Fighting with my mom

[sunnieseason]

Hey everyone. My mom and i have been fighting a lot recently. About a year ago we moved in with my uncle and my two older cousins. My uncle is really awesome and is super easy going and logical while my mom is crazy and irrational all the time. My cousins are both girls and are really sweet and awesome people so I know that he knows how to be a great dad. I just want my mom to chill out and learn from my uncle and not freak out so much. I love her and I hate yelling at her, but I can't take it sometimes.

Do you fight with your parents? How do you deal with it?

Love,
Summer

[Wafflenado]

Well, my mom is bipolar, so I have to deal with this on a WHOLE different level, but I can see where you are coming from. You have to understand that she's probably just worried about you, and doesn't really know how to handle the stress it causes her. I had a fight with my mom last week and it ended in a lot of crying, but she told me that she knows I'm growing up, and she doesn't want me to leave ever. But, she knows it's going to happen eventually, and the only way she can handle her stress is through her anger. Me personally, I'm a hugger, so I'll usually just hug her to try and calm her down when she gets rampaging mad at me, and it usually works. If we get into a little argument in the car or something, I just say I'm sorry for whatever I did to stop it from continuing before either of us say something we wish we hadn't.

[SethfromMI]

I do not fight with my parents, but they are pretty reasonable. sadly, it does not seem like your mom is very reasonable. while it may not seem fair, just try to nod and agree with her. even apologize if it will make her feel better. try to keep in mind you will be 18 and will not have to deal with it too much longer, though that may not be the healthiest way to look at it either

[sunnieseason]

Hey Nick and Seth,

Thanks for the responses. I do love my mom, but I think she thinks I'm going to make the same poor choices she made as a kid. She thinks that because my cousins are older that when I hang out with them I'm out doing things like drinking, but she doesn't know that what we really do is just geek out about something silly. She thinks I'm out doing the things she did at 13 like having sex and doing drugs and stuff. I'm so not like that.

I just want her to see that I'm intelligent and not stupid.