FWB age difference?

[Cognizant]

Ok, so I haven't done anything with this person yet, nor do I exactly plan on asking. But from a morale standpoint, I wanted some opinions.

I'm 17, going on 18 in May. There's this other person who I might try experimenting with, but they're only 14. Let's also assume that they were also interested in doing it/experienced attraction for me, or they were the one to pop the question. Do you think it's ok to explore the possibilities since I'm still technically 17? Or should I give it a rest? Obviously if I did I would be careful and not brag about it to my friends or anyone else who could get me in trouble.

[Bmble_B]

Sorry to say but I researched for you. In California, partaking in sexual experimentation of any sort with the 14 year old, will be, without a doubt, statutory rape in your state. Honestly I don't care,18 and 14 is alright in my opinion, but just know that if you're caught, you can get in trouble with the law.

[queenofcontrariety]

I mean the lowest age of consent is 16... I mean I don't know how developed a 14 yo would be, not just physically but emotionally. I mean do what you want but I feel like age differences that big at such a young age is a little iffy. Like that's more than a quarter of their life difference. Do what you want but I mean I'd just be careful with it. You know you won't say anything but you don't know about the other person. And if things go south they can always come forward with the info and you'll still be charged

[conniption]

4 years isn't really a big age gap when you're older, but at this stage in life it's a huge difference. Most 14 year olds aren't really mature, not even when they insist they are. You're about to turn 18, so the age difference is now not only a personal issue, it's a legal issue. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you're willing to take this risk.

[SethfromMI]

at age 18, 14 is to young for you. don't do anything against the law and going to get you on a sex offenders list for the rest of your life

[Whight]

Mind if I ask what's the nature of the friendship between you and this 14 y/o?
How well do you know him/her.

Personally, I'd wait till it was a more conscious and mature choice for the other person.

[jordanhardy]

It's illegal dude.

[orchadork]

Well there is the legal issue, but if it's on the down down down down down low, then you could be fine. I do NOT recommend at all

[Vilnius]

I think the age gap is too big a difference at this point. If you and the other person both agree to it, then that would be your choice, but I really don't think you should do it in case bad things happen and you get in serious trouble.

[gads]

Yeah, it is totally different ball game when there are legal issues involved.

[maniamsmart]

Fourth thread I've seen made about this topic. A lot of the forum members gave some great advice in this thread here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=218404). I also wrote some lengthy posts in there as well. Take a look and see if it can help you. In short though, from what I wrote in my post I stated that 4 years apart is the max I would ever want to date someone... so I think it's fine as long as you don't get caught, do anything illegal, and are safe about it. But check out the thread I linked. Good luck!

[Meh Guy]

If it is totally consensual, it's fine. But be aware that once you turn 18 it is considered statutory rape. The only time that would be a problem, is if something happened and she, for lack of a better term, "cried rape". Because then it's you against her with no witnesses. All in all, just make sure you're both comfortable wih it and understand the laws.

IMO, it's okay as long as she is okay with it.

[boytoynamedtroy]

Ok, so I haven't done anything with this person yet, nor do I exactly plan on asking. But from a morale standpoint, I wanted some opinions.

I'm 17, going on 18 in May. There's this other person who I might try experimenting with, but they're only 14. Let's also assume that they were also interested in doing it/experienced attraction for me, or they were the one to pop the question. Do you think it's ok to explore the possibilities since I'm still technically 17? Or should I give it a rest? Obviously if I did I would be careful and not brag about it to my friends or anyone else who could get me in trouble.

If you live in a country where 18 is the legal age, then I guess it's okay, given that you're still 17. There's a law which states that if both people in the relationship are below the legal age, then it's okay for them to be involved, even when one of them eventually turns 18. But I must say, you're in a risky situation. You might as well just give it a rest if you're too worried that you might get caught in serious trouble.

[Abhorrence]

The fact that you're worrying about it being legal or not is a sign that you shouldn't do it because you clearly know that it could be wrong.

[JamesSuperBoy]

The fact that you're worrying about it being legal or not is a sign that you shouldn't do it because you clearly know that it could be wrong.


I agree ^ and also you really do not want to have someone feel pressured nor take advantage. Being discreet and saying that is like admitting it is wrong and you know that.

[riverboy]

I think you asking for big trouble.

[RandAnonPers]

In most cases, i would answer:
"age is just a number"
but most 14 year olds are incapable of making the correct and mature decisions. I would move on or wait 4 more years until it would be legal-assuming you would be still interested into each other.
So, basically
"if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, then it is meant to be."

[Melodic]

That's too risky for a situation like yours.

[DoodleSnap]

I consider this to be too risky, due to both the legal and emotional issues. I would say hold off.

[WengMan3397]

Eh, I'd shy away from that.... They'll find someone else and you will too!

[Stephanie 15]

Don't do it! Take it from a girl who knows she is not ready. 4 years difference at this point in life is alot.
Plus is it worth hurting her just because you want to have sex? Some one asked what's your relationship with this girl now, I'm also curious. I'm still a virgin so I don't know alot about sex, but I also know I'm not ready for it either. It's not worth the consequences.