Gay men more feminine?

[TroyH]

A lot of people seem to assume that gay guys are more feminine than straight men. The same is true of homosexual women and being thought of as masculine. Do you guys think this a fair stereotype? Or is it completely off the mark?

I think its totally false, especially of women. That is I know a lot of masculine women who are completely straight. I'm bi and almost feel like I should act more feminine especially around all females because of this stereotype but I don't really at all because that's just not the way I am.

[Karkat]

I agree with you that the stereotype is false. I mean, it's just that- a stereotype.

[James Dean]

I think some people define their sexual identity in different ways. The same as the way people want the world to view them as. Usually different groups and subgroups mingle within themselves and shine more. While the other types we don't know hide, and some even like it like that and prefer it. Myself, I have my feminine and masculine moments. I love being a guy, but I do like very girly things. I don't know.

This is a very interesting topic you brought up. I guess the answer will forever be unknown to us. Society for the most part is ignorant to us to this day. It is progressively getting better so yeah. :)

Ren said it right, stereotypes are just plainly that.

[Elysium]

There seems to be an assumption in our culture that being attracted to men is emasculating and being attracted to women is defeminizing, which I think is just a silly expectation or stereotype. It's definitely not true of everyone. Everyone's an individual.

[Straya]

A lot of people seem to assume that gay guys are more feminine than straight men. The same is true of homosexual women and being thought of as masculine. Do you guys think this a fair stereotype? Or is it completely off the mark?

I think its totally false, especially of women. That is I know a lot of masculine women who are completely straight. I'm bi and almost feel like I should act more feminine especially around all females because of this stereotype but I don't really at all because that's just not the way I am.

i think its mostly wrong 99% of the gay guys i know are more masculine than some of the sgtraight guys i now

[CosmicNoodle]

I agree with you that the stereotype is false. I mean, it's just that- a stereotype.
Very false stereotype

I may only be Bi sonim not sure if I carry any weight in this thread, but,
Someone recently found out I was Bi and said "no way, your like the straightest guy I've ever met", so no, the stereotype doesn't ring true.

[Zachary G]

Gay stereotypes are everywhere. They target #gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, transsexuals, and transgender people. Like all stereotypes, they hurt. I'm definitely not judging anyone; what you believe is what you believe, and I'm completely all right with that. We don't have to agree with each other to respect each other.

One prevalent gay stereotype is that there's no diversity, at all. All #gay men like to wear leather, rainbows, or eyeliner, and all lesbians like to wear plaid and mullets, while all bisexuals are greedy and all trans* individuals are just confused.

[Hudor]

I wouldn't say it's completely off the mark but I wouldn't say it is true either. As Ren said they are stereotypes. But tbh i use various stereotypes to identify gay people. Like gay guys are generally soft-spoken, more feminine etc. However that doesn't turn out to be true always. I know of many exceptions which further proves the stereotypes are false.

[Lovelife090994]

Not all the time. But in my area the open gay guys "as in they tell you" are usually very feminine. I have never met as masculine gay guy. I've met neutral lesbians, they were neither masculine nor feminine. I am gay and soft-spoken, shy, kinda girly but I don't dress girly (I can't at the moment). I am usually neutral on gender for myself. Stereotypes are not true but all have a small element of truth.

[SethfromMI]

as a bi guy, you would never know I was bi unless I told you so.

[Whight]

I'm gay and I don't think it's anything you can tell by looking at me or my behavior. I don't think I do anything feminine by nature.
Same goes for my bf. He's even more so since he's always getting hit on by girls and he usually flirts back. He's also a huge sports lover, of all sorts.