Coming out problems

[Thunderstorm]

I'm just really not in a good place right now. I'm so depressed, I feel nothing and I have no desire to eat (which is unlike me). I came out to my parents last night...mom was upset, confused and shocked on how I could be gay. Dad was shocked that I'll never know what it's like to have kids. But what I think is really the problem is they don't understand, it's not a choice. They think I chose being gay because I don't ever have any girlfriends and I don't fit in well at school. I have lots of GIRL friends but no girlfriends. I just feel like running away, other times I feel like doing worse than that. I think I'm going to talk to them and tell them that it's not a choice but they think I'm too young to decide. However, they said they would love me no less if that's what I en dup being. I just want to be happy, now.

[Pablo]

Congrats on coming out! Don't worry what your parents think, they're probably just in a state of shock right now. Most likely they will come around in the near future. Just hold on, it'll get better.

[Foamy]

Your parents are in shock and don't understand. That is normal for most parents to not understand or accept right away. They'll come around in time, and since they said that they'd love you all the same, it shouldn't be too much of a big deal. But congrats for coming out!

[Thunderstorm]

Your parents are in shock and don't understand. That is normal for most parents to not understand or accept right away. They'll come around in time, and since they said that they'd love you all the same, it shouldn't be too much of a big deal. But congrats for coming out!

Thanks. Although, they said I shouldn't tell anymore people besides the friends I've already told, and they will not tell the rest of the family. It upsets me that their state of mind is "he's not gay yet, but when he is, we'll love him the same."

[HUSTLEMAN]

Let me tell you something. Do not feel bad for coming out. As it takes a lot of courage to undertake such a task. Your parents right now I believe are going through the motions and in overall shock our you're coming out.Very soon they will get over that shock and accept and understand the gravity of you're situation and understand that you know what you're doing and it isn't temporary and well, love you for you and not shun you. Nonetheless I wish you the best and stay strong and please don't do anything that you would regret later on.

[Thunderstorm]

Let me tell you something. Do not feel bad for coming out. As it takes a lot of courage to undertake such a task. Your parents right now I believe are going through the motions and in overall shock our you're coming out.Very soon they will get over that shock and accept and understand the gravity of you're situation and understand that you know what you're doing and it isn't temporary and well, love you for you and not shun you. Nonetheless I wish you the best and stay strong and please don't do anything that you would regret later on.

Thank you, Keyshawn.

[Becca029]

congrats on coming out
wish i could

[Descene]

What I've done in the past with different issues my parents don't understand or misinterpret, I print out articles as third-party sources and leave them somewhere to read. Of course, there's the really conservative types that won't be fazed at all regardless of what you tell them. Just understand they're likely really confused and don't know much about the subject. They need time to process and accept it.
I saw a post elsewhere that talked about the double-standard with straight kids and gay kids. Might be a good example. How a little boy in kindergarten has a crush on a girl and people think it's cute, but a teenage boy has a crush on a guy at school and people say he's too young to know if he's gay. People say this all the time, but when did YOU choose to be straight? How do YOU feel about the same sex; it's the same how I feel about the opposite sex. The only difference really is it's the same gender they're attracted to. Otherwise, the love, emotions, relationship, it's just as true as it is for straight people. Just... smh.