Bad Sex

[dsmith1919]

Would you break up with your GF/BF because they are Bad at Sex?
My GF gived me a BJ for the first time last weekend and it was terrible. I told one of my buddy and I said I should break up with her.

[mattsmith48]

You should probably talk to her 1st tell her what you like and don't. She probably doesn't have a lot of experience if it doesn't get better do what you think is best

[Magenta]

Lol, if you, at 15, think the sex is gonna be good, you are sorely mistaken. You can make it special or you can just go at it but the truth of the matter is that sex for the first time with anyone is absolutely terrible.

Give her a chance. I do understand that a healthy and enjoyable sex life is a fairly large aspect of relationships for most people but you're in high school. The odds of anything being mind-blowing is... well, pretty nonexistent.

So no, I wouldn't break up with them. Not in your situation anyway.

[phuckphace]

age: 15

I'd say that's the least of your worries right now

[dsmith1919]

Lol, if you, at 15, think the sex is gonna be good, you are sorely mistaken. You can make it special or you can just go at it but the truth of the matter is that sex for the first time with anyone is absolutely terrible.

Give her a chance. I do understand that a healthy and enjoyable sex life is a fairly large aspect of relationships for most people but you're in high school. The odds of anything being mind-blowing is... well, pretty nonexistent.

So no, I wouldn't break up with them. Not in your situation anyway.

I have receive BJ before that was the worst by far

[riverboy]

Dude this makes you sound so shallow. If you care for your gf, then you should talk to her and tell/show her what you like and don't like. How did you do in pleasing your GF? She should also have the same talk with you. Another question is if there was no chance for sex would you break up with her?

[Magenta]

I have receive BJ before that was the worst by far

I'm 19 and I'm pretty sure if I blew a dude, it would be absolutely awful. Why? I've never done it (nor do I want to but that's beside the point). She probably doesn't know what she's doing. Rather than breaking up with her, tell her what you do and don't like.

If you wanna have sex, you need to be mature enough about it to have some communication going. Communication during sex is just as important as any other aspect of a relationship. No one is gonna get it right off the bat. If they do, well, lucky draw, I guess.

[Uranus]

Not to be rude...but that'd be a douche-y move. Sex isn't the #1 important thing in a relationship. If that's what you are looking for. You might as well not be in one. If you think it's gonna be great at 15, I don't know what you been drinking lol (no offense)

[dsmith1919]

Dude this makes you sound so shallow. If you care for your gf, then you should talk to her and tell/show her what you like and don't like. How did you do in pleasing your GF? She should also have the same talk with you. Another question is if there was no chance for sex would you break up with her?

I didnt went down on her yet. Yes I would break up with her if there was no chance for sex

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Look, you are 15, sex isn't supposed to be your main standing point. Yeah, okay, sex is cool, anything touchy feely is cool, but just because she gave you one or two shitty blowjobs doesn't mean she's a shit person. If it's her first shot or if she hasn't done it much before, give her a chance, I was probably extremely shit when I tried to do so. If it's still not that good, let her know what's up.

Not to be to blunt about it, but honestly, breaking up with someone because they are shit at giving you a blowjob is probably an extremely crap reason for doing so. She's probably a nice person at heart, considering you didn't mention anything bad about her as a reason for breaking up with her other than that.

[CharlieHorse]

If you're thinking about breaking up with her just because she doesn't meet your standards for blowjobs, then yes, you should break up with her. She definitely deserves a better boyfriend and someone who's more mature than someone who just wants their dick sucked.

[phuckphace]

agreed with CharlieHorse.

OP probably watches a shitload of porn and got pissed when a 15 year old girl couldn't deepthroat like the pornstars he jerks off too. somebody's going to have a miserable ass dating life when he's older

[Gumleaf]

If you're thinking about breaking up with her just because she doesn't meet your standards for blowjobs, then yes, you should break up with her. She definitely deserves a better boyfriend and someone who's more mature than someone who just wants their dick sucked.

My thoughts exactly. At best you're being shallow, but personally I think you're much worse than that. You need to mature more before having a girlfriend. She's not just there to get you off!

[Princess4Life]

It's so wrong to break up with someone because "the sex is bad". That's just so wrong!

[Gumleaf]

It's so wrong to break up with someone because "the sex is bad". That's just so wrong!

Exactly! People like that make my blood boil.

[Princess4Life]

Exactly! People like that make my blood boil.

It means they just care for themselves.

[Gumleaf]

It means they just care for themselves.

Mhmm. I mean, I always saw having a girlfriend was about the relationship, being the best person you can be for them and vice versa. Perhaps I'm a bit old fashioned or something? But when my ex and I were together, my best memories were from having fun together and not our sex life. Not because the sex life was bad, but because that was just the bonus of being in a great relationship. But like I said, maybe i'm old fashioned? But to even consider ending a relationship based on a first sexual experience with someone is a low act.

[Princess4Life]

Mhmm. I mean, I always saw having a girlfriend was about the relationship, being the best person you can be for them and vice versa. Perhaps I'm a bit old fashioned or something? But when my ex and I were together, my best memories were from having fun together and not our sex life. Not because the sex life was bad, but because that was just the bonus of being in a great relationship. But like I said, maybe i'm old fashioned? But to even consider ending a relationship based on a first sexual experience with someone is a low act.

I agree with you 100%. Like if I had a boyfriend who wasn't good at sex, I wouldn't dump him because of it. I care more about how he would treat me as a person more then how he is in bed.

[Gumleaf]

I agree with you 100%. Like if I had a boyfriend who wasn't good at sex, I wouldn't dump him because of it. I care more about how he would treat me as a person more then how he is in bed.

Yep, I agree. I'd hate to think how I would feel if the basis of a relationship I was in was purely based on bedroom performance. Infact I wouldn't be able to call it a relationship if that was the case.

[Melodic]

You hold way too high of expectations. Most people aren't going to be perfect on the first try. If your relationship status is based on if you have good sex or not, it's not a relationship. Sex should be a a part of relationship, not the whole deal. I think you should break up with her or be honest on how you view the relationship.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I don't think I could say it any better than those above me.

[Zachary G]

Youre a dick if you break up with her because she isnt really great at giving bjs. Did it ever occur to you to give her some direction while she was doing it to make the experience better for yourself and easier for her? Probably not. Next time slow things down and give her some direction on how to do it properly for both your pleasure.

[maniamsmart]

I am going to be straight blunt with everyone here. If you break up, because sex is bad, because you don't get sex, or anything in that specific area, you are not ready for a relationship. In fact you are not ready for love, and don't even understand it. If you didn't even talk to your partner about it, communicate with them about it, or anything like that and blindly just decide to break up, then that's just pure inexperience and you have lots to learn.

So to answer the question, no, I would not break up with my girlfriend, the person I love and that makes me happy, just because she can't give an amazing blowjob. Does the blowjob make you happy? Or does she make you happy? If the blowjob makes you happy, then please, go to the club and find someone who is looking for a one night stand, there's your good blowjob. If she makes you happy, your girlfriend, then why the hell are you worrying about it.

And you're 15... not to be an asshole, but people like you are who make the younger generation what it is today. And I am not saying it's your fault, because I understand that others may have influenced you and what not. But my advice to you is to look above and beyond your peers, and show that you're the better person. Some people are in relationships for a year or two and they don't even have sex yet.

I apologize for any offense I may have caused it's just really sickening and irritating how some people think now a days. If anything, please, talk to her first about it. At least show that you have some care and understanding from her viewpoint.

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked: