ftm parents don't believe me

[vvcrownez]

Hi there. I've been openly transgender with family and friends for 3 years. I've been open in school for 1 yr. I'm asking for help because I need more advice. I've already tried to explain to my parents my gender. They want me to re-explain and somehow the words won't come out. I found out when I was older, therefore making me "not trans." to them. I'm not a male stereotype so I can't be trans. It's a really simple feeling for me. Maybe i'm genderless? I don't want to be seen as female. I don't feel much with gender. But I want to be a guy, not a stereotype of one. I want to be able to live as one. I'd feel more comfortable. I hate my role given so much. I think my parents will never believe me.

Should I have hope my therapist will convince them so I get my transition earlier. Am I supposed to believe I'll have to suffer another year?

[James Dean]

Very proud that you are accepting yourself, that is the first step. Just acknowledging who you are and what your gender means to you. This is all part of transitioning as well. The second part is just the acceptance of it, I do have to agree with that.

I know it's hard for family to understand. You are speaking with a professional right now about these issues. That is also a great step, especially if you are transitioning. I don't think it's so much that they don't believe you, it's hard for them to relate and for them to see you transition. It might come off as them thinking your not being truthful or not aware of the situation. I do not think this is the case at all. Take your time with this, don't rush your transition at all. As I don't know the whole situation, I can't really say why they are acting this way. Anytime something new or unusual comes along, people don't know the right way to react.

Don't feel scared at all. Personal feelings of gender should be embraced. :)

[SethfromMI]

sometimes parents will deny it to the very end. hopefully eventually your parents can come to terms with it. you can try having your therapist help :)