Am I gay or straight or bi

[haydendonnelly]

Well I'm an 18 year old guy and for a long time I've felt like I'm attracted to guys. I have nothing against gays but it's just not what I want to be. I've always pictured myself with a beautiful wife and to be a good living tough husband who protects his wife. Like this has been my ultimate goal in life for a long time. I have no desire whatsoever to be with a guy. This is where it gets confusing. I'm attracted to the male body, the role of the male in a Herero relationship, and the guys faces. I do like to see guys naked and touching themselves very occasionally there's a guy that I would jerk off and when I'm really horny I think about doing them (never me being penetrated). That always goes away pretty fast however. I want nothing to do with a guys asshole. Also I'm disgusted by semen I gag on the sight of it. Also I'm only attracted to guys who have perfect bodies. So it's not a lot of guys at all. When it comes to girls Im not attracted to them the same way but I do get excited at the thought of having sex. I have had a girlfriend and we had sex and I enjoyed it a lot and I want to do again. But I don't lust after girls like ever. I dont have any desire to see girls naked and I would rather not eat a girl out but I would. I do like checking out girls asses and imagining doing them from behind, but that's rarely. So this is why I'm extremely confused please help!

[SethfromMI]

yes very confusing. you sound at least bi-curious, if not, bisexual. you say you are not attracted to girls the same way, but still love having sex with your gf?

take some time out and think about what it is you like and want. there is no time table on needing to figure it out

[Thaliacea]

we share the same demise :)

Until you try both, you can't tell which you like more.

[scottishguy]

Well I'm an 18 year old guy and for a long time I've felt like I'm attracted to guys. I have nothing against gays but it's just not what I want to be. I've always pictured myself with a beautiful wife and to be a good living tough husband who protects his wife. Like this has been my ultimate goal in life for a long time. I have no desire whatsoever to be with a guy. This is where it gets confusing. I'm attracted to the male body, the role of the male in a Herero relationship, and the guys faces. I do like to see guys naked and touching themselves very occasionally there's a guy that I would jerk off and when I'm really horny I think about doing them (never me being penetrated). That always goes away pretty fast however. I want nothing to do with a guys asshole. Also I'm disgusted by semen I gag on the sight of it. Also I'm only attracted to guys who have perfect bodies. So it's not a lot of guys at all. When it comes to girls Im not attracted to them the same way but I do get excited at the thought of having sex. I have had a girlfriend and we had sex and I enjoyed it a lot and I want to do again. But I don't lust after girls like ever. I dont have any desire to see girls naked and I would rather not eat a girl out but I would. I do like checking out girls asses and imagining doing them from behind, but that's rarely. So this is why I'm extremely confused please help!

Hi, I'm glad you posted on here because I have some really good advice for you.

I'm 17 and gay, but when I was 12/13, I thought in the same way as you. I thought I was only really sexually attracted to guys and when I wasn't horny I imagined myself with a girlfriend and really wanted to be straight. However, that's when I knew few "normal" gay guys and was around some pretty unaccepting people. Now, though, I'm around the most welcoming people I can imagine. I'm at a school where nobody gives a damn about another person's sexuality. I'm still "one of the guys" even though I'm gay and there's even rugby players and bodybuilder guys who admit being attracted to the same sex and nobody cares.

In the same way, if you were around people who were supportive then you would feel perfectly fine about having a relationship with a guy. It's your environment that is causing you to think this is not okay and something to hide. My advice would be to forget labelling yourself as gay/bi/straight, like who you like, don't repress anything, get a girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever you want and surround yourself by people who will support you. When you step outside of your own part of the world you'd be surprised that most people in the developed world are completely okay with homosexuality.

Good luck :)

[twirlgurl]

Do social labels really matter when it comes to sexual feelings? It is like "belonging" to some club or exclusive group?

I have a number of friends at school that are openly gay. And i asked them how they know, since they are my age too. Basically they said being intimate with a girl was almost repulsive too them and they can't even connect emotionally. Seemed pretty straight forward reason for me.

But then i started to think (scary i know). But some girls like heavier boys, others like muscular or athetic, or skinny boys. Some like rebel types, and others like smart guys. And the idea of being put off by another body type - even if of the opposite gender - doesnt make them any more or less a person, or a girl. So really, Its just about preferences. Right? WHat you find attractive and comfortable. I see sexuality pretty much the same way. Some men prefer to be with other guys, or are more comfortable with traditionally feminine things. That doesnt make then any less of a "man" or a person.

I am confused about lesbians though. because they like woman, which is cool, cause girls rule. but they use "toys" and stuff that look like a penis??? Like, wait???

Is "bi" really a sexuality?? Seems to me that someone that claims to be "bi" is just open minded. Am i wrong?