfreinds boyfriend is always going round her house and stays for ages some boys are just like that. non of my exes liked coming to my house unless I was alone.

[Daracon]

That would honestly annoy me too haha

[Hideous]

If you are uncomfortable with him around, speak to your sister about it. Ask her if she can invite him over just not as often, I'm sure she'll understand.

[DoodleSnap]

Their actions are likely a result of both of their respective affections for each other, so try not to lay all the blame on the boyfriend. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation, maybe you could approach either your sister or her boyfriend about it, to see whether other alternating arrangements could be made. Maybe it is just a case of getting to know him more, but as long you manage to approach the situation with a cool head and an open mind, all should go well.

[Magenta]

I think it's a bit inappropriate that he's using your house almost like a second home. I understand they want to be close and they're young but they're not in a seriously committed relationship yet if it hasn't been that long and you should be allowed to have some of your own space without seeing him all the time.

Talk to your sister or your mum and see about enforcing some new ground rules.

[intrigued]

It depends on the relationship, really. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 20, we've been together 6 months now and I'm around his house most nights through the week. His parents love having me around, they always ask if I want to stay over at weekends or if my parents go away. My boyfriend's home is like my second home because I am so welcome there. They make me dinner, take me home etc but if they didn't feel comfortable in me coming over then I wouldn't.

[maniamsmart]

I think it's a bit inappropriate that he's using your house almost like a second home. I understand they want to be close and they're young but they're not in a seriously committed relationship yet if it hasn't been that long and you should be allowed to have some of your own space without seeing him all the time.

Talk to your sister or your mum and see about enforcing some new ground rules.

I agree with this, it's your house too and you have a right to say what happens in it, especially when it concerns someone that doesn't live with you. However, I will say this, for some people it is normal, if and only if they've talked about it and agreed to it. It seems like he really is just expecting it, and your sister and mom don't really care and just let it happen. Speak your mind, it's always healthy :)

[mattsmith48]

sex and a free meal i agree with you he shouldn't do that but I understand the guy

[maniamsmart]

sex and a free meal

Lol, this should be a meme. True though.

[Drummer Ben]

So true!

[cookiemonstermatt]

Okay I'm gonna say it out loud. I sometimes can't stand my sisters boyfriend. Is this normal for couples to do. My sister is 3 years younger than me at 15 and her boyfriend 16 comes over our house almost every night. They just go to their room to make out so no one goes upstairs. then he expects us to feed him. Well I'm assuming he expects it because he always sticks around for food. My mom falls for it too.

I don't know. If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't go over the parents house, rarely. I would take her out on the town for the night and drop her back off at her parents. Of coarse I'd meet the parents but isn't it weird how her boyfriend is this close to the parent.

Maybe I'm not sure how things work. They've only been "official" now for about a couple weeks.

It's just extremely annoying when I come home from school and want to take my pants off (figure of speech) and I got strangers over my house all the time. God forbid my sister ever hangs with the family anymore.

This will probably piss your sister off but start acting like he's your brother. He lives in your house. Your mom feeds him. Act like he's your brother. If you walk around the house in your boxers around family then do it to him. Ask him to help with your homework or something. See if he wants to play xbox with you. When he asks you what's up, tell him.

[Drummer Ben]

I should do that. I wouldn't mind if they kept to themselves but literally they act like God. Your a bother if your near them at any point. Can't be upstairs when there making out, can't be downstairs when there eating, give me a break. and my mom man sucks up to them 24/7. Non stop buying stuff and letting them do everything they want. Meanwhile me being 3 years older gets all the bull. My mom lets her boyfriend do everything with my sister. Drive in the snow, out till 2am. Please if I want to go anyone late it's always a fight. She doesn't even care that they drink. She's 15 for crying out loud. I know she knows they drink out at parties, get drunk. Damn your right. Gotta stop being the coward hiding away from them in my room. I'm taking back the house.

[CreativeUsername]

Yeah, you're the big brother. Tell your mom that they need to stop doing this, or talk to your sister.