Lost my best friend

[Shaunlee185]

Let me give you a little background info,
I'm that guy who you either love, or hate, but it's all a show. I struggle to find people who actually understand and get me. Then came this one girl.. We was wearing the same jacket, on the same bus, reading the same book. Hello Miss perfect, I've always been confident so I go up and talk to her. About a month later we are inseparable, every time I get a text it's her and I suddenly smile..

Anyway's! Eventually we got personal, secrets.. fantasy's.. everything, then came her past. She has an ex who simply couldn't get over her, so been the confident ass I always have been, I put him in his spot and things get heated, next thing I know I blurt out one of her secrets, something I swore I'd never tell.

Her ex tells her what I've said, now I'm in trouble. Anyway's after a 4 hour argument I'm unsure of anything. I think I've lost her for good, idk how it even started or even why. All I know is she's gone, and I'm alone.

What I'm asking VT for, is some advice, the student councillor says if she kicked off that bad and can't forgive you she's not worth your time, but I beg to differ she is worth fighting for.

Any advice at all will be greatly appreciated :)

[Gumleaf]

I agree with you rather than the student councillor, I think it is worth fighting for if she means that much to you. But there are a couple of things. Even though you probably thought you were trying to help, telling a secret like that, even by accident is probably one of the lowest blows someone could give to their friend. You have broken her trust and probably wonders if any of her other secrets are safe with you etc. She has probably taken it as a personal attack.

All you can really do in the meantime is apologise and give her some space. She may or may not forgive you, but being in her face right now is probably a bad move. Maybe in a a week or 2 you can perhaps test the waters and see if she is responsive to you. The reality is she may or may not forgive you and you should probably try and prepare yourself either way.

This might not be the best advice but hopefully might give you some perspective. Good luck and I hope it all works out.

[Thunderstorm]

Forget the school counselor. If you think she is worth fighting for, and you made her happy and she made you happy, then you deserve her back. I'm sure you didn't mean to blurt out her secret. As wrong as that is for you to do, you were only defending her. Tell her that you only did that in the heat of the moment and you just wanted to protect her and get all the negativity out of her life. That guy was bothering her and you were trying to get him away. Tell her that she completes you and that without her, you aren't the same.

[Shaunlee185]

Can close this now, I kicked off big time, completely ruined everything xD ty though guys, you helped ^_^