How I'm coming out to parents

[Thunderstorm]

I've got everything set. My letter is finished, my confidence is ready, I am just ready to come out. But since I'm doing the "unconventional" way of coming out via letter, I do not know how to present it to them. I really want to just leave it for them before I go to school but they both work! They leave for work early. I don't know about putting it in their briefcases or how good of an idea that is. I don't really want to just hand it to them and wait for them to respond. What do I do? How do I present it?

[Noody]

I would refrain from leaving it in a place where only one of them may see it. If I were you I would write "Mum and Dad" on the front so that they know it's meant to be read whilst they are together, unless of course you don't want them reading it together. I don't think there is anything wrong with doing it via letter at all. The first 4-5 people I came out to I had to write something like "I'm not interested in girls" on my phone and then show that to them, I couldn't even say the words myself.
In my opinion the main thing is that you are ready, which judging by your post you are. Do it when the time is right for you - We ant decide that for you unfortunately.

Good luck!

[Thunderstorm]

I would refrain from leaving it in a place where only one of them may see it. If I were you I would write "Mum and Dad" on the front so that they know it's meant to be read whilst they are together, unless of course you don't want them reading it together. I don't think there is anything wrong with doing it via letter at all. The first 4-5 people I came out to I had to write something like "I'm not interested in girls" on my phone and then show that to them, I couldn't even say the words myself.
In my opinion the main thing is that you are ready, which judging by your post you are. Do it when the time is right for you - We ant decide that for you unfortunately.

Good luck!

I think I'm ready. I already have it made out to both of them just don't know when to give it. Thanks for the advice though!

[Princess4Life]

There's no "wrong way" of presenting it to them. Any way you tell them is the right way. Hope it goes well!!

[Thunderstorm]

There's no "wrong way" of presenting it to them. Any way you tell them is the right way. Hope it goes well!!

Thanks! Do you think I could email the letter, since they both work long days and it might be hard to sit them both down at once?

[Princess4Life]

Thanks! Do you think I could email the letter, since they both work long days and it might be hard to sit them both down at once?

Yup email works. You could even tell them in person. Like during dinner or something!

[Zachary G]

One time they are guaranteed to be together is when they goto bed, so you could always leave it in their bedroom on the pillows so they will see it when they get ready for bed. Im just sayin...

[Thunderstorm]

One time they are guaranteed to be together is when they goto bed, so you could always leave it in their bedroom on the pillows so they will see it when they get ready for bed. Im just sayin...

I was thinking about that...but I don't think they will want to read it when they are going to sleep. Besides, they go to sleep at different times.

[Zachary G]

I was thinking about that...but I don't think they will want to read it when they are going to sleep. Besides, they go to sleep at different times.

have you considered writing 2 notes, one for each of them and leaving it where they will find them and then dealing with them individually? that might be another easy way to do it.

[Thunderstorm]

have you considered writing 2 notes, one for each of them and leaving it where they will find them and then dealing with them individually? that might be another easy way to do it.

Maybe...but I typed the letter and addressed it to both of them. Maybe just print a second copy? I think two individual letters that say different things is a bit much.

[SethfromMI]

wait do they live in the same house as you? yea I would make a copy of the same letter and try to put it where you think is best if you do not think they will ever be able to read it at the same time. you know your parents better than we do and you know their schedules better

best of luck to you

[Whight]

First off: Good luck! I hope it goes off well.

Secondly, I think you should either end it to them before you and them go to bed. Or before you both leave the house in the morning.
That way ,there's a bit of time for them to process it properly.

[Thunderstorm]

First off: Good luck! I hope it goes off well.

Secondly, I think you should either end it to them before you and them go to bed. Or before you both leave the house in the morning.
That way ,there's a bit of time for them to process it properly.

The only way I can give it before school is if I put it in their briefcases. What do you think of that?

[Zachary G]

Maybe...but I typed the letter and addressed it to both of them. Maybe just print a second copy? I think two individual letters that say different things is a bit much.

they dont have to say different things, they can say the same thing.

[thetransylvanianguy]

You can put the letter in the mailbox. Or even send it to your parents,by post.

[Thunderstorm]

You can put the letter in the mailbox. Or even send it to your parents,by post.

Hm good idea but my parents take the mail in right when they get home and they might not want to read it then.

[thetransylvanianguy]

Ah. Could you try to....tell them personally,in a weekend? Or to leave a sticky note somewhere where your parents are most likely to be. Or a sheet written by you. There are plenty of ways to come out.

[Whight]

Maybe you should just make up a giant poster and hang it across from their bedroom door, so it'll be the first thing they see in the morning.

And then just write "so... I'm gay. ^_^.
Talk to me if you want".

And then just avail yourself to their mass of questions.

[Thunderstorm]

Maybe you should just make up a giant poster and hang it across from their bedroom door, so it'll be the first thing they see in the morning.

And then just write "so... I'm gay. ^_^.
Talk to me if you want".

And then just avail yourself to their mass of questions.

Haha that's kind of comical but that may be a bit much for them. I'll see.

[Whight]

Haha that's kind of comical but that may be a bit much for them. I'll see.

Well, maybe tell us a bit about your parents. It really depends on what kind of people they are.

[Thunderstorm]

Well, maybe tell us a bit about your parents. It really depends on what kind of people they are.

Tired, cranky when they get home from work, happier in the evening but don't want to be bothered when going to sleep. Mom has strong opinions and dad is very reserved.

[Straya]

Tired, cranky when they get home from work, happier in the evening but don't want to be bothered when going to sleep. Mom has strong opinions and dad is very reserved.

honestly theres no real good time to do it. if i was you id just hand them the letter or if just ones home hand it to them and say read it together when the other one is home as your walking out the door. you will never work out the perfect time to give it to them so you might as well just do it the next time you see them

[Whight]

Tired, cranky when they get home from work, happier in the evening but don't want to be bothered when going to sleep. Mom has strong opinions and dad is very reserved.

I suppose the best way is probably the weekend then. Just sit them down, say it short and to the point and then let them ask you questions.

[Thunderstorm]

honestly theres no real good time to do it. if i was you id just hand them the letter or if just ones home hand it to them and say read it together when the other one is home as your walking out the door. you will never work out the perfect time to give it to them so you might as well just do it the next time you see them

I suppose the best way is probably the weekend then. Just sit them down, say it short and to the point and then let them ask you questions.

I was thinking I would just have to do it anytime, but tomorrow I'm babysitting, so I'm going to leave it for them then and when I come home they can talk to me.

[Whight]

I was thinking I would just have to do it anytime, but tomorrow I'm babysitting, so I'm going to leave it for them then and when I come home they can talk to me.

Good luck. Talk to me later if you want.

Hopefully i'll be at 100 posts by then ;)

[Thunderstorm]

Good luck. Talk to me later if you want.

Hopefully i'll be at 100 posts by then ;)

Thanks!

You're at 100, congrats! :yeah:

[Whight]

Thanks!

You're at 100, congrats! :yeah:

So, did you leave them the note?

[Thunderstorm]

So, did you leave them the note?

Yeah...long story short, they think I'm too young and inexperienced to decide. However, they said if I am, they will love me no less. Will it forever bother them? Yes. Will they be upset that they will not have grandchildren? Yes. But they will still love me.

[Princess4Life]

Yeah...long story short, they think I'm too young and inexperienced to decide. However, they said if I am, they will love me no less. Will it forever bother them? Yes. Will they be upset that they will not have grandchildren? Yes. But they will still love me.

Good job!! I knew they would be understanding!! :D

[gads]

Well glad that you have supportive parents. :)