Anyone Else Living The Boring Single Life? [Archive]

Magus

January 7th, 2015, 11:27 AM

I am almost 23(god, what I am I doing in these forums), I was single since I was 0 year old.

I find it to be really sucky, honestly. And takes quite a mental and physical toll on your, but you will get used to it.

But if you found someone who you can be with, then make sure you take that opportunity.

mariozplaze

January 7th, 2015, 11:45 AM

I've been in a relationship for 10 months now, but before that I was single for about 2 1/2 years, so I know how it feels. When I'm single, I get DESPERATE, which led into a relationship with a girl so clingy it literally made me sick. (That one only lasted a month)
Don't worry man, just be patient, there's somebody out there for everyone! :yes:

Waleedbt

January 7th, 2015, 11:52 AM

Im not sure if i can call it boring.

xlBitterSweetlx

January 7th, 2015, 12:00 PM

I've never had a boyfriend, and it does feel bad sometimes.
But then again, I feel like it's worth the wait instead of jumping into relationships just for the sake of it. c: Plus, the single life does have some privileges (for some people).

Hideous

January 7th, 2015, 01:25 PM

Nah, I think living the single life is fun.

TheN3rdyOutcast

January 7th, 2015, 05:10 PM

Nah, I think living the single life is fun.

Fun?
Yes, when I get to make sarcastic remarks at all the lovey dovey couples holding hands in the hallway.
Depressing?
When I realize that I've never felt the warm touch of another human being, and never felt the strong connection of love with someone else.

Hideous

January 7th, 2015, 05:29 PM

Fun?
Yes, when I get to make sarcastic remarks at all the lovey dovey couples holding hands in the hallway.
Depressing?
When I realize that I've never felt the warm touch of another human being, and never felt the strong connection of love with someone else.

Although I do agree with the fun you might have with living single, there are pretty much other reasons why. It just so happens my type of fun is when everything depends on you. I find that amazing because everyday, I'm getting stronger and even stronger. I get to have lots of alone time where I can venture, figuring out how my emotions, thoughts, and feelings work. I can challenge and put focus on myself to understand myself better; and then I just get better each day.

There are times when I do get depressed about feeling lonely, but that's usually when I'm not happy with myself anymore and I just want someone who can make me feel happy but I learned that I can make myself happy and that's all that matters :)

Wafflenado

January 7th, 2015, 05:40 PM

Haha I love being single. I can honestly say that I don't think I've ever wanted to be in a relationship with anyone. idk maybe I just haven't matured yet lol

TheN3rdyOutcast

January 7th, 2015, 06:05 PM

Although I do agree with the fun you might have with living single, there are pretty much other reasons why. It just so happens my type of fun is when everything depends on you. I find that amazing because everyday, I'm getting stronger and even stronger. I get to have lots of alone time where I can venture, figuring out how my emotions, thoughts, and feelings work. I can challenge and put focus on myself to understand myself better; and then I just get better each day.

There are times when I do get depressed about feeling lonely, but that's usually when I'm not happy with myself anymore and I just want someone who can make me feel happy but I learned that I can make myself happy and that's all that matters :)

My problem is different. Virtually all of my time is alone time. I have no life, no outside-of-school friend, no job, no hobbies, and no way to leave my house once I get home. I constantly feel like I'm missing out on everything and letting the world pass me by, the more time I spend alone, the deeper I spiral into a dark trance where become sedentary, desperate, depressed and lonesome.

Basically, I'm the opposite of you when it comes to alone time, while it helps you function, to me it's toxic.

gads

January 7th, 2015, 06:19 PM

Unfortunately, I have been single my whole life. :(

crazyBoyjJ

January 7th, 2015, 06:29 PM

Omg, you don't know, but I'm in senior year of high school so, I'm too busy for relationships. I'll wait till college

Cognizant

January 8th, 2015, 01:12 AM

Well, I've dated one guy for 6 months, and then another guy for like 3 weeks. Both experiences sucked, tbh.
I don't know if I'm ready for another long term commitment, but I definitely would like to ask someone out sometime soon...

Melodic

January 8th, 2015, 09:11 PM

I'm actually kind of happy I'm single. Relationships always distract me for some reason.

Magenta

January 8th, 2015, 09:43 PM

I've gone through about four relationships. Only one was good but it didn't work out for other reasons unfortunately. I've learned a lot more about myself single than in a relationship. I don't like being single but I like that I'm giving myself the chance to grow and figure out who I am for myself... not for someone else or with them. I want to be my own person before I really get into dating again, I think.

phuckphace

January 9th, 2015, 02:28 AM

I don't want a serious relationship right now or anytime soon. got too much on my plate to worry about that at the moment.

FullyAlive

January 9th, 2015, 11:32 AM

I genuinely don't want a relationship, I haven't really wanted one for a while now I like being single I like being able to flirt with whoever I want, chat to whoever, sleep wherever without ever being questioned on it or having to feel guilty.
At one point I thought I'd met someone who would change my opinion on wanting a relationship but I really really hadn't.

So it might sound cynical but I think I'm happier single and better off alone.

Leprous

January 10th, 2015, 01:58 AM

I'm single, and totally hating it. Having had 2 horrible relationships I actually want a good one for once, but that just seems like it's not going to happen.

Becca029

January 10th, 2015, 02:10 AM

Single :/

CharlieHorse

January 10th, 2015, 03:13 AM

kinda lonely
would like to have someone that I can be close with :/

Semi_IronMan

January 10th, 2015, 12:44 PM

I don't mind being single, I'm actually not ready for a relationship

hope4_lynn

January 10th, 2015, 01:54 PM

yes being single sucks. but then again when you are in a relationship you have the responsibilities of that other person weighing you down.

David_L2

January 12th, 2015, 12:03 AM

not exactly single, but generally prefer being with someone. Nothing wrong with being single though. Always have a trade-off with more freedom...

Greggity

January 12th, 2015, 12:39 AM

Yeah but i'm a playa ;) ;)

maniamsmart

January 12th, 2015, 12:53 PM

Nope.

Some people make their single life fun :P

Kate

January 12th, 2015, 02:54 PM

Sometimes I do wish I had a boyfriend, but I'd rather not rush into any relationship that I know won't last. I'm just reading romantic novels (cheesy, right?) now to past the time until I can find the right guy (even more cheese).

Faolan

January 12th, 2015, 07:03 PM

I'm a bit lonely, but I think it'd be best for me to wait until college.

Uranus

January 13th, 2015, 12:44 AM

No....I'm back in the game! :P happy now!

sunnieseason

January 13th, 2015, 09:38 PM

I'm 13, never had a boyfriend. No offense, but I think boys my age are retarded, lol. I've gone on "dates" but never anything serious. I guess I would like a boyfriend, but maybe only if he was smart and cute. I need someone who can keep me intellectually stimulated o.O

Uranus

January 14th, 2015, 11:47 AM

Body odah Man

January 14th, 2015, 12:54 PM

It sucks to be single :(
Anyone else this way? :(

Yep, totally. As my poem states

All the girls I desire,
None of their hearts I set on fire
My friends, they all have luck in love
Perhaps tis cause they wash with Dove
But when I stride into the game
I am naught but poor and lame.

David_L2

January 15th, 2015, 12:56 AM

sunnieseason

January 15th, 2015, 07:57 PM

Know I was more retarded when I was 13 lol...Hope you find someone nice!

How did David L2 get banned?

Uranus

January 15th, 2015, 08:16 PM

How did David L2 get banned?

That's kept private by the VT staff, unfortunately and for good reason. They want to keep issues like this private. Only the VT staff knows, and they will only know. Usually people are banned for inappropriate content, constant arguments, ECT.

Steve Jobs

January 16th, 2015, 01:50 AM

Waited til the right one came, but I spent a good 20 years in the single life until love struck :wub:
Wait for the right one, who won't weigh you down or cause a burden on your life, and it'll transform you. That's all I can say.

maniamsmart

January 16th, 2015, 06:27 PM

How did David L2 get banned?

My guess is that he was over the age of 20 or under 13, lol, you know how people are with their fake birthdates on websites.

But I do agree with you, boys at that age of 13 tend to be inexperienced and immature, but they'll soon be fit for you, just gotta wait :)

Gumleaf

January 16th, 2015, 07:26 PM

I've been officially single for 2.5yrs, but effectively almost 3 years now. It really does suck and play on my mind so much. The vast majority of my friends, both here and in my 'real life' are in relationships now. It's a very lonely place to be because many of my friends have effectively unofficially de-friended me because when they have entered relationships they don't have time for me anymore, obviously spending most of their time with their new bf/gf as the case may be, which is to be expected. They go and do stuff with other couples and just seems awkward for them if they do anything with me because we're an odd number. There are advantages of being single, esp for me now being all adult and having a job and living with a housemate and not at home. The longer it goes, the more discouraging it becomes when it seems everyone else around are all in happy relationships and i'm left out in the cold. A few of my girl friends have told me that i'd make a girl really happy and she'd be lucky to have me. Well, it seems they are either being really polite or there are a lot of unlucky girls around. Fingers crossed this year might work out better.

tasminsmith

January 19th, 2015, 12:46 PM

I don't like being single but this guy I like is really mixed up

BraydenD

January 19th, 2015, 03:58 PM

yep thats me

maniamsmart

January 20th, 2015, 09:30 PM

Does anyone sometimes wish they were single? Just curious.

Uranus

January 20th, 2015, 10:33 PM

Does anyone sometimes wish they were single? Just curious.

I sometimes do, because at times I'm afraid of being in a relationship, and losing another girl I gave my whole heart to, and to know that being single, I can't get hurt. But I also want to be in one and I'm glad with the one I'm currently in.

ImCoolBeans

January 20th, 2015, 10:39 PM

I've been single for an extended period of time now. I haven't been in a place where I really could have a relationship, or really wanted one to be honest. I'm about ready again, though.

maniamsmart

January 21st, 2015, 12:27 PM

I sometimes do, because at times I'm afraid of being in a relationship, and losing another girl I gave my whole heart to, and to know that being single, I can't get hurt. But I also want to be in one and I'm glad with the one I'm currently in.

One of my friends has been dating this girl for over a year and a half and he sometimes tells me he feels like he wants to be single sometimes. Even though both of them love each other and their relationship is fine, he just feels like he needs to be single sometimes. Not sure if that's normal.

Uranus

January 21st, 2015, 12:34 PM

One of my friends has been dating this girl for over a year and a half and he sometimes tells me he feels like he wants to be single sometimes. Even though both of them love each other and their relationship is fine, he just feels like he needs to be single sometimes. Not sure if that's normal.

That's actually normal. Sometimes we (Who're in a relationship) need to just be alone at times and away from everything.

maniamsmart

January 21st, 2015, 01:06 PM

That's actually normal. Sometimes we (Who're in a relationship) need to just be alone at times and away from everything.

Good, glad he wasn't alone, and I sometimes too feel like that, even though I love my girlfriend so much, but yes, you have a good point. Thanks :)

Uranus

January 21st, 2015, 01:09 PM

Good, glad he wasn't alone, and I sometimes too feel like that, even though I love my girlfriend so much, but yes, you have a good point. Thanks :)

No problem man! You're welcome. At times, even if we are in relationships, we all need some time alone from everything and everyone even if it includes your partner.

Emerald Dream

January 21st, 2015, 01:39 PM

I may as well be in a full time relationship, but I call myself "technically single." I've been dating the same guy for over a year and we don't really have a commitment. I like to go out and date. I guess I am kind of in-between. I just feel I don't have the time or energy at this point in my life to put into an everyday relationship.

maniamsmart

January 21st, 2015, 03:55 PM

Emerald Dream

January 21st, 2015, 04:08 PM

An open relationship?

I guess you could call it that, but it's more about dating than anything else that may be implied. If I didn't already have so much commitment with other things in my life, it would probably be a full time relationship. To be honest, he's a saint for putting up with me.

Magenta

January 21st, 2015, 04:12 PM

I guess you could call it that, but it's more about dating than anything else that may be implied. If I didn't already have so much commitment with other things in my life, it would probably be a full time relationship. To be honest, he's a saint for putting up with me.

An open relationship?

An open relationship is more when you're in a committed relationship with someone and still agree to be allowed to see other people. It's different than just dating.

Some people like to just date. It's more casual, it doesn't have any commitment and you can see more than one person at a time. You're still "single". It's personal preference really. Some people like it, some people would rather date one person and progress into a more serious relationship as that grows.

I can totally see sticking to dating though if you're busy with other aspects of your life. Makes sense if you don't want to commit to something that might not be as much of a priority as the other person wants it to be, though I'm not sure if that's the case for Alli. He sounds pretty great if he's being so understanding about it :P

Emerald Dream

January 21st, 2015, 04:17 PM

An open relationship is more when you're in a committed relationship with someone and still agree to be allowed to see other people. It's different than just dating.

Some people like to just date. It's more casual, it doesn't have any commitment and you can see more than one person at a time. You're still "single". It's personal preference really. Some people like it, some people would rather date one person and progress into a more serious relationship as that grows.

I can totally see sticking to dating though if you're busy with other aspects of your life. Makes sense if you don't want to commit to something that might not be as much of a priority as the other person wants it to be, though I'm not sure if that's the case for Alli. He sounds pretty great if he's being so understanding about it :P

Exactly. He wants a committed relationship, and I want to wait until I have more time. I realize either way it's not fair to him (that's why I called him a saint). It's incredibly flattering that anyone is willing to put up with this situation (or me, in general) when they want something full-time.

As far as I know, it's been pretty exclusive on both ends. It's just not an everyday or full-time thing. But yes, technically I am "single."

TheGentleHerbivore

January 21st, 2015, 05:27 PM

I'm fine being single.
Though I guess it would be just as nice being taken.

maniamsmart

January 21st, 2015, 05:54 PM

Exactly. He wants a committed relationship, and I want to wait until I have more time. I realize either way it's not fair to him (that's why I called him a saint). It's incredibly flattering that anyone is willing to put up with this situation (or me, in general) when they want something full-time.

As far as I know, it's been pretty exclusive on both ends. It's just not an everyday or full-time thing. But yes, technically I am "single."

Alright awesome let's hook up, lol, jk :P

But I get your point, and yeah I agree he must be a really good guy then to actually wait for you and be patient. I know a lot of people wouldn't do that because they really want the person all for themselves. Do you think that this allows you two build a stronger trust bond since both of you aren't in a serious relationship, but are just waiting for the right time? I think it would, no?

Saint of Sinners

January 22nd, 2015, 07:40 AM

I keep telling myself I'm content with loneliness. Never did believe it for a second.

AnnaBeesley

January 24th, 2015, 02:18 AM

yeah I'm single :(

nick_1999

January 26th, 2015, 02:55 PM

Couldn't agree more. And the fact that I'm (not to blow my own horn) a computer wiz doesn't help either XD

Excalibur

January 27th, 2015, 12:56 PM

Does anyone sometimes wish they were single? Just curious.

I do understand why people would want to be single, so they wouldn't get hurt, so they don't have to feel "obligated" to someone, so they could have good relationships with other people without someone being jealous, but I do think that it's very healthy to want and desire and intimate relationship with a significant other. But yes, especially after a hard break-up or a dramatic relationship experience, I can see how people would want to be single for a while, and I would probably want to be single for a while myself too.

maniamsmart

January 28th, 2015, 01:39 AM

I do understand why people would want to be single, so they wouldn't get hurt, so they don't have to feel "obligated" to someone, so they could have good relationships with other people without someone being jealous, but I do think that it's very healthy to want and desire and intimate relationship with a significant other. But yes, especially after a hard break-up or a dramatic relationship experience, I can see how people would want to be single for a while, and I would probably want to be single for a while myself too.

Yeah, some good points there and I do agree :)