New year, new me. What to include when coming out to people.

[Noody]

So, I've decided that tomorrow night, an hour before the new year - I am going to open up to my friends, family and everyone I know that I am gay. I've thought about this for a long time, and I'm just going to go for it. If it goes bad, I'm at a friends house with lots of alcohol :P If it goes well, I'm at a friends house with lots of alcohol... Either way, the end result will be the same. I'm going to be able to be myself, and I'm going to be very drunk. Luckily, the latter is temporary.

I'm having a dilemma though. The plan is to tell my parents at around 7PM before I go to my friends house for New Year, this will give me enough time to tell them, let them ask me whatever they want and get all the emotional stuff over with. At 11:30PM, a status will be automatically posted to my Facebook wall (scheduled by moi, advantage of knowing how to code) saying what a good year it is, also what a stressful year it has been, and that I am not interested in women.

The dilemma is, I'm not confident I have included everything I want people to see when they read it. I've included that I am still me, that a lot of people may see if as a suprise due to stereotypes, that hassling me will make no difference to me - just a waste of their time and thanking people who have supported me this year. The status seems really negaive, but I can't think of anything to put in the status that will make it more positive.

Please help, I have literally 23 hours :p

Thanks a lot in advance --Noody

[Foamy]

1st off, I commend you for wanting to do this. However, I feel that you might be doing a lot in a short amount of time. First the parents, and then basically everyone else at a party not too long after? I question it just a little bit, but in the end its up to you how you'd like to do it.

Now to answer your question, everything that you've listed seems like it would be enough to get your point across. Theres probably going to be a number of comments or private messages asking you a million and one questions. And my suggestion for that is to not open or answer any of it until the next morning, seeing as you're going to be drinking (I'm assuming).

With that said, I wish you the best of luck, and I hope everything goes well! :D

[SethfromMI]

you listed some great stuff. be willing to share as much as you want to or do not share what you don't. but obviously if you are going to tell so many people, it may be best to be willing to answer the questions which may come your way

[Noody]

Thank you, Justin and Seth for your replies. It means a lot to me :)

Justin, Thank you for your kind words, it has taken a lot of thinking time and emotional stress to get to this stage - I am so happy that I feel I can do it now. There's no questioning that I am doing a huge amount in a very short period of time. This is mainly due to the fact that I want people to find out from me. Not from rumours or anything of the sort. Another factor is that I have mainly held back from going public with this because of how my family may react. I have no reason to think they would react in a very negative way, but there is always that thought in the back of my head - Guess well find out!
I hope that it will be enough to get my point across, but I am prepared for the barrage of private messages and inboxes. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it :p Thanks for the suggestion, sounds like a good idea seeing as I will be drinking. Thank you for the kind words, once again!

Seth, thanks for your input too. As mentioned above, I need to see how many questions I get and what sort of questions they are before I start to contemplate them.

I'll post back here after New Years to let you know how it went. Have a great new year!:)

[TheLoneWolf]

So, tell us!
How did it go?

[Noody]

To anyone reading this thinking 'Oh yeah that sounds like an awesome idea'.. Do not do this.

The amount of support I have had is amazing - People I thought would be against it by all means have actually messages me saying how 'brave it is of me' and how they will support me - Along with having loads of likes and comments saying how much people will support me.

This is all well and good until I got to my parents. Unfortunately the plan of telling my parents at 7 went to shit, and I ended up telling them 2 minutes to midnight whilst I was outrageously drunk. Long story short, they didn't really find out through me, which is unacceptable by all means. I didn't anticipate to get drunk so fast, and that was my fatal flaw in this.

They are now upset that I didn't tell them face to face or in writing, and be the first people to know. They feel that because I didn't tell them first, it means that our relationship is not as strong as they originally thought - I agree with them, it was a stupid and reckless way to let people know.

On a more positive note, I've done it - Which is the main thing. My parents will get over it eventually, and I will have achieved what I set out to do - Not exactly in the way I wanted it to happen and how it should have happened, but the ending is the same, which I am very happy about.
If I could do this all again with the knowledge I have now, I would write a letter to both of them explaining my situation well before I told everyone else..

Thank you for all the support, it means so much <3

-- Noody

[Foamy]

I'm glad (mostly) everything went smoothly (for the most part). Your parents will come around, as you said they're only mad that you didn't tell them first. But again, good for you that you did it! ^.^

[Pablo]

Congrats! It's great that you went through with it.