Having a tough time

[Tesserax]

Over the last few months my mood has been slowly declining, and it seems the only thing that makes me somewhat happy is being with friends, or distracting myself, though the latter just helps me to not think about everything.

It's been a pretty decent holidays, but my lack of work in the first half is starting to catch up to me now after new years, and I'm starting to stress though I probably don't need to. I'm just worried I won't be able to finish all my holiday homework and it's really stressing me out. Every day I feel more and more unmotivated as the stress builds up, and It's a cycle I'm trying to break and it's hard.

On top of that, my situation with girls is and has always been terrible; I either happen to have a crush on one that's taken or doesn't like me at all. It feels somewhat lonely not having someone to even just be able to talk to, and I'm a kid who came to Australia at the age of 4, and never stuck to one school for a really long period of time, so I don't have a best friend, nor do I have any friends I'm REALLY close with.

Back to the second paragraph, I'm really starting to worry about my future, and who I am. I want to be a Doctor at the moment, and I love science and math, and I'm naturally gifted at academics as well as having a body naturally suited to be good at sport. However, I fear that my laziness is going to be my downfall, and while I have been getting better, my fear of the future simply leaves me stressed, unmotivated and even lazier.

Venting like this sort of helps, but it doesn't solve the problem. I know I just need to do my work but I'm feeling so stressed and I just don't want to do it, I just want to relax.

It feels like I'm going through a phase, because I've never felt this down for this long. Without my friends or other distractions, I feel a constant pit in my chest, and I often think and feel like it will never get better, any of it.

I'm just really confused right now, and I don't know how to get through this. For awhile I've contemplated the idea of suicide, but I've decided that I never will let myself fall that low, but that doesn't stop me from thinking about it. Don't worry if you're reading this, I'm not going to kill myself, but the fact that I think about it worries me, as it tells me that I'm really not doing well in the mental department.

If there's anybody who knows what it's like to feel like this, or be in my position, or anybody that can give advice, your words are much appreciated, and thank you so much for reading this :/

[jordanhardy]

Hey man, I'm sorry you feel this way. Have you spoken to your parents or friends about how your feeling?

[Bull]

You don't state your age, but from your writing I assume you are an older teen. I think many older teens get nervous about their lives and what is in the future. I, like you am endowed with academic ability and a body that has made it possible to be good at sport. I have a very supportive family and team mates. I suggest you look to family, team mates, a favorite teacher, and if you are in a religious community to a leader there for support and help with your feelings. Work at your strengths and seek to excel in each area of strength. Pick an area of weakness and formulate a plan of attack to make it a strength. Get involved in activities that are of interest to you where you can meet other guy and girls who have similar interests so you can make friends and even find a girl you will enjoy going out. When you are busy with others you will not have so much time for what can be self destructive introspection. Good luck on you journey and keep your VT family in the loop. We really do care. :yes:

[Meh Guy]

Over the last few months my mood has been slowly declining, and it seems the only thing that makes me somewhat happy is being with friends, or distracting myself, though the latter just helps me to not think about everything.

It's been a pretty decent holidays, but my lack of work in the first half is starting to catch up to me now after new years, and I'm starting to stress though I probably don't need to. I'm just worried I won't be able to finish all my holiday homework and it's really stressing me out. Every day I feel more and more unmotivated as the stress builds up, and It's a cycle I'm trying to break and it's hard.

On top of that, my situation with girls is and has always been terrible; I either happen to have a crush on one that's taken or doesn't like me at all. It feels somewhat lonely not having someone to even just be able to talk to, and I'm a kid who came to Australia at the age of 4, and never stuck to one school for a really long period of time, so I don't have a best friend, nor do I have any friends I'm REALLY close with.

Back to the second paragraph, I'm really starting to worry about my future, and who I am. I want to be a Doctor at the moment, and I love science and math, and I'm naturally gifted at academics as well as having a body naturally suited to be good at sport. However, I fear that my laziness is going to be my downfall, and while I have been getting better, my fear of the future simply leaves me stressed, unmotivated and even lazier.

Venting like this sort of helps, but it doesn't solve the problem. I know I just need to do my work but I'm feeling so stressed and I just don't want to do it, I just want to relax.

It feels like I'm going through a phase, because I've never felt this down for this long. Without my friends or other distractions, I feel a constant pit in my chest, and I often think and feel like it will never get better, any of it.

I'm just really confused right now, and I don't know how to get through this. For awhile I've contemplated the idea of suicide, but I've decided that I never will let myself fall that low, but that doesn't stop me from thinking about it. Don't worry if you're reading this, I'm not going to kill myself, but the fact that I think about it worries me, as it tells me that I'm really not doing well in the mental department.

If there's anybody who knows what it's like to feel like this, or be in my position, or anybody that can give advice, your words are much appreciated, and thank you so much for reading this :/

Hey,

I'm sorry you feel this way. I have felt similar around the holidays due to my laziness and such, but maybe not as bad as you. If you're finding it hard to do work, talk to a guidance counsellor or maybe a tutor and they can help you figure out a strategy for doing work, it sounds like once you start, you'll stick with it due to your "gifted academics". Maybe you should talk to your parents about this and they can help you feel better. As for girls, I wouldn't worry too much about them, if anything they'll probably stress you out more by adding more things to do to your plate.

If you ever need to vent or talk, I'm here. Swing by my page or send me a message :)

[Wafflenado]

Me personally, I'm trying to be valedictorian because I know I can do it, but I struggle a lot to get my work done as well because I get so stressed out that I don't want to do it. It's as if it was God's cruel joke to make me extremely intelligent and give me the motivation of a high school drop-out. I know I want to major in mathematics, but I'm not sure what job direction I want to go, and I stress a lot about that. I remember nights where I would literally cry about my stress from all my school work and trying to be perfect on everything, so I think I understand your problem. I always remind myself of the light at the end of the tunnel; that all the work I am doing now will make my life easier in the long run. About the friends thing, when I was little, I went to over 11 different schools because we moved around a lot, and I also had trouble making friends. Eventually I learned that I just need to be myself and put myself out there, and friends started coming to me. Honestly, I could care less whether or not I have a romantic relationship with someone because (1) Relationships are A LOT of work, at least any good relationship, and I'm busy enough, (2) I already have a ton of support from friends and family, (3) I'm very much an idiot when it comes to anything romantic lol. But my advice would be to learn how to manage your stress, and to always remind yourself of your goals, because the clearer you see the goal, the closer you are to the finish line :)

[AceofSpades97]

You shouldn't feel sad and I can understand that moving doesn't help getting permanent friends. Laziness is really a curse for a lot of guys but the only one who can stop that is yourself cause once you decided to stop being lazy and really work for like a week or a month with sports and homework then it will be easier every time you do it again and you will be less lazy. As for that you don't have much friend try to make friend and keep contact with them trough whatsapp or somethin and keep talking to them so that you do have friend eventhough they live far away.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Over the last few months my mood has been slowly declining, and it seems the only thing that makes me somewhat happy is being with friends, or distracting myself, though the latter just helps me to not think about everything.

It's been a pretty decent holidays, but my lack of work in the first half is starting to catch up to me now after new years, and I'm starting to stress though I probably don't need to. I'm just worried I won't be able to finish all my holiday homework and it's really stressing me out. Every day I feel more and more unmotivated as the stress builds up, and It's a cycle I'm trying to break and it's hard.

On top of that, my situation with girls is and has always been terrible; I either happen to have a crush on one that's taken or doesn't like me at all. It feels somewhat lonely not having someone to even just be able to talk to, and I'm a kid who came to Australia at the age of 4, and never stuck to one school for a really long period of time, so I don't have a best friend, nor do I have any friends I'm REALLY close with.

Back to the second paragraph, I'm really starting to worry about my future, and who I am. I want to be a Doctor at the moment, and I love science and math, and I'm naturally gifted at academics as well as having a body naturally suited to be good at sport. However, I fear that my laziness is going to be my downfall, and while I have been getting better, my fear of the future simply leaves me stressed, unmotivated and even lazier.

Venting like this sort of helps, but it doesn't solve the problem. I know I just need to do my work but I'm feeling so stressed and I just don't want to do it, I just want to relax.

It feels like I'm going through a phase, because I've never felt this down for this long. Without my friends or other distractions, I feel a constant pit in my chest, and I often think and feel like it will never get better, any of it.

I'm just really confused right now, and I don't know how to get through this. For awhile I've contemplated the idea of suicide, but I've decided that I never will let myself fall that low, but that doesn't stop me from thinking about it. Don't worry if you're reading this, I'm not going to kill myself, but the fact that I think about it worries me, as it tells me that I'm really not doing well in the mental department.

If there's anybody who knows what it's like to feel like this, or be in my position, or anybody that can give advice, your words are much appreciated, and thank you so much for reading this :/

Its no help to you but lots have a stress problem but maybe try and break down the problems and set about a fix plan for each. get a study schedule - know what you have to do. Fix up some chill time. You have moved schools and so do not have close friends - look out for ways you can help others along and make friends.