my boyfriends extremely suicidal...

[rileyedens]

ok, so my boyfriend has been depressed for a wail and has also began to self harm. but hes recently gotten really bad, and he has told me that he has been considering suicide. we face time every night and talk, some nights untill 2:00am, often he will have a "melt down" and just start crying and says things like "I just can't do this anymore" " there's no point in anything" and "I hate myself" and things of that nature. when he does this I just try to listen and be there for him and say reassuring things. its very hard to get information out of him(like whats wrong) one night he told me he had a plan he would have complicate before he...ended it. I have tried asking more about it and I think its like a bucket list kind of thing, but he wont tell be whats on his plan because "if he tells me it wont work." he claims that if it wasn't for me he would already be dead. and some of the things he says and when he crys I cant help but cry to, i try my best not to and to be strong for him but the thought of loosing him rips me apart, and when this happens he shuts down even more because he doesn't want to hurt me. i love and care for him so much and i'm not sure how to help him. he refuses to talk to anyone but me, and thats alot for me to handle. i think he needs professional help, i would talk to a school counselor but i don't want to upset him. can someone please just tell me how i can help him, i can see him fading away and im so scared in going to loose him:(
he has also told me his mom is verbally abusive.
p.s. sorry i'm a horrible speller and sorry if i didn't make alot of sense i wrote this really fast

[RavleIncarnate]

1. Almost nobody cares about spelling, as long as they know what you typed.
2. You said he closes up when you start crying because it tears him apart to hurt you. Say that you're crying because the most he will ever hurt you is if he loses himself and commits suicide, and it hurts you if he doesn't tell you. This might make him open up when you cry instead of lock him up.

[SethfromMI]

If he i truly suicidal, he needs professional help. I don't mean that in a mean way, it is nothing to mess around with

[jssixna]

You need to get help for your boyfriend. If you truly love him enough you should really seek professional help. He may be upset at you but later on he will thank you for saving his life. Suicide is a serious topic and his life matters.

[riverboy]

He needs help! Run don't walk to get the help he needs. This is way over your head. What would happen to you if he does commit suicide (you lost him here) or involves other people in his plan. He is hurting you now and may hurt other people so don't wait.