Please help!!!

[ImGod]

Hi,

I'll try to keep it short, please help:

I have a girlfriend and we live in different countries. But we see each other although it is a long distance relationship. She ALWAYS tells me she loves me so much. And she is really in love with me. BUT she is VERY nervous about sexuality. I understand her sensitivity about this but she overreacts. I am always polite and honest about sexuality to her but still, she is very nervous and doesn't wanna talk about it. I never put pressure on her. But she never gets comfortable with it.

She is 17. I think girls at age 17 want it too as much as guys. But I don't understand her because she says she loves me so much she even says she wants to be my wife. Maybe it is a big deal for girls. But I think girls want it too of course as it is a natural thing.

Can you tell me what to do? I don't rush of course but to be honest I don't wanna wait anymore. What should I do??? She wants it too right, I mean she is 17!!!

[Taryn98]

Love and sex are not synonymous. She very likely has sexual desires and very well may love you, but not everyone acts on those desires simply out of love. It sounds like she has personal convictions that make her want to wait. Typically religion or strict family values/morals can have that affect on people.
If she wants to wait (for any reason whatsoever), you need to wait for her. Pressuring her will assuredly cause her to resent you in the long run.
If you're unwilling to wait, then you should look for another relationship.

[randomuser123]

I think you should never make the assumption that someone else (male or female) "wants it" as much as you do! Maybe she wants to wait until she is married, or maybe she is just still very shy about that sort of thing!

[gothy]

Love and sex are not synonymous. She very likely has sexual desires and very well may love you, but not everyone acts on those desires simply out of love. It sounds like she has personal convictions that make her want to wait. Typically religion or strict family values/morals can have that affect on people.
If she wants to wait (for any reason whatsoever), you need to wait for her. Pressuring her will assuredly cause her to resent you in the long run.
If you're unwilling to wait, then you should look for another relationship.

couldn't have said it better. :D

[SethfromMI]

Love and sex are not synonymous. She very likely has sexual desires and very well may love you, but not everyone acts on those desires simply out of love. It sounds like she has personal convictions that make her want to wait. Typically religion or strict family values/morals can have that affect on people.
If she wants to wait (for any reason whatsoever), you need to wait for her. Pressuring her will assuredly cause her to resent you in the long run.
If you're unwilling to wait, then you should look for another relationship.

this has so much truth. the fact is some people are always uncomfortable talking about sex, no matter the age. your gf may be one of those people

[VictoriaShadows]

it's too risky

[Meh Guy]

Love and sex are not synonymous. She very likely has sexual desires and very well may love you, but not everyone acts on those desires simply out of love. It sounds like she has personal convictions that make her want to wait. Typically religion or strict family values/morals can have that affect on people.
If she wants to wait (for any reason whatsoever), you need to wait for her. Pressuring her will assuredly cause her to resent you in the long run.
If you're unwilling to wait, then you should look for another relationship.

This is pretty on point

[suzzysmith2012]

Give it time. Don't rush or pressure her, prefer her wants, wishes, desires and timelines over your own.

[Living For Love]

Puberty for All :arrow2: Relationships and Dating.

[maniamsmart]

There are a lot answers we still need to understand her more and to understand her reasoning behind her actions. If you can't answer these questions though, then I am going to be quite blunt with you and say that you aren't ready for sex yet with her. But anyway, how long have you been with her? Has she had any other boyfriend? Did she ever have sex before? Did she ever have any experiences of abuse? What is her reason for feeling uncomfortable with her, have you asked her?

Not all girls want it, a lot of girls do, but some don't and they usually have a very good and rational reason behind it.