Cutting

[ezekialar]

So, there's this girl i am in love with. (my g/f)

a few months ago, she told me she has and sometimes does cut herself. Its been so bad before that shes tried to get help for it from friends. she doesnt want to go to a counselor. I understand what makes people want to cut and why they do it, tho i never have. It just worries me so much because i would do anything for her. i care about her so much. I mean, when my brother was about to die from a car accident i didnt cry because i was holding in my emotions but ive cried over her before. She knows i would do anything for her, and we've had a couple conversations about the fact that she does it, but i really want her to get help. She hasnt done it in about a month and a half, but i never know when she could do it again. and everytime i think about her doing it i almost start to cry because i know that if something were to happen to her i would run to her and i would rather have something happen to me than to her. she knows that. i guess i just need some advice on what to say. im reading a book that i got from my counselor on self-harm, and im understanding it a lil more, but i want her to talk to someone who can really help her. she just doesnt want to do it.

any ideas on what to do?

[steven]

well... i know im not supposed to do this... but GET THIS GUY SOME HELP.... mainly because it is very serious and you can tell he really cares about her... and because its happening to me... im not going to go into detail about it though... and if mods want to delete this post and want me to make a new one - with even more detail, then feel free to do so...

so please... anyone give some advice...

Steve

[bahari mtoto]

well...i don't really know much about cutting or anything but...even though your gf doesn't want to see a counselor I think you should try everything in your power to get her to see one (or some other expert). You need to make sure she knows the extent of how much you care and make sure she knows you'll be there for her the whole time she's getting help and if things get too intense for her you'll be there to protect her. Last thing she needs to know is that its for her own good.
Hope this helps you out. Good Luck!

[-Silence]

Don't force her to go to a counselor if she doesn't want to. She needs to want help to get it.

All you can do is be there for her, if she needs to talk, just be there. Let her know that you love her and that you are with her no matter what.

The best thing my boyfriend ever did was be there for me. After I had cut, he just sit there and hold me, he didn't look down on me for doing it, or get mad because I had done it. He celebrated with me when I had gone a while without it, and he was there through the tough shit too.

All you can do is be there for her. Talk to her. Make sure she's safe when she does it.