How do I help a guy who cuts?

[Sam-9876]

So I was talking (just talking) to a guy on snapchat, next thing I know he sends me a photo of his arm with the caption "I'm so pissed off" and a whole line of cuts up it.

Should I block him, or will that make it worse for him? What do I say to help? I don't even really know the guy...

[CosmicNoodle]

Sounds like he's an attention seeking bitch, I'd block him, people who cut out of genuine problems don't so spreading it around and put pictures on social media, people who do crap like that are just attention seekers.

[Fiction]

I have to agree with the person above me. No doubt there's some issue going on for him to want that attention but someone like that will do anything for attention, and when you don't give them it they will punish you for it by making you feel guilty. Block him before he becomes dependent on the attention you give him.

[Sam-9876]

I have to agree with the person above me. No doubt there's some issue going on for him to want that attention but someone like that will do anything for attention, and when you don't give them it they will punish you for it by making you feel guilty. Block him before he becomes dependent on the attention you give him.

Thanks, I blocked him.

[SethfromMI]

I guess I do not blame you for blocking him. someone who cuts really needs professional help anyways. I do not mean that in a mean way, they just need someone who is professionally trained to deal with that

[Rayquaza]

I wouldn't have blocked him that quickly. If a guy does that he clearly wants the attention for something and it seems more like a cry for help. I don't agree that he isn't asking for genuine help just because he's showed you, and I think it's wrong to jump to that conclusion.

I guess I do not blame you for blocking him. someone who cuts really needs professional help anyways. I do not mean that in a mean way, they just need someone who is professionally trained to deal with that

Um, no they don't. Someone who cuts can be eased out of self harming just by having someone to talk to. Going with the attitude that you need to have help from a professional to recover is incorrect because people have quit other addictions such as smoking through just talking to their friends and having social support.

I think blocking him was way too quick to come to that sort of judgement. If it was a one off he was more likely to ask for advice and support and help. It's only really considered attention seeking if it's constant, and it seems like you guys had so much trust (or, at least on his half) that he'd trust you showing something like that. It was more of a disclaimer if anything.

[SethfromMI]

I wouldn't have blocked him that quickly. If a guy does that he clearly wants the attention for something and it seems more like a cry for help. I don't agree that he isn't asking for genuine help just because he's showed you, and I think it's wrong to jump to that conclusion.



Um, no they don't. Someone who cuts can be eased out of self harming just by having someone to talk to. Going with the attitude that you need to have help from a professional to recover is incorrect because people have quit other addictions such as smoking through just talking to their friends and having social support.

I think blocking him was way too quick to come to that sort of judgement. If it was a one off he was more likely to ask for advice and support and help. It's only really considered attention seeking if it's constant, and it seems like you guys had so much trust (or, at least on his half) that he'd trust you showing something like that. It was more of a disclaimer if anything.

maybe sometimes, but many times they have some type of problem behind the issue, which many people who are not professionally trained to deal with or trained to do some type of counseling would not think of.

[Abhorrence]

maybe sometimes, but many times they have some type of problem behind the issue, which many people who are not professionally trained to deal with or trained to do some type of counseling would not think of.

I agree, I never would have even began to stop self-harming without professional help. Having someone to talk to isn't gonna help a lot of people.

[Sam-9876]

I think blocking him was way too quick to come to that sort of judgement. If it was a one off he was more likely to ask for advice and support and help. It's only really considered attention seeking if it's constant, and it seems like you guys had so much trust (or, at least on his half) that he'd trust you showing something like that. It was more of a disclaimer if anything.

I didn't even know the guy, so I don't know how you can say we had trust.

I didn't want to make whatever situation he was in worse, but I knew that I couldn't really help him myself, as I wouldn't know what to do or say.

Blocking him seemed the right thing to do based on the advice from here.

[Meh Guy]

Sounds like he's an attention seeking bitch, I'd block him, people who cut out of genuine problems don't so spreading it around and put pictures on social media, people who do crap like that are just attention seekers.

This is pretty much the truth.

[amybah]

I wont judge him
Well, in this case i think that he is just looking for attention, but maybe he has his reasons. I dont know...
You can try talk to him and try to understand what is going on

Sorry for the mistakes, but im portuguese :)
Good luck!