I feel like I was born in the wrong decade

[prtygurl]

I am 15 and a virgin. I haven't gone very far with boys - mostly kissing and letting them feel my breasts. I've never give a HJ/BJ and all a boy has done "down there" is touch me. It has happened twice, and I jumped so much I think I scared him.

I don't really feel like I'm frigid (or a tease.) I just have this vague idea that if I experience much more sexually, I'll be spoiling things for when I'm mature (maybe 18 or 19, at least.)

(By the way - yes - I do masturbate, though not as often as many of you say you do.)

Am I the only one?

[cami]

I can't speak for myself because I'm not a virgin, but I know some girls that are in the same position as you, so you're definitely not the only one :)

[Taryn98]

Everyone matures at a different time. There's nothing wrong with you.

[Dying Ember]

I am 15, and I haven't even gotten as far as going out with anyone, so no you aren't the only one. Its up to each individual person what they do and you should do what you feel comfortable doing, and its absolutely fine that you don't want to do more until you're older.

[Emerald Dream]

I'm willing to bet there are a lot more people than you think who are virgins at 15. In fact, I would guess a lot of them have never had any sexual contact with another person at all (or even dated anyone).

Don't feel pressured into feeling that you have to meet a certain sexual requirement at any age. It's ok to become sexually active, and it's also ok not to. It's also ok to do "some things" and not others. Do whatever feels right by your own conscience. Like others have said - a lot of people progress with things like sex at different speeds and with different comfort levels.

[Claire Asteroid]

I'm 16 and I'm a virgin I've only let three guys touch my boobs, and when one tried to feel me through my knickers I made him stop. I've never done a HJ or a BJ either so ur not the only 1.

[prtygurl]

Thank you all. You made me feel much better. When you're around other girls in school bragging about their "exploits" it's hard to - uh - just be me. (And, not to be critical, this site - or, at least, this forum, seems to attract VERY sexually active teens. Maybe others like me just stay away - I dunno.)

Do you think there are many trolls here?

[churris]

You're not alone, don't worry about it. At 15 I hadn't dated anyone or had any kisses that lasted for most than a peck, mostly because my school was small and I didn't liked anybody from there. It wasn't until I started college that the variety of boys expanded, and I began crushing on everybody hahaha. Don't feel pressured to do anything if you don't want to, just go at your own pace.

Do you think there are many trolls here?
Yes, quite a lot. But mods control them, most of the time :P

[VictoriaShadows]

Don't worry about it. good things come to those who wait

[Beth]

I'm still a virgin. So your not the only one. Don't feel pressured into doing something your not comfortable doing.

[lilg]

If you want to wait then wait, but I don't see what anyone says they're saving it for. Most people that ever talked about it said it ended up being nothing special for waiting.

[Ninni]

Don't worry about what others do or don't and what they might think of you. It's your body and you controll the pace. No one else. If you want to do it, do it. If you don't want to, then don't do it.

[twirlgurl]

Well, I hope I count cause im pretty much the same as you - except ive never been with a boy....like ever. Never had a boy touch my boobs, or even make out. Im 14, not 15 so i dont know how much difference that one year makes, but still.

But to be really honest, im not entirely sure even if this whole website is right for me. I've only been here for a week or so and many topics made me uncomfortable at first. I tried to answer questions and be open and honest cause i think thats what its about and i want to try to fit in. But I totally think i must be some kind of complete oddball here that doesnt think that casual sex, masterbating in public, admitting to incest, or claiming (more like pretending) they were raped, but later saying it was "no big deal" as something that's just "normal" life.

And if it IS normal - then im honestly glad that im NOT normal. Im fucking proud that im a virgin!! The person im going to be with my first time is going to be someone i love deeply. So maybe I should have been born in the last century instead of the last decade. when being a virgin was seen as a GOOD thing, and something to be truly proud of.

Sorry for venting but i just had to let that out.

[Abbeys]

Well, I hope I count cause im pretty much the same as you - except ive never been with a boy....like ever. Never had a boy touch my boobs, or even make out. Im 14, not 15 so i dont know how much difference that one year makes, but still.

But to be really honest, im not entirely sure even if this whole website is right for me. I've only been here for a week or so and many topics made me uncomfortable at first. I tried to answer questions and be open and honest cause i think thats what its about and i want to try to fit in. But I totally think i must be some kind of complete oddball here that doesnt think that casual sex, masterbating in public, admitting to incest, or claiming (more like pretending) they were raped, but later saying it was "no big deal" as something that's just "normal" life.

And if it IS normal - then im honestly glad that im NOT normal. Im fucking proud that im a virgin!! The person im going to be with my first time is going to be someone i love deeply. So maybe I should have been born in the last century instead of the last decade. when being a virgin was seen as a GOOD thing, and something to be truly proud of.

Sorry for venting but i just had to let that out.


I think you should stick around,not necessarily for your own sake but for some other peoples.
You have a refreshing honesty and high moral values that you are proud of.
Some girls feel, forced,bullied,cajoled in to doing things that they don't particularly want to do.

I admire and respect your views and opinions.

[Sardonical]

You're definitely not the only one! It actually terrifies me the age in which people are becoming sexually active nowadays, I honestly don't understand it. I don't believe anything serious should happen between couples until at least 18+, but that doesn't appear to be the case today.
Admittedly that is slightly contradictory as I have done stuff sexually, however I am 16 so of age, but not gone as far as losing my virginity yet as that isn't something I wish to jump into until at least 18.

[twirlgurl]

I admire and respect your views and opinions.


Thanks, but i feel like such an outsider. Maybe like the OP says. Its like im trying to "fit in" to a group or club because they are having fun and seem cool, and im like that person that butts into conversations just so they acknoledge that i even exist. Im really really trying to be open and share, but it feels awkward. Not just hear but school and with some friends i feel the same way. And even tho i havent dated yet, and im not technically allowed to yet, it would be REALLY REALLY nice if a boy showed at least SOME interest in me, or tell me im pretty. or say im cool. It just seems the only girls that get attention are the ones that do sex and are all open to anything. But they dont know if im am or not, and they still dont ask and i feel sad and lonely and it just hurts. like it hurts ALOT sometimes. I mean, sometimes i think just to hell with all the doing the right/respectful stuff and give in. cause it seems they are the ones that are having a life and having fun and im missing out.

ANd sorry i swore in my last post. thats not like me either.

[Abbeys]

Thanks, but i feel like such an outsider. Maybe like the OP says. Its like im trying to "fit in" to a group or club because they are having fun and seem cool, and im like that person that butts into conversations just so they acknoledge that i even exist. Im really really trying to be open and share, but it feels awkward. Not just hear but school and with some friends i feel the same way. And even tho i havent dated yet, and im not technically allowed to yet, it would be REALLY REALLY nice if a boy showed at least SOME interest in me, or tell me im pretty. or say im cool. It just seems the only girls that get attention are the ones that do sex and are all open to anything. But they dont know if im am or not, and they still dont ask and i feel sad and lonely and it just hurts. like it hurts ALOT sometimes. I mean, sometimes i think just to hell with all the doing the right/respectful stuff and give in. cause it seems they are the ones that are having a life and having fun and im missing out.

ANd sorry i swore in my last post. thats not like me either.

I don't know you at all but I did think the swearing might be a bit out of character.:)

And of course the boys are going to after the girls that are putting it out there.The boys will follow the path of least resistance,that's the way they are made.
If you aren't available for whatever reason they will ignore you.

And one thing I forgot to mention in my last post to you.

Feeling under similar pressure like you and lots of other girls,I talked to my doctor about birth control and he said,why do you want to go on it?
I replied all my friends are having sex and everybody I talk to is having sex and he said,actual quote" you would be surprised at how many girls aren't having sex but say they are".

So I gave up the birth control idea,at least for a while and now when people talk about sex either here or real life or where ever I just recall what my doctor said.

Abbey.

[emily-candace]

Im 18 and still a virgin and haven't let a boy touch me anywhere, because I don't want it to lead to anything so I guess on my wedding night I will be surprised as you. we can enjoy it together.

[lilg]

Why do people say these days? Listening to stories from friends parents and stuff it's not like this is new.

[Ninni]

i think it is quite normal to explore the own sexuality. The difference is in the pace and the things everyone is doing to explore it. For some it may be good to make the first experiences at age 13 or whatever, others may think it is better to wait longer and maybe much longer. One may think sex is okay others may prefer touching and caressing and stuff but no sex.

However, as long as no one gets hurt or is forced to do things he or she don't want to do, everything is fine. Just go your own pace. When you think you do want to do it for the first time in your wedding night, do it. When you dont want to wait, then don't.

Most people worry to much about the opinions of others and what they say. What about confidence and trust in your own opinion? To think you are an outsider just because you do things different than 90 % is unnecesarry.

(hope i have expressed what i wanted to say. Sorry if not :-D im still learning englisch)

[prtygurl]

Keep you chin up, Kelly. Whether you stick around here or not isn't important - it IS virtual, after all !

Kelly, surviving puberty (sometimes, sadly, in the literal way) is a challenge. But when you get thru it still feeling good about YOURSELF, your personality will be more important than whether you "put out." Guys & gals like to hang out together - they don't spend all their time in bed together.

Anyway, that's what I believe, especially after reading some of the responses here.

P.S. Your English is VERY good Sabrina!

[devon girl]

personally idm it, but no ur not the olny one

[Babs]

Please don't bump threads that have been inactive for over 2 months. :locked: