Grandfather dying.

[Rawiyah]

I wanted to keep the title as short as I could, but still get the info out.

So long story short, my grandfather was just diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer. At this point, the doctors said they don't recommend chemo and are prepared to give him his amount of time left to live.

I am really upset about that, because I never really got to know my grandfather as well as I wanted to. This was the year I was going to talk to him more.

Anyway, he lives in another state and my family feels I should go and visit him. I want to visit him, but I have a job and I can't just up and leave for a long time without giving a two week notice. I also don't have the money to stay in a hotel because my "family" never has the room for me whenever I go visit. Even now, when I asked my aunt if I could stay with her in her FOUR BEDROOM home, she said she had no room.

So now, my family is really upset with me because they think I'm being selfish. My stupid aunt is now spreading rumors to the rest of my family members that I'm selfish and I'm the cause of my grandfather's cancer. According to her, when I visited with my parents during Thanksgiving, I should have taken him to the hospital. They never seem to think they're responsible for anything. First of all, I don't even live in that state! They do, so they're the ones that should have taken him, NOT ME.

So now no one in my family will call me and update me on how my grandfather is doing because they think I should be there to see for myself. But like I said, I can't! My parents, especially my mom would love to, but we don't have the money to stay in a hotel and rent a car and all of that jazz. So now I have no idea how my grandfather is doing, I don't know if they gave him how long he has left to live or if he's going good or what.

I'm just so frustrated. I have no idea why my family is doing this and blaming my parents and I for my grandfather's cancer.... It's just so stupid.

I'm also so scared. I don't want him to die.

[amgb]

Hi Alexis I'm really sorry to hear about your grandfather : ( I know you love each other very much, even though you didn't get to know him well. And although I don't know your grandfather I bet he's a strong person who will stay strong until the very end. Things are really tough and really hard for you to accept now, and I know it must feel incredibly miserable and scary, especially since your family hasn't been making it any easier. I agree that they shouldn't be blaming you for anything, please know it isn't your fault at all that your grandfather has cancer. It's going to be okay, I promise. I know you feel absolutely terrible, but you can stay strong, along with your grandfather. I pray for your grandfather that he fights as long as he can, and I hope your family really starts thinking through what they're doing because I think they're making you feel worse. I know I'm a complete stranger, but if you need to talk more, I'm here~