Pregnancy scare

[PinkFloyd]

I really fucked up this time. I was having sex with my girlfriend of almost a year and at the worst moment possible, the condom actually broke. I thought they're supposed to stretch like 3 feet but it doesn't matter HOW it broke, but the fact that I could be a dad at 17 years old. Hold me, VT...

[Magenta]

Okay, look. You didn't fuck up. Condoms break. They're usually pretty durable. But sometimes you get a dud. Or maybe the way you were storing them wasn't great. Either way, you were using one which is more than a lot of people can say when it comes to pregnancy scares.

First, is your girlfriend on birth control and has she sought out the day after pill? Probably the best steps to start.

Second, be supportive. You're both gonna probably be freaking out. It was an accident but be responsible about it. That's the only way to make this better. You won't know for awhile so, in the meantime, sit down and talk to her. Make sure you are ready to hear whatever outcome. Maybe discuss options but don't expect to come to a decision. Just make sure there's an open line of communication.

And, this is advice for the both of you, I'd actually say to tell someone sooner rather than later. Don't spring it on anyone. You should probably confide in your parents and say "look, this is what happened, it was an accident, we were trying to be safe about it, but it happened" and odds are they'll be more receptive than if you just go "uh crap, my girlfriend is/I'm pregnant".

I always say that if you think you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to handle what might happen. I don't say that to be patronizing though. I'm saying it because I think that, as freaky as it's going to be, you can step up and handle whatever is coming your way. And don't be afraid to ask for help. It's the mature thing to do and you'll have people on both of your sides hopefully.

[SethfromMI]

I am sorry man. keep us posted. know this though: no matter what happens, it is not the end of the world. it may feel like the end of the world, but it is not the end of the world

[jordanhardy]

I know how you feel dude, my ex missed her period once and we though she might be pregnant. Luckily she wasn't but it's a scary time. Best get your girlfriend to take a pregnancy test and tell somebody if she is. Good luck buddy

[PinkFloyd]

Okay, look. You didn't fuck up. Condoms break. They're usually pretty durable. But sometimes you get a dud. Or maybe the way you were storing them wasn't great. Either way, you were using one which is more than a lot of people can say when it comes to pregnancy scares.

First, is your girlfriend on birth control and has she sought out the day after pill? Probably the best steps to start.

Second, be supportive. You're both gonna probably be freaking out. It was an accident but be responsible about it. That's the only way to make this better. You won't know for awhile so, in the meantime, sit down and talk to her. Make sure you are ready to hear whatever outcome. Maybe discuss options but don't expect to come to a decision. Just make sure there's an open line of communication.

And, this is advice for the both of you, I'd actually say to tell someone sooner rather than later. Don't spring it on anyone. You should probably confide in your parents and say "look, this is what happened, it was an accident, we were trying to be safe about it, but it happened" and odds are they'll be more receptive than if you just go "uh crap, my girlfriend is/I'm pregnant".

I always say that if you think you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to handle what might happen. I don't say that to be patronizing though. I'm saying it because I think that, as freaky as it's going to be, you can step up and handle whatever is coming your way. And don't be afraid to ask for help. It's the mature thing to do and you'll have people on both of your sides hopefully.
Thanks for the support. I really, really appreciate it. Even though I don't see you here that often, you're still in my opinion, one of the best members on here.
As for the subject at hand, we both told our parents. Mine are supportive and hers are too. We got the best possible outcome. She still has yet to test for pregnancy. And when we started doing things, we both knew what we were getting into. Plus, it could be far, far worse. We could be dealing with like HIV.. You know, something actually terrible. Again, thanks for your advice. We sat down and talked through everything but I think I'm gonna talk with her more.

I am sorry man. keep us posted. know this though: no matter what happens, it is not the end of the world. it may feel like the end of the world, but it is not the end of the world

Yeah, I know it's not the end. It's possible pregnancy, not HIV. We're going strong still so that's good. Thanks for your response.

I know how you feel dude, my ex missed her period once and we though she might be pregnant. Luckily she wasn't but it's a scary time. Best get your girlfriend to take a pregnancy test and tell somebody if she is. Good luck buddy

Thanks man, I appreciate the reply.

[Magenta]

Thanks for the support. I really, really appreciate it. Even though I don't see you here that often, you're still in my opinion, one of the best members on here.
As for the subject at hand, we both told our parents. Mine are supportive and hers are too. We got the best possible outcome. She still has yet to test for pregnancy. And when we started doing things, we both knew what we were getting into. Plus, it could be far, far worse. We could be dealing with like HIV.. You know, something actually terrible. Again, thanks for your advice. We sat down and talked through everything but I think I'm gonna talk with her more.


See? You're handling this just fine. I hope everything goes well and hey, keep us updated if you still need the support as things unfold. We're all here.

[PinkFloyd]

See? You're handling this just fine. I hope everything goes well and hey, keep us updated if you still need the support as things unfold. We're all here.

Thanks a bunch, Jo.

[phuckphace]

HIV is highly unlikely, just going to put that out there. if either of you had HIV you would have already spread it to the other by making out (which I assume you and your gf do on occassion).

as for the kid, I hope not but it's far from the worst thing that could happen to you.

[PinkFloyd]

HIV is highly unlikely, just going to put that out there. if either of you had HIV you would have already spread it to the other by making out (which I assume you and your gf do on occassion).

as for the kid, I hope not but it's far from the worst thing that could happen to you.

Yeah, I meant that I know it's not any type of sexually transmitted infection. So yeah, pregnancy is by far not the worst. Thanks for the response by the way. :)

[phuckphace]

Yeah, I meant that I know it's not any type of sexually transmitted infection. So yeah, pregnancy is by far not the worst. Thanks for the response by the way. :)

*facepalm* I'm sleepy, I tend to misread posts sometimes lol

just don't sire a whole litter of mini-Robs, that might get expensive :lol3: but you seem pretty mature for your age so one Rob Jr. wouldn't be that bad :P

[PinkFloyd]

*facepalm* I'm sleepy, I tend to misread posts sometimes lol

just don't sire a whole litter of mini-Robs, that might get expensive :lol3: but you seem pretty mature for your age so one Rob Jr. wouldn't be that bad :P

Just one would not only be financially bad but instead a miniature me... Scary shit, yo. :lol:

[maniamsmart]

Carmilla gave a better answer than I could, props to her. Hope everything goes well for you.

[Dennis98]

I know how you feel ... Similar thing happened to me last August .. I ended having sex without protection with some unknown German girl while I was totally drunk .. I succeed to leave Tunisia ( i was on holiday ) without any consequence to me . I know it isn't nice to flee from your obligations , but what I could do ?! I could accept fact that kid she is carrying mine and to destroy my whole life ... I left her covert with 10k euros , that is kind of my excuse for all of it , although I wasn't guilty for that ... She used my drunkenness to have sex with me , instead to call me taxi .. After I left Tunisia , I found some informations about her , but she doesn't know anything about me ... Anyway , I'll become dad of boy this May ... I know that thing I done is clear cowardice , but there wasn't any good epilogue to me except that ... But sure is , I won't forget my son , and I will surely meet with him in some point of our lives ..

I hope your gf isn't pregnant , I hope that everything will finish good , because life is weird , one wrong step and whole life goes fuck up ...
If you need some advice , don't scruple , PM me ..