Religion issues

[orchadork]

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Alright, so I'm an Agnostic Atheist (see chart if needed). This wouldn't be an issue, but my parents are christian. I don't want them to be disappointed in me, but I want to tell them. How would I go about doing this? Should I tell them? When?

I told about ten of my closest friends this already, most for one of their secrets as cushioning just in case one of them gets pissed at me and tells them.

Any way please help.

[Arsenalfan123]

I'm not religious so I guess the same as you. My parents aren't religious my gran is, but I think there is a rule or something your free to choose your religion and that so its your life. Let's be honest if your parent are worried about heaven and that just be a good person and all that

[queenofcontrariety]

I feel like religion isn't a necessary topic between parents and children, more so children sharing their beliefs. Like you parents love you, but as long as you don't have their beliefs forced down your throat or feel that their beliefs inhibit your way of life in a practical sense, telling them isn't needed. Just my most likely unpopular opinion.

[orchadork]

I mean I am a good person (I at least try to be some people annoy me then I get cranky, and it becomes a mess) any way I'm a semi-good person because that's just who I am. I'm not worried about heaven or hell, I'm just confused. I mean look at Jonah, he was swallowed by a "Great fish" It doesn't specify what kind of fish. Whales don't eat people, not even on accident, and a shark would have torn him apart before eating him. And let's just say it was a whale, then he would've been digested assuming he survived the esophagus crushing every bone in his body. Even if it was a ancient fish he would have been killed. They were much larger therefore larger esophagus, more pressure, faster bone breakage, not to mention he would run out of oxygen eventually, humans were not meant to live in fish stomachs.

[TheN3rdyOutcast]

I feel like religion isn't a necessary topic between parents and children, more so children sharing their beliefs. Like you parents love you, but as long as you don't have their beliefs forced down your throat or feel that their beliefs inhibit your way of life in a practical sense, telling them isn't needed. Just my most likely unpopular opinion.

I agree.

[Dennis98]

I would say that I'm Agnostic Theist ...

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Okay, so here's a couple of things,

1. Do your parents force you to go to church/partake in Christian-like activities?
If so, you should let them know you either:
a. You don't want to go as you do not believe.
b. Tell them you do not feel comfortable to go due to (you can say you don't want to be forced to, you don't believe or other various reasons)

2. How willing would they be to accept it?
If they are very open into you throwing out your decisions, just a little bit of sitting down and talk should do the trick.
If they are strongly religious, I recommend you lie low for now until you are at least 18 (if you aren't) and if you are 18, give it some time to think before you let them know.

Speaking to parents about religion can be kinda scary (I've been there) but after you do, you can feel very happy and light about it, and it makes you feel much better. Try to remain calm, not get too upset and if they reject your thoughts, don't feel disheartened. It does happen to a lot of people. Just go with it, either way the outcome sways and just remember that when you do get older, you can make the decision to (if they force you) stop going to church for example.

I wish you luck~ :D

[Body odah Man]

I feel like religion isn't a necessary topic between parents and children, more so children sharing their beliefs. Like you parents love you, but as long as you don't have their beliefs forced down your throat or feel that their beliefs inhibit your way of life in a practical sense, telling them isn't needed. Just my most likely unpopular opinion.

I agree. Religion should be a personal belief, not something forced down upon you.

[orchadork]

Okay, so here's a couple of things,

1. Do your parents force you to go to church/partake in Christian-like activities?
If so, you should let them know you either:
a. You don't want to go as you do not believe.
b. Tell them you do not feel comfortable to go due to (you can say you don't want to be forced to, you don't believe or other various reasons)

2. How willing would they be to accept it?
If they are very open into you throwing out your decisions, just a little bit of sitting down and talk should do the trick.
If they are strongly religious, I recommend you lie low for now until you are at least 18 (if you aren't) and if you are 18, give it some time to think before you let them know.

Speaking to parents about religion can be kinda scary (I've been there) but after you do, you can feel very happy and light about it, and it makes you feel much better. Try to remain calm, not get too upset and if they reject your thoughts, don't feel disheartened. It does happen to a lot of people. Just go with it, either way the outcome sways and just remember that when you do get older, you can make the decision to (if they force you) stop going to church for example.

I wish you luck~ :D

Well I'm not sure if I'm forced. We go most Sundays and I go on Wednesdays, and I sing in the Youth Choir. The only times I won't go is if I'm out of town, camping, sick, or we/I we're up late for whatever reason. I'm not sure if they think I'm just christian, and like going to church, or if I'm being forced.

Should I tell a friend from church? Do you think that would help? (WOW! that sounded self-centered :eek: )

[twirlgurl]

I'm not religious. Niether are my parents. We don't have to explain WHY we arent religious, and we don't like people labeling us because we arnt, or labeling our "lack of" religion. None of the catagories fit me.


Religious or Not religious. That's all ppl need to know, and i only tell people when im very specifically asked. otherwise, its a topic i avoid.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Well I'm not sure if I'm forced. We go most Sundays and I go on Wednesdays, and I sing in the Youth Choir. The only times I won't go is if I'm out of town, camping, sick, or we/I we're up late for whatever reason. I'm not sure if they think I'm just christian, and like going to church, or if I'm being forced.

Should I tell a friend from church? Do you think that would help? (WOW! that sounded self-centered :eek: )

You sure can, however, you should tell someone you really trust and isn't too religious. If you don't, they might tell a pastor or even try to convince you to stay. Are you currently okay about going to church is question you should ask yourself then.

[orchadork]

You sure can, however, you should tell someone you really trust and isn't too religious. If you don't, they might tell a pastor or even try to convince you to stay. Are you currently okay about going to church is question you should ask yourself then.

Thanks :P

[Thunderstorm]

I don't really see the need to tell them. Why do this? They may try and convert you back. The way I see it, if you're living under their roof, you're going to have to play by their rules unless they happen to accept your religion. If they don't, you're out of luck.

[phuckphace]

IMO it would be best to avoid telling them and just continue to put up with it until you're old enough to move out on your own.