Authoritative, unfair parents

[Mski16]

Hi everybody. I'm a junior in high school, and this is when all hell breaks loose, which has certainly happened to me. Lately, my parents have been a bit bossy and kinda controlling.

It's almost like I can never satisfy them. They're on my ass about school and my school work, but all within good reason. I know they just want me to have a good life as an adult, but it's beginning to feel like they want me to be a perfect student. On top of that, our relationship at home is deteriorating. They don't understand my sister or I, but they think they do. Whenever I'm not doing school work (chances are, on the weekends of I'm lucky), I'm basically just doing chores. Whenever i finish one thing, it's on to the next thing. They think i'm just like them; I can just clean up my room or under my bed whippety-slick, in about an hour. Besides that, I think they're treating my younger sister better-- she does less work, gets an equal allowance, and has more privileges.

I feel like I'm on a treadmill that has no front edge and is going faster than I can run. I do plan on cashing out of this shitty town the night i turn 18, but only a couple of my friend know that. I have some symptoms of depression, but my counsellor and I both agree I'm not really clinically diagnosable with depression. I am certainly not suicidal.

How do y'all suggest I deal with this? I don't really see any way ahead.

Thanks in advance.

[Thunderstorm]

I don't know how much your sister does exactly, so I can't compare. However, it seems you are taking on more of the work regardless. One reason I can think of for this is that you are the older sibling. Your parents may have given her more privileges but you have more responsibility. You are the first children of theirs that will be sent into the world. They are preparing you by giving you more work. I always thought I had more pressure being the oldest, but I was just given more responsibility and in the end, I'm faring better than my young sibling who my parents don't trust as much. Your depression is what probably makes this seem worse than it is. I would just recommend asking you parents for some privileges more often, and prove to them that you have the responsibility to earn those privileges.

[Lottie]

I don't really know what to suggest. I think I know what I would do, I would tell them where to go, but It would probs make things worse.

Maybe try telling them how you feel?

Other than that, not sure, sorry.

[randyboy]

Hey I sort of understand, sometimes parents are a nightmare and not like us at all, and yeah you can think why did they have me.

But it's ok you learn to work around stuff well I do, but you're not alone and like me brave to come on here and be you!