Despite being gay,I still date girls...

[thetransylvanianguy]

Well,let's begin my story. I am a teen living in a Central European country (Romania). Ever since I was 12,I have been aware of my sexual orientation. Initially,I denied it. Back then,I thought it just.....cannot happen to me. Everyone was talking about girls in a specific way (something between romantic and sexual). Every day,I became more and more aware that girls cannot attract me. This summer,I have realised that I am not what I pretend to be...and after I have begun a new school-year,this autumn,rumours have been spreading around my classmates. Numberless attempts of pretending to them that I am straight failed. And then,I started 'dating' girls (talking to them,telling them that I 'love' them and I 'want a relationship with them',etc.). While they may love me,I cannot. I can be a good friend to them,at most. Romania is (at least!) a conservative country regarding homosexuality. A few LGBT people are open,and,despite decriminalising and eventually legalising homosexuality more than a decade ago,non-heterosexual people are some of the most discriminated against people (the most discriminated people,after the people having AIDS).
Any kind of advice is welcome.
Also,please excuse possible grammatical mistakes,tense misuses,etc. I am not a native speaker of the English language.
PS:If this post has been put in a wrong section of the forum,apologies.

[Zachary G]

first off your english is very good. keep practicing.
second, you have to do what you must to keep yourself safe if you are living in an area where being gay is not widely accepted. Because you date the girls does not mean you have to have sex with the girls.

[thetransylvanianguy]

second, you have to do what you must to keep yourself safe if you are living in an area where being gay is not widely accepted. Because you date the girls does not mean you have to have sex with the girls. Or to emigrate to a more liberal country,like the UK. I do not plan living my whole life in Romania,although this solution cannot be applied too soon. It is such a pity that I am not able to speak to someone about homosexuality freely (no,not because of the law,Romania does not have a law similar to Russia's. Actually,the country where I live has some of the best anti-discrimination laws protecting LGBT people in the European Union,but these are rarely,if ever enforced.) without risking to be treated like a second-class citizen.
You said....having sex with the girls? No,that'd be impossible;the girl would usually acknowledge my sexual orientation...

[SethfromMI]

it is not uncommon for people in your situation to do that

[Zachary G]

Or to emigrate to a more liberal country,like the UK. I do not plan living my whole life in Romania,although this solution cannot be applied too soon. It is such a pity that I am not able to speak to someone about homosexuality freely (no,not because of the law,Romania does not have a law similar to Russia's. Actually,the country where I live has some of the best anti-discrimination laws protecting LGBT people in the European Union,but these are rarely,if ever enforced.) without risking to be treated like a second-class citizen.
You said....having sex with the girls? No,that'd be impossible;the girl would usually acknowledge my sexual orientation...

well, you have to do what you have to do. there are others like you in similar situations, so you are not alone.

[Jack-Han]

Stop dating girls if you don't feel right doing it! you can't change who you are.. :/

[Straya]

Well,let's begin my story. I am a teen living in a Central European country (Romania). Ever since I was 12,I have been aware of my sexual orientation. Initially,I denied it. Back then,I thought it just.....cannot happen to me. Everyone was talking about girls in a specific way (something between romantic and sexual). Every day,I became more and more aware that girls cannot attract me. This summer,I have realised that I am not what I pretend to be...and after I have begun a new school-year,this autumn,rumours have been spreading around my classmates. Numberless attempts of pretending to them that I am straight failed. And then,I started 'dating' girls (talking to them,telling them that I 'love' them and I 'want a relationship with them',etc.). While they may love me,I cannot. I can be a good friend to them,at most. Romania is (at least!) a conservative country regarding homosexuality. A few LGBT people are open,and,despite decriminalising and eventually legalising homosexuality more than a decade ago,non-heterosexual people are some of the most discriminated against people (the most discriminated people,after the people having AIDS).
Any kind of advice is welcome.
Also,please excuse possible grammatical mistakes,tense misuses,etc. I am not a native speaker of the English language.
PS:If this post has been put in a wrong section of the forum,apologies.

first off your english is very good. keep practicing.
second, you have to do what you must to keep yourself safe if you are living in an area where being gay is not widely accepted. Because you date the girls does not mean you have to have sex with the girls.

Stop dating girls if you don't feel right doing it! you can't change who you are.. :/

i agree id stop dating the girls because well your kinda leading them on when your not really looking for a relationship with them and its not fair and for now while your still living in romania id say do what is in the best interests for you. if people arnt vewry tolerant about your sexuality then i wouldnt come out to them.