Not feeling good enough compared to famous guys.

[haydendonnelly]

So I'm 18, male, and for a long time I've had this thing where I get extremely jealous of people for things. Their houses, their popularity, looks, humid, etc. I tend to get obsessed with the person I'm jealous of which is usually a guy. Lately it's been Dylan O'Brien. It's nothing sexual or anything Im straight, I just see all these girls freaking out over his looks and how funny he is and I get so insanely jealous. I'm obsessed now. I'm jealous that he's talented, good looking, famous, funny, etc. I constantly think about him and how I want what he has and it kills me because I know I will never be as good looking as him, never be famous, people won't scream when they see me and fangirl. I know it's dumb but I can't help it. I wake up and I need to watch stupid videos of him for whatever reason. I need help it's killing me and destroying what little tiny bit of self confidence I have. Am I just craving attention? Please help thank you!

[Thunderstorm]

I totally understand you. I get jealous for similar reasons and I think most guys do, straight or not, they just won't admit it. It's great that you admitted to it and even asked for help. I think it's perfectly normal for a guy your age to be jealous. It could stem from not having good looks, having good looks but not having girls, etc. However, sorry to tell you that if you want girls, they aren't going to come running to you like Dylan O'Brien. You have to make them like and notice you. Go out there and socialize with them. Don't be timid. Furthermore, do NOT let this destroy your self-confidence. You will not get girls if you have too much jealousy or not enough self-confidence. Good Luck!

[SethfromMI]

it is ok. so many times we think the grass is always greener on the other side. but often it is not. think about Robin Williams. the man had so much, yet, he was actually depressed. many young people die of drug overdoses, trying to kill the pains they carry in their life.

try to learn to be happy with you and the life you have.

[Bougainvillea]

No matter what you're just going to have to just accept yourself and the way you are. It can be really hard to learn how to love yourself, I know. But if you want to live up to a certsin image you have of yourself then you should work towards it. Wash your face, go to the gym, get a good haircut and get a good job. Work towards what you want, and once you get it, trust me. You won't even think about all of the other shit you were jealous of, because guess what? You'll already have all your own shit, and will just be doing your own thing. And it builds confidence.

Set goals, and reach them to the best of your ability, and you'll be able to appreciate yourself, and someone else will see that and will appreciate you too.