Getting more depressed

[Thunderstorm]

I came out to my parents recently, and I've been very depressed. Nothing has been the same. They said they would love me no matter what but then they say they don't believe in the gay lifestyle. they think it's anti-life. They said I've closed all doors to having a relationship with my closest friends ( since I told them I was gay) but they don't get that I'm not attracted to girls so it doesn't matter. They come from a day and age where being gay isn't acceptable and my dad keeps telling me it's not tolerable and people get killed but I'm not even out publicly. They think I'm gay because I've never had a girlfriend, don't believe in myself and have trouble finding my true identity They think I have CHOSE this and that I wasn't born this way. But I physically and emotionally can't like girls. To me, this is all about them getting grandkids and being selfish, even though I can have a surrogate or adopt. I just can't take it, I want to run away and put them in their place for making me feel this way. I can't live like this. How do I not fall into a severe depression? My parents are rehab counselors which makes them even more concerned.

[Jaseblader]

Hope it helps

[Jaseblader]

I came out to my parents recently, and I've been very depressed. Nothing has been the same. They said they would love me no matter what but then they say they don't believe in the gay lifestyle. they think it's anti-life. They said I've closed all doors to having a relationship with my closest friends ( since I told them I was gay) but they don't get that I'm not attracted to girls so it doesn't matter. They come from a day and age where being gay isn't acceptable and my dad keeps telling me it's not tolerable and people get killed but I'm not even out publicly. They think I'm gay because I've never had a girlfriend, don't believe in myself and have trouble finding my true identity They think I have CHOSE this and that I wasn't born this way. But I physically and emotionally can't like girls. To me, this is all about them getting grandkids and being selfish, even though I can have a surrogate or adopt. I just can't take it, I want to run away and put them in their place for making me feel this way. I can't live like this. How do I not fall into a severe depression? My parents are rehab counselors which makes them even more concerned.

Ok well umm
1 congrats for coming out to them

2 different people have different opinions... Your not going to change their ideas and theories about gay people but what you can do is let them accept you... That doesn't mean they agree or disagree with you being gay. You have to make them accept you. Try to ask something like " You liked me before why don't you like me now " or replace like with another word, but show that your the same guy that's been living there, nothing has changed whatsoever.

[riverboy]

You need someone you can trust to talk to that can help you. You said your parents are councilors but being their son has clouded their thinking. Someone to relive the pressure and help you speak out. Do you have a place to go for a few hours a day if needed to escape from the pressure?

[Thunderstorm]

You need someone you can trust to talk to that can help you. You said your parents are councilors but being their son has clouded their thinking. Someone to relive the pressure and help you speak out. Do you have a place to go for a few hours a day if needed to escape from the pressure?

Well I talk to people online.