I need opinions on this situation.

[Abhorrence]

Right so last night I got drunk with a few friends for new years. My ex boyfriend was there and we've been completely fine recently, back to being best friends and pretty much forgetting the fact that we were together. He said he was straight so I completely backed him and was fine with it, you can't force a sexuality.

However, last night he jumped on me again. I had no part in this, he kissed me first and yes I reciprocated but I mean I definitely didn't start it. I'm annoyed tbh because I don't want to be with him but he messes my head up so much and I can't stand it. All of my friends agree that he seems to be very confused with who he is.

Now I'm just wondering, can alcohol really change your sexuality in a way? Or is it just buried so deep inside that it just brings it out?

I doubt I can even talk to him about this because he will probably just get angry, say he's completely straight and blame me for what happened.

[Bmble_B]

He's probably just in denial of his true sexuality and the alcohol contributed to him letting loose. No matter how angry he gets, you should still talk to him. Firmly, but not intimidatingly, say that you're ex's nothing can change that, and the surprise kisses have to stop now. It's a major breakage of boundaries for someone to just hop onto someone they broke up with and just kiss them.

[Bull]

I would say he is very conflicted about his sexuality and keeps it bottled up when sober. Alcohol can make inhibitions go away and allow truth to come out. No pun intended, but, there it is. I have, in my own life, come to the conclusion that one does not have any control over sexuality, but does have control of how it is expressed. I have very strong bi tendencies, have had a boyfriend, but am now in a committed relationship with an amazing girl. I would say be his friend and allow him to deal with his conflicted sexuality in his own way and time frame. Give him space and time.

[thetransylvanianguy]

As alcohol may modify the behaviour of a given person,in order to reveal his/her true self,I would say he tries to un-come out,to repress his homosexuality/bisexuality/whatever may it be,he can't eat his cake and have it too. Although,if he is bisexual,he may say he is straight,he is actually to a degree straight. For the sake of his credibility,tell him to accept his sexuality,if he is gay or bisexual. Truth always reveals itself when not expected.

[Meh Guy]

Alcohol could have something to do with it. It does mess with your judgement, and can make you feel different things. I've had this sort of thing happen to me as we'll, where alcohol changes the person into a "love machine". You could bring it up, he may be confused and if you're best friends, you should try and help him.

[Foamy]

Ahhh alcohol. He would probably try to deny it if you brought it up with him, or theres a chance he might not remember it if he was that wasted. Don't try to pry, like asking if he still has feelings for you, and just offer support if he ever wants it.

[Straya]

Right so last night I got drunk with a few friends for new years. My ex boyfriend was there and we've been completely fine recently, back to being best friends and pretty much forgetting the fact that we were together. He said he was straight so I completely backed him and was fine with it, you can't force a sexuality.

However, last night he jumped on me again. I had no part in this, he kissed me first and yes I reciprocated but I mean I definitely didn't start it. I'm annoyed tbh because I don't want to be with him but he messes my head up so much and I can't stand it. All of my friends agree that he seems to be very confused with who he is.

Now I'm just wondering, can alcohol really change your sexuality in a way? Or is it just buried so deep inside that it just brings it out?

I doubt I can even talk to him about this because he will probably just get angry, say he's completely straight and blame me for what happened.

all the alcohol would be doing is lowering his inhibitions, sounds to me that he is gay but that he dosent want to be gay and is burrying thoses feelings

[Abhorrence]

Thank you for all of the responses. I've decided that I'm just going to leave it because I've been working so hard to get us back to being mates again. I want no romantic connections to him, it was a wrong thing to do. If it ever happens again then I'll make sure to talk to him. I can't completely blame him, he initiated it but I didn't exactly try to stop it.

[SethfromMI]

just leaving it is not a bad idea. he could very well be in denial and alcohol allowed it to come back out. he could simply be confused and the alcohol allowed him to feel free to do whatever. with alcohol being a factor, I do not think you will be able to know for certain either way.
at the same time, if it happened again, then you get to a point where you can talk to him or at least set some ground rules between the two of you (not that you have to wait for a second time to do that). best of luck my friend :)

[DeadPoteto]

Yeah, leaving it would probably be best ...

[calebtwiggs]

just forget about it