3 Year Anniversary With My Angel! <3

[maniamsmart]

Yup, you read correctly. The dude with the picture of Riven who gives all the good and long advice responses to some of the threads here has a girlfriend and is in a relationship. In a successful one at that for 3 years. I just thought I'd share it with you guys because I am really happy, and well... you guys are my friends and I kinda see this community like a family, because we all care for each other. So yeah :) A lot of my advice is based off of my relationship right now and past relationships, and if you haven't guessed it yet, this is also why I have such a strong opinion on age difference not mattering, because me and my girlfriend are 3 years apart, sometimes 4 when my birthday comes first :P

But yeah, if anyone is interested in seeing some pictures of us, reading a bit about my relationship in more detail or seeing the video I made for her for our 3 year anniversary, check out my recent blog post (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/blog.php?b=41227), because all of it is there. I just wanted to bring some happiness to this part of the forums though because I know a lot of times there is just sadness, confusion, heartbreak and feelings of being lost. For many of you who were thinking about long distance dating, this may bring some hope to you too.

But yeah, thanks for reading and taking the time to congratulate if you do! If you have any questions though feel free to ask! Love you all!

[Hideous]

Congratulations, y'all look so cute! Next time you play W101 again, hmu! (hit me up), games can really bring people together!

:P

[maniamsmart]

Congratulations, y'all look so cute! Next time you play W101 again, hmu! (hit me up), games can really bring people together!

:P

Thanks :D We don't really go on it that much anymore, just occasionally, but I'll be sure to message you when we do :)

[SethfromMI]

awww good for you :D 3 years is very impressive! :)

[maniamsmart]

awww good for you :D 3 years is very impressive! :)

Thanks :D And yeah it is, none of my friend have a relationship for that long, and with how society is now a days, most relationships don't last very long either sadly.

[Melodic]

Congratulations! Hope that you two will have many more!

[maniamsmart]

Congratulations! Hope that you two will have many more!

Thank you, I hope so too :) I hope we will be that one couple that has a really long history and have like 60 anniversaries :P

[David_L2]

Congrats and best wishes : )

[CuteGuy889]

Congratz.man.............
Me & my GF have been together for 3 years....but those 3 have years of massive change..Whn I met her I was a skinny kid bring bullied by my older cousins and lacked ocnfidnece. She showed me how to stand up for myself....

and she really got me to study hard to reach the top of my class....

Also she got me to change my body image...Until 14 I was stick skinny. I had a small girlish face, limbs were virtual sticks and I was bullied cos of this......Then by 15 or so I started to gain a little...Initially it was bearly noticeable...just a bit of a love handle my GF found amusing and I denied........I started to starve myself...But my GF helped me pick up my self image. She would undress me in front of a mirror and make fun of my skinny-fat body, and say how cute I look with my new weight on..check where I have gained..where she can pinch more....then if privacy permits take me to TV, sill in my briefs, and enocurage me to have a hearty normal meal....she would rub my belly and push me to finish my portion and even eat more...

This way she got me to gain and bulk up.. from 46kg to 65+ kg at 5 foot 11..in 2 yrs... waist went from 25 in to 36, face plumped up, , grew a bubble butt too...I am not the "skinny mouse" and more and bullying was past...I too now enjoy my gain..I have now got proper body proportions so all clothes from briefs to tee shirts hang on me better. I carry by body with pride, I even dare go for improptu sea baths just in my briefs........

[maniamsmart]

Congratz.man.............
Me & my GF have been together for 3 years....but those 3 have years of massive change..Whn I met her I was a skinny kid bring bullied by my older cousins and lacked ocnfidnece. She showed me how to stand up for myself....

and she really got me to study hard to reach the top of my class....

Also she got me to change my body image...Until 14 I was stick skinny. I had a small girlish face, limbs were virtual sticks and I was bullied cos of this......Then by 15 or so I started to gain a little...Initially it was bearly noticeable...just a bit of a love handle my GF found amusing and I denied........I started to starve myself...But my GF helped me pick up my self image. She would undress me in front of a mirror and make fun of my skinny-fat body, and say how cute I look with my new weight on..check where I have gained..where she can pinch more....then if privacy permits take me to TV, sill in my briefs, and enocurage me to have a hearty normal meal....she would rub my belly and push me to finish my portion and even eat more...

This way she got me to gain and bulk up.. from 46kg to 65+ kg at 5 foot 11..in 2 yrs... waist went from 25 in to 36, face plumped up, , grew a bubble butt too...I am not the "skinny mouse" and more and bullying was past...I too now enjoy my gain..I have now got proper body proportions so all clothes from briefs to tee shirts hang on me better. I carry by body with pride, I even dare go for improptu sea baths just in my briefs........

Aww cute story, you know that girl really loves you. Hope you guys last for a very long time :) Congrats!

[Gumleaf]

Congrats. Great to hear that you're so happy. Hopefully there will be many more years for you too. I envy you.

[churris]

Congratulations! Glad you two are happy :)

[maniamsmart]

Congrats. Great to hear that you're so happy. Hopefully there will be many more years for you too. I envy you.

Thanks :) I am sure your time for your special someone will come too though. "He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind."

Congratulations! Glad you two are happy :)

Thank you :)

[CanadianJake]

It's amazing to see an actual relationship work out for several years, reaching three years is such an achievement in my opinion because most relationships I've seen have ended within either a few hours to a few weeks to a few months. The fact you both have managed too make it this long is amazing! Congratulations to both you and her! :)

[DoodleSnap]

Congratulations! That is a wonderful thing, there is nothing like spending time with that person you just love.

[Steve Jobs]

Congrats dude!
It's so heartwarming to see a happy couple go through the ups and downs of a committed relationship like yours. I am too in a long distanced one - got a bit of catching up to do :P

[maniamsmart]

It's amazing to see an actual relationship work out for several years, reaching three years is such an achievement in my opinion because most relationships I've seen have ended within either a few hours to a few weeks to a few months. The fact you both have managed too make it this long is amazing! Congratulations to both you and her! :)

Thank you, and you're right most relationships don't last very long, which is kinda sad. But I am sure everyone will eventually find their special someone. I guess for me it was just lucky to find it this soon.

Congratulations! That is a wonderful thing, there is nothing like spending time with that person you just love.

Thank you :)

Congrats dude!
It's so heartwarming to see a happy couple go through the ups and downs of a committed relationship like yours. I am too in a long distanced one - got a bit of catching up to do :P

Awesome! How long have you guys been together so far? :)

[Steve Jobs]

Awesome! How long have you guys been together so far? :)

Just a couple of months so far :P

[CanadianJake]

Thank you, and you're right most relationships don't last very long, which is kinda sad. But I am sure everyone will eventually find their special someone. I guess for me it was just lucky to find it this soon.



Thank you :)



Awesome! How long have you guys been together so far? :)

You're welcome and yeah most relationships are just doomed in failure just as they start truthfully, they may start out fine but then things just take a downward spiral. It wasn't luck that brought you the special someone, it was fate that brought you both together. Either way it's good to see you guys going on three years, quite an achievement!

[maniamsmart]

Just a couple of months so far :P

Well I wish you luck, I remember when I was in my relationship only for a couple of months, there were doubts, dreams, wishes, and fears :P

You're welcome and yeah most relationships are just doomed in failure just as they start truthfully, they may start out fine but then things just take a downward spiral. It wasn't luck that brought you the special someone, it was fate that brought you both together. Either way it's good to see you guys going on three years, quite an achievement!

Thank you for your warm words of encouragement :) And I agree with you, and perhaps you'll share this viewpoint with me. What I've noticed is that all relationships go downhill, they are supposed to. But a relationship is not defined by how many times or how early it goes downhill, rather it is defined by how that relationship gets over those obstacles and climbs back up the hill, that is what makes a relationship strong. As you said, relationships tend to spiral down when they are fine in the very beginning, but it's both persons in the relationship's responsibility to keep their relationship near the top of that spiral.

[Steve Jobs]

Well I wish you luck, I remember when I was in my relationship only for a couple of months, there were doubts, dreams, wishes, and fears :P



It's been a dream thus far, but I suppose it's all part of our journey :)

[maniamsmart]

It's been a dream thus far, but I suppose it's all part of our journey :)

Of course! But dreams can become reality.

[CanadianJake]

Well I wish you luck, I remember when I was in my relationship only for a couple of months, there were doubts, dreams, wishes, and fears :P



Thank you for your warm words of encouragement :) And I agree with you, and perhaps you'll share this viewpoint with me. What I've noticed is that all relationships go downhill, they are supposed to. But a relationship is not defined by how many times or how early it goes downhill, rather it is defined by how that relationship gets over those obstacles and climbs back up the hill, that is what makes a relationship strong. As you said, relationships tend to spiral down when they are fine in the very beginning, but it's both persons in the relationship's responsibility to keep their relationship near the top of that spiral.

Indeed and I do agree with that viewpoint! The problem I've noticed is most of the relationships I've seen have just ended because they didn't take the time to get through those obstacles, most just jump into a relationship without even trying and don't even know the hurdles that will come between them. A lot of them just end up dating for a week then bang they are off to another person to pursue a relationship with that person. Those type of relationships are drowning out the good relationships that you don't see actually working out. It takes two people to work out a healthy relationship, of course your gonna experience hurdles and obstacles but that's what a relationship is about. No relationship is gonna be perfect and they aren't meant to be perfect either just like humans, we aren't born to be perfect either but that's what makes us human beings. So it's just good to see you two have found a way to get through those obstacles and managed to pull through them if you ever had to experience them! :)

[maniamsmart]

Indeed and I do agree with that viewpoint! The problem I've noticed is most of the relationships I've seen have just ended because they didn't take the time to get through those obstacles, most just jump into a relationship without even trying and don't even know the hurdles that will come between them. A lot of them just end up dating for a week then bang they are off to another person to pursue a relationship with that person. Those type of relationships are drowning out the good relationships that you don't see actually working out. It takes two people to work out a healthy relationship, of course your gonna experience hurdles and obstacles but that's what a relationship is about. No relationship is gonna be perfect and they aren't meant to be perfect either just like humans, we aren't born to be perfect either but that's what makes us human beings. So it's just good to see you two have found a way to get through those obstacles and managed to pull through them if you ever had to experience them! :)

Yes, as I mentioned in my blog, my girlfriend had a lot of problems in the beginning but I really helped her become better not only for me but for herself too. And you're right, I really hate those relationships that I constantly see on Facebook that tend to go like this: "I am so happy, you're the best thing that ever happened to me", after a week of dating, and then after another 2 weeks it's over. It's so annoying and close minded.

[CanadianJake]

Yes, as I mentioned in my blog, my girlfriend had a lot of problems in the beginning but I really helped her become better not only for me but for herself too. And you're right, I really hate those relationships that I constantly see on Facebook that tend to go like this: "I am so happy, you're the best thing that ever happened to me", after a week of dating, and then after another 2 weeks it's over. It's so annoying and close minded.

Well that's actually quite normal to have problems in the beginning of the relationship but you both gotta work through it like you did, you were determined to work through it to help her get through whatever it was and to help the relationship as well. I agree with what your saying, I've seen so many facebook posts regarding relationships, every day sort of thing I see "He/she is my life", "What will I do without him/her" etc. It starts to get a little bit annoying because those type of relationships aren't even gonna last, it's like a week or two later bang they broken up. Personally I think maybe they shouldn't make it official on facebook yet, wait a few months before making it official on facebook. Because as soon as you go into a relationship and post it on facebook it seems like people break up more. So the best way is to get things worked out in real life before making it official on facebook if you get what I mean. It feels like that's when the drama starts, people are always attempting to get in the way of the relationship and saying stuff to people like you guys don't really belong together, you guys should break up or having someone do whatever they can to attempt them to break up. Either way I think this is the cause of many breakups right now and it's due to social media, if it wasn't around I'm sure many relationships would work out. I'm not blaming all social media though but I think a good part of it is due to it. That's my view point anyways.

[Body odah Man]

Gzzzz

[maniamsmart]

CanadianJake

Good point really, social media really has distorted a lot of relationships and caused many breakups, but like you said it's not all bad, and it's not the only blame. Social media has also created many successful relationships as well :)

Body odah Man

Gzzzz as in congrats? Or as in geez? :P

[CanadianJake]

maniamsmart

It has really, most relationships are just ending up broken after a week at most. Most times things just don't work out and then they end up hating each other for what reason? just because their relationship didn't work out doesn't mean they can't stop being friends unless something really bad happen between them which they can't work out. Anyways yes social media has created many successful ones as well, it's good to see the bad and the good of social media. But it ain't only social media, it's celebrities as well, they have many loyal fans that look up to them so in some ways the fanbase see them dating someone and end up breaking up a few days or a week later. So many cultures are to blame besides social media as well. Many things are different compared to the way it was back in the day.

[maniamsmart]

CanadianJake

Very true, and I for one treasure these changes of evolution. I see it as a gift to have the knowledge of how things went 10 years ago, and how things are now. I mean I can remember 10 years ago, most people still didn't have internet, and now it's pretty common to have it. I told this to one of my friends the other day, because he was talking about how young people are so much more sexually open now, and I gave him the same reason. I said, "man, time has evolved, back when we were kids, we didn't know that much about sex, none of us were bisexual, none of us knew sexual jokes, it's the era of the internet changing the way kids are growing up." And it's not all bad again, some kids get educated, I mean I see 12 years now on YouTube teaching others how to fix something on their computer and whatnot, but then there is always the other side of the coin where so many 12 years now are already sexual, and even younger kids now are swearing already and all that crap.

It's just really interesting to see all these changes before your eyes.

[Uranus]

That's really awesome!

[maniamsmart]

That's really awesome!

Thanks :D

[Body odah Man]

CanadianJake

Good point really, social media really has distorted a lot of relationships and caused many breakups, but like you said it's not all bad, and it's not the only blame. Social media has also created many successful relationships as well :)

Body odah Man

Gzzzz as in congrats? Or as in geez? :P

As in congrats.

[maniamsmart]

As in congrats.

Ahh, okay, figured lol. Well thank you :D Hope your having a great day :)

[Body odah Man]

Ahh, okay, figured lol. Well thank you :D Hope your having a great day :)

I am thanks. Hope you are as well.

[CanadianJake]

maniamsmart

I know exactly what you mean, evolution has changed so much. Things are still changing before our very eyes and sometimes I worry that it's too much to soon but unfortunately with that comes the downside of some our younger generations. Sadly they are smarter but they are also learning too much to soon as well, like learning about sex for example. They are still somewhat a kid in their mind even though they are nearing the age of a teenager. I mean yeah it's their choice and what they do in their own time is their business I guess but still it's not right that they are experiencing adult things at such a young age and truthfully music videos are not helping that either. I guess I'm still somewhat not open to the idea but either way I do think with us being more open with stuff comes with more responsibility. A lot of things are changing with society with good and the bad. Hopefully things will slow down eventually but it will be awhile.

[maniamsmart]

CanadianJake

The main problem isn't so much that they are learning more and getting smarter, it's more of a problem that they feel like they have the right to do what they want. With all this freedom on the internet it makes people really stubborn, self-righteous, and close minded to other's thoughts and beliefs. This has happened with a lot of my younger friends, and even was something that my girlfriend had a problem with. Like you said, responsibility is a key factor in this, and at a young age, you just don't have that. You don't have experience, you've only lived for two handful of years with not much experience in the open world, interacting with different people, difference in opinion, etc., and that's what is causing all the terrible decision making. If people were responsible and knew about all of this information about sex, drugs, making money, etc., then there would be no problem, it would be beneficial, but it's the fact that there is no responsibility at such a young age that causes the decisions to go wrong.

[Croconaw]

Congratulations! Your story is very inspiring. :)

[maniamsmart]

Congratulations! Your story is very inspiring. :)

Thanks so much, glad you liked the reading :)

[CanadianJake]

CanadianJake

The main problem isn't so much that they are learning more and getting smarter, it's more of a problem that they feel like they have the right to do what they want. With all this freedom on the internet it makes people really stubborn, self-righteous, and close minded to other's thoughts and beliefs. This has happened with a lot of my younger friends, and even was something that my girlfriend had a problem with. Like you said, responsibility is a key factor in this, and at a young age, you just don't have that. You don't have experience, you've only lived for two handful of years with not much experience in the open world, interacting with different people, difference in opinion, etc., and that's what is causing all the terrible decision making. If people were responsible and knew about all of this information about sex, drugs, making money, etc., then there would be no problem, it would be beneficial, but it's the fact that there is no responsibility at such a young age that causes the decisions to go wrong.

Sadly this is where parents need to step in to show that they don't have the right to do what they want, yes they can have some freedoms but they can't let them get away with everything. The internet has become to free for kids, they've let themselves see the bad which they think it's good which they allow themselves to do things which they aren't supposed too. I try to be open minded as much as possible but there's times where I can't be open at all but I try my best. The internet has transform many things from good to bad but it's up to the parents in some regards to watch over them. Your right if they knew about all this information but also how much information is too much information if you get what I mean, how much information can one person hold at such a young age for example sex. Sex is a wonderful thing but many young teens are doing it without the proper knowledge behind it what makes it worse is 12 year olds and probably younger are doing it now as well. It's actually scary that it's happening but the fact is a lot of this information is incorrect or misrepresented. A lot of things need to be changed with how much information can a young teen face but also has some responsibility with themselves as well. I understand they can't have mom and dad watching over them 24/7 but once in a while they do still need to watch over them as they are still growing up, allow them the freedoms but also still watch over them in some ways. Not all the time but from time to time they need to watch over them if you get what I mean. I do know that teens do need space as they grow older, they need to learn to live without mom/dad but they still need them as well.

[maniamsmart]

CanadianJake

Completely right, parents lacking parenting skills are a major source for these problems. I would know, because my gf also doesn't have the greatest mom either. Sometimes I feel like there are some valuable morals missing in her, as I see with others as well, so it's really parents and they need to get better. But hey, better for us, we get to see the flaws in parents now a days and avoid those mistakes when we are parents.