ladies: nervous about giving 1st head

[lisa S]

OK, question. My best friend (we're all 16) is super nervous about giving a bj. She's never given one but wants to blow her bf--if she can drum up the guts. We and another friend were discussing this over the weekend. I was kinda nervous before giving my first..like it took me a couple chickening out at the last minute over a couple days/ times hanging with the guy before finally doing it. Our other friend just did it with her first. So I guess my question is ladies, were you nervous the first time you did it? Are most girls nervous? How long did the nerves last? What finally got you "over the hump" ti give the guy your first bj. Also, was he a bf or just a hookup?

[Taryn98]

I was nervous the first time doing everything but after you do it a few times, it's not a big deal. That's normal

[RachelW]

i was a little nervous but it is fun

[twirlgurl]

Honestly - im really concerned. Not giving one, but actually doing it right and being "good" at it. I never have, but when i do, i want my bf to be satisfied and happy, and i dont want to be a disapointment cause i know that lots of boys stuff like that is important to them. Sooooo... how to practice or without actually being with a boy? internet to the rescue i guess. But i still wont know until it do it the first time i guess.

[Katie_Collins]

I have only done it once and i was nervous, but its not that bad once you get used to it.

[cutie123]

I was very nervous but you have to remember that most likely the guy is just as nervous!

[Daniella98]

I guess you think you have to live up to what you think he has seen in porn. If thats not the case, then forget what Im saying...

If it is the case: dont believe its fast up and down and annoying noises he really wants. If you just do what you want to do with it, you dont look like your struggling to do it. In fact the bj would feel softer for him and cause you do what you want, you look like you want to instead of nervous. And why should you be nervous if you dont have anything to live up to. Do as you please and he will like it too, Im sure

[lisa S]

Ahh, see, this is why I love this site! You can get honest feedback cause like no one's here to impress anyone.

Anyways, ya, so like my other friend and I keep telling our "scared" friend that it's no big deal and the guy probably only cares that he's getting some and won't even know/ care if it's bad. Not to sound gross but we've also tried the "getting a mouthful of cum is a rite of passage to being a teenager" and it's not that bad and you get used to it after a couple times with her to calm her nerves...all so far without much luck. We've told her just to hunker down and just do it and not worry about anything...she's chickened out every time so far!

What have some of you guys done to calm your/ a friend's jitters? Guys will enjoy the bj regardless, right?

[intrigued]

At first, I was pretty nervous but once you start doing it, the nerves go away.

[Beth]

I was very nervous at first. Just the thoughts of having something he pees out of in my mouth was nerve racking. But got past it and enjoyed it very much. Now I love giving the more than he loves getting them.

[ijustwanttobearhino]

I can't remember too much but as someone said before me a lot of the time the guy is just as nervous.

[Jour_Nuit]

Honestly, I was very nervous thinking he will cum in my mouth... but its not that bad.
I think i will love this site :)))) lol

[biancachica]

I was very nervous the first time. I didnt really know how to do it and I wanted to pleasure my bf at the time. Also i was scared of chocking on it since it looked big for my mouth and I have gag reflex. Also the taste and smell, especially if he precums or cums in my mouth a bit. After doing it it wasnt as bad as i expected but still wasnt a pleasurable experience for me. however you get used to it and learn to like it for the sake of pleasuring your man!

[Claire Asteroid]

I would be really nervous and I don't think I'd like it. I've never done it but the idea seems not nice and I don't think I'd like having his cum in my mouth.

[BritEmily]

I was nervous at first, and the cum was a bit of a surprise (how fast it came out), but I've come to love giving them, especially watching his face as I suck him :-)

[pamela1]

There is not much more for me to add here what's already been said, but I was nervous too the first time. Just like anything else, you wouldn't know what to expect until you actually do it. For me personally I enjoy it so much that my boyfriend doesn't have to beg for one :)

[Magenta]

I can't say I've ever been nervous because I've never had any desire to suck a dick.

However, I'm assuming all will go well as long as no teeth are involved. Really, what else could go wrong? Anyway, tell your friend just to relax. And don't pressure her. No one's first blow job is good. Seriously, if it is, it's probably not the first or you're just some sort of... blow job prodigy (I honestly could not find a better way to phrase that).

[richiex]

from a guys point of view, i can tell if the girl is nervous or scared and would never pressure her to do something she wasn't ready to do

[pinkgurl16]

I was nervous the first time but now I love the feeling of having a penis in my mouth.

[richiex]

Honestly - im really concerned. Not giving one, but actually doing it right and being "good" at it. I never have, but when i do, i want my bf to be satisfied and happy, and i dont want to be a disapointment cause i know that lots of boys stuff like that is important to them. Sooooo... how to practice or without actually being with a boy? internet to the rescue i guess. But i still wont know until it do it the first time i guess.

im sure you will be just fine when the time comes

I was nervous at first, and the cum was a bit of a surprise (how fast it came out), but I've come to love giving them, especially watching his face as I suck him :-)

seems like a lot of girls like seeing the look on a guys face when he ......

I was very nervous but you have to remember that most likely the guy is just as nervous!

I was scared to death

[Rosalina]

I was nervous at first, but once it was in my mouth I loved it.

[emily-candace]

I havent given my first bj yet, Im 18 but do I make him wash down there first and do I start sucking him when hes hard or soft and what are my indications that hes going to cum when Im sucking him? Will I gag on his cum or just spit it out or swollow it?

[sunnieseason]

I'm pretty nervous about it. I've never given head, but I have seen a real penis and it's kind of weird looking. I'm kind of scared to try it....does it taste like anything? is it gross to feel it in your mouth?

[Beth]

I'm pretty nervous about it. I've never given head, but I have seen a real penis and it's kind of weird looking. I'm kind of scared to try it....does it taste like anything? is it gross to feel it in your mouth?

No a penis doesn't like anything unless it is poor hygiene of the penis or foreskin. Feeling gross in the mouth is personal preference just like sucking on a thumb. I hope this helps.

[sunnieseason]

No a penis doesn't like anything unless it is poor hygiene of the penis or foreskin. Feeling gross in the mouth is personal preference just like sucking on a thumb. I hope this helps.

Thanks Beth. I guess I should try it slowly. At the moment I'm not interested in giving head to some randoms so I'll have to wait for a boyfriend.

[Kochanek]

Thanks Beth. I guess I should try it slowly. At the moment I'm not interested in giving head to some randoms so I'll have to wait for a boyfriend.

If you are scared to take it into your mouth, perhaps first try to kiss and lick it.

It absolutely drives me crazy to feel lips or a tongue at my glans. And this little skin strap that conects the glans with the foreskin on the downside of my penis is so sensitive and touchy, I even can bring myself to huge orgasms by only rubbing that point with a single finger!

After you have kissed or licked some parts of a penis, it might be easier for you to take it into your mouth.

[stoneflowe96]

I was kind of scared. But I must also say that I never got comfortable with giving head

[Jennboh]

i was really nervous the frst time, but you get used to it.

[richiex]

I was nervous the first time but now I love the feeling of having a penis in my mouth.


I love ur honesty

[NilnocK]

If she isn't ready, she probably shouldn't

[hockeyfan]

Honestly this is a guy saying it and u shouldn't b nervous.

Just do it. As long as u don't bite him it will b fine.

[jen698]

i was nervous the first time but as it went on i began to rely like it and it went away in no time

[hyperdude]

can a girl bite of a guys penis??? i mean, if shes like evil and want to hurt him, is it possible? :what:

[Vermilion]

can a girl bite of a guys penis??? i mean, if shes like evil and want to hurt him, is it possible? :what:

Possibly, I know a girl that fell back when giving head and bit trying not to fall back, he ended going to hospital

[hyperdude]

Possibly, I know a girl that fell back when giving head and bit trying not to fall back, he ended going to hospital


omg what she think?? "ill bite him to hang on"!?!?!? is this how girls think?

[Vermilion]

omg what she think?? "ill bite him to hang on"!?!?!? is this how girls think?

I think it was more it will break my fall

[playfull-qt]

Even if i bit down as hard as i could i dont think id make it all the way through

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